Struggle with Karma

Okay guys/gurls....i need a lil help with this one....i'm in a relationship and some months ago this guy hit on me. Previously my boyf told him that we were dating. This guy still advanced on me. I told him I was in a relationship. i gave him a fake number so he could be on his way...that was the weekend...when I came baack to school...that boy was there!!!! I didn't know we went to the same school!!!!! So i'm trying to prevent my boyfriend and this dude fighting...this guy keeps advancing on me, tryna follow me to class and i don't know how to say FU** off! i'm just not rude like that and my boyfriend's getting mad. This boy keep talking shit to me and it's getting worse...the tension...and at times i'm just getting fed up with this boy cuz he persistent and i just think he tryna start something with me so he can make a fool of my boyfriend...so what kinda trouble am i in now...????

God, seriously by the amount of relationship problems you have posted in the last week i think you should give up on a sex life and go and become a nun

Ha.

Hahaha very funny...anyway i'm not talking about a sex life....i have issues like the next person....and a nun is just not my style...but you would look nice being a buddhist....

Nv i've been saying that for the longest...but when i try to put it in a nice way it's like i guess he still doesn't get it....?

First telling off someone who is invading your personal space and infringing on your relationship should be easy if it is important to you. What has he done that is nice to you? Sometimes it is just necessary to pull out your words, nice or not and make your point 100% clear. Pussyfooting around will do nothing for you.

^ Well said. I couldn't have said it better myself. This part especially, "if it is important to you", stuck out for me. If he and your relationship is important to you then you're going to have to release your inner Hyde, lol! ;)

Lol...yeah ugh....it's true...you're right...

If trying to talk about it maturely with this other guy isn't going anywhere, then you're going to have to tap out and put down the 'nice', pick up and strap on some 'ugly', lol.

^ Oh my, I missed that part.

Giving someone your number, regardless of whether it was fake or not, indeed does send mixed signals (and not just to this guy but to your boyfriend as well). After telling him that you have a boyfriend and are in a relationship I don't honestly believe that the only way to get this guy off your back was to lead him on with a false number, you could have just easily ignored him or walked away. I'm sure he would have taken the hint. Maybe he would think you are a snob or even call you a nasty name. And if you did, or do, cuss him out, maybe he'd think your rude. But, why would you care? It's not like he's a friend and not like you'll loose anything when he no longer pursues you.

I do go to school for my education and nothing else. I ask questions about things like this not only for my benefit...it's to see what people think....to get people opinions....and i'm more mature then you know. I'm more of a peacemaker than anything. It seems like your brain can't determine the meaning of issue or problems and if you are getting tired of my threads don't get on it....

But that's thing Liz like I believe if I was rude or whatever than he would still try to mess with me....it's been happening every since last summer and it keeps going on no matter how I try to handle it.

Let the boys fight, sometimes a good scuffle is all a guy is REALLY looking for. Violence is never the best answear, but sometimes its the right one

Giving out numbers, fake or not, does tend to send mixed signals like others have said, just don't give guys a number at all and tell them you have a boyfriend, you are not interested and you don't give your number out, it's that simple on that topic really. And giving his a fake number when he thought it was yours...yeah, that tends to just feed the problem because he's going to get his feathers and pride ruffled over it.

And really, you're boyfriend has every right to be getting pissed and not letting him handle it and not actually being forceful to make it stop is just going to make him more pissed and lead to him getting jealous and unsure about how serious you are about him, at least thats my take on how it works.

No matter how nice or how much of a peacemaker you prefer being if this relationship matters to you then you gotta step up and forget being nice. Get angry. Tell him off and don't do it nicely. Tell him to F off. How would you handle it if it was some girl doing this to your guy? You'd get pissed and take care of it, same thing applies here if being nice hasn't worked. You'll end up in a bigger mess and possibly losing your boyfriend if you keep doing things the way you are now. It's your choice.

Lol Spc i don't think that letting them fight is the best answer...but i do have to fix the mistakes that i've made so far.