Can you fall in love to a person who have disabilities???

>>> just want to know, coz im a disable person. i lost my ability to walk due to over fatigue because of playing soccer and basketball at the same time. i got also a surgery at my back at my spinal column. i just posted this topic, to let me know if there is still a person who is willing to share his/her lives to a person who have disabilities... thanks for the message you can gave to me... i hope you posted your best answer here..

>>>you can message me personally...

Ofcourse its possible. True love is loving someone for who they are and dispite physical or other types of disabilities or differences. People who wouldnt give someone a chance because they're disabled are just close minded.

Likewise if the disabled person pushes everyone away and says that they'll never find love they will be much more hindered. What you put out the world is what you recieve. Negativity begets negativity. Ultimatley good things take time to come and effort to last by both sides.

That's my personal opinion.

Thanks for that.. you know what im afraid. because of the topic i posted. maybe the moderators will be banned it, hopefully it would not.

thanks for that girl, im happy that somebody still have the courage to love despite of that... thanks again, i hope to see a girl like you... ^_^

I dont see why they would but I dont know all the rules.

And no problem its the truth for many people would think this way but more people are ruled by others opinions of them, especially at younger ages so that might be a factor.

I agree with Classy Lies with everything she's said, except for this statement: "People who wouldnt give someone a chance because they're disabled are just close minded." Although I can see what you're saying. If some guy or girl, and I'm sure there have been and are, began to say nasty things to or about someone (a stranger, their friend or bf/gf) with a disability about their disability I would definitely think they are close-minded, not to mention a jerk. However, I don't think you can call someone close-minded just because they don't want to be with someone with a disability. As hard as it might be to imagine, it's not completely incomprehensible (as I will explain further in my next paragraph). Take a look at Britt's response. Is she close-minded? I don't think so. At least she's honest about it with herself and, undoubtedly, would be with the person. That's the best thing anyone can be with another person.

I understand what you're trying to say Britt. It would be hard for anyone to be with another person with a disability of some kind, whether you met them and they were already disabled or while with you for some reason they become disabled, hell it's hard for that person who is or has become disabled too. It takes a lot of patience, understanding, support, adjusting and time from and for BOTH people. Like CL said, if a disabled person pushes people away; gets the idea into their head that they will never find love or no one could ever love them, then that is exactly what they'll find.

However, that's not to say that it would be "impossible". It is definitely possible. Why wouldn't it be? True love does not discriminate against race, sex, religion or physical, or any other types of, disabilities or differences.

If I met someone with a disability, got to know them as a friend and started to grow feelings for them more than as a friend, there is no doubt that I would give us a chance. But like I said, it would take a lot a patience, understanding, support, adjusting and time for the both of us. If my partner suddenly became disabled because of an accident or another trauma of some kind, I would do everything I could to take care of him and to help him to adjust. It would take patience, understand, support, adjusting and time for the both of us, but we would persevere through the hard times together. My love for him would never change.

I have a best friend who is disabled. She lost her ability to walk when she was seven. She's now nineteen, the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, and dating my brother! Definitely not impossible, it's all about comfortability, which is why you'll most likely date someone who is a good friend to you first.

Thanks to all of you.. honestly its hard for me to overcome what i have now... i am a engineer student hopefully to be graduate dis year. a very hard course but i have a big heart ti finished it. sometimes i think that i am a useless one because of my situation. i hope i find someone to complete me... thank to you, brill, elizabeth, forevertobeart and classy...

I think all people deserve to be loved. it shouldn't matter if they are disable or not. My cousin is paralyzed as a result from a motorcycle accident 5 years ago. He has found a girl who loves him for him. to her it doesn't matter if he is in a wheelchair or not, she loves him either way. They have been together almost two years and are very happy.

So there is hope for you. don't give up. your special someone is out there.

Thanks for the courage jamie, i hope i found someone like you cousin... :(

Your welcome everyone needs to know what love feels like

Yah your right jamie... i hope that someday i may feel the same way too...

Of course you will find someone. Being in a wheelchair has nothing to do with personality, honesty, trust, nor love. Having a disability has nothing to do with any of those things. You will find someone who loves you for you.
If you ever need to talk further, feel free to PM me anytime.
Good luck!

Congratulations lonelyrider! What kind of engineering did you go for? My partner is a power engineering student and he'll be graduating this year too, he even sent in an application for a job at SaskPower in his home town and is expecting to get on this June. We're both very excited.

"sometimes i think that i am a useless one because of my situation."

^ I couldn't image what it would be like, but one thing I do know is you are NOT useless. You ARE able. You're going to be an engineer for crying out loud, that is an accomplishment.

And someday you will find someone who can see you they that we see you.

ELIZABETH, i am a ELECTRONICS COMMUNICATION ENGINEERING.. i cant used my course because of my situation.. ECE is a field work elizabeth..

It is definately possible to fall in love with a disabled person. It's about what's on the inside, not the outside.