Parents

Okay, so I honestly feel that I'm in love with my boyfriend. But my parents absolutely despise him for no reason. They never even made an attempt to like him, and on top of that they only met him once. Actually I don't think my father ever met him, and he's the one who hates him the most. I don't know what to do to change their minds, and I'm not willing to lose him...

If he loves you as much as you love him, you wont lose him. But your parents not liking him is not up to you to fix; it's up to them. There is nothing YOU can do to change their minds. If your boyfriend met them already, he must have made a bad impression. If so, he should try again. If that isnt the case, it just looks like your parents aren't putting in the effort to even know him. It's not right, but it happens eh. So, how did the first encounter with your parents and bf go?

They didn't like him before they met him, I don't know why. So the first impression sucked, as expected. At least with my mother. My father didn't make an effort. I don't think he even came out to meet him. I'm not afraid of losing him, I just know he should have more than someone he can't see or talk to... My parents won't give him another chance, They won't even meet him again.

I'm 17... does my profile say 18? I don't know... But family is very important to me and I need them to like him. I can't see him otherwise...

Well you should be 18 soon enough right? And as Bob stated, you will be an adult; and your parents opinion will not be needed. You should just live your life for you. Dont worry about their approval. Or you'll never be happy. Sooner or later, they will come around. You are their daughter.

I think there is a lot of parents who go through this, especially with daughters.

i think you just need to give them time, just try and make the effort with your boyfriend to show respect the next couple of months, dont push your luck or anything, just be respectful and polite..... if they still dont like him when you turn 18 then its your life and they should support that xx

Another thought...can you not sit down with them and talk to them? or write thema letter? explain how you feel and that you would like to understand why they dont like him?

and just out of curiosity, do they like you being with any boys... or do they just not like him? xx

I agree Britt, though I have to add, it might not be the guy at all, it could be her, past choices, mistakes she has made repeatedly so they have just given up and think she isn't going to pick the right kind of guy. (according to them) Just a peek at the blurb she writes about herself it feels like there is more going on than is being alluded to.

Honestly I have tried to talk to them. In my family talking settles nothing, it ends in screaming fits and arguements. They have liked past boyfriends, but not him. I don't know why, they won't give any reason. And I have made past mistakes, but not with boyfriends. Typically I'm pretty good with that.

Hmm, so it isn't the fact that you have a boyfriend that bothers them. They just don't like the guy in general. Well, parents usually see things that we don't see. You should just sit down and talk to them and TRY not to scream/yell at them. Ask them their reasons.

This is like a Romeo/Juliet kinda thing, lol. I say, at the end, love conquers all...

^ lmao.

Well, I'm hoping that it won't turn out THAT way!!

Lol. That was a pretty good one.

Well, I must hope that it won't end that way. I figure I have to make mistakes either way, and I would prefer to be happy making them. Thanks for all your help guys.