15 an pregnant...

Well,
I am Kathleen and I am currently 15 and pregnant...I am now 5 months pregnant I am asking and praying for someone out there to post here saying they have been through this...I need to talk to someone who understands if you do can you please PM me?

Thanks,
Kathleen

Have you thought about adoption or abortion? its ok im sure there is people out there that will help you through this, if you need any advice or anything like that you can come to me, by the way my name is Parish-Micheal

What for? i agree but we can help too!! she might know some people on this site and stuff.....i dont think this is the right place but maybe she has no other options website wise and came here. alot of people have helped me for things not writting related....i dunno just throwing my two cents in

I'm glad she mentioned it!
I don't think anyone is upset by her post.

Oh My! i agree!!

I say make your own nchoice. If it was me, I wouldn't give it up for adoption. ;) And abortion...? Who said anything about it? That word doesn't exist. :)
People are unique. Livestyles too.
What one can't, maybe you can.
Maybe what others can, you can't.
Only time will tell!
Please keep me updated sweetie.

This isnt about ethics people, try to be open and help...ALL options!!

Have you ever noticed that the people who don't plan on being pregnant are always the ones who do and that the people who plan and try to have children often have a large difficulty?

^ exactly... the irony in it!

To the original poster, what exactly is your situation? I mean your parents... the baby's father... yourself... the circumstances, and what are your thoughts about it until now? that would help us understand and post something more clear and helpful for you.

Hey! we need to think of ALL options, maybe that is best for everyone...MAYBE ITS NOT! lets be open and try to help instead of arguing like children!! lets help, my friend just went through all of this sooooo

Wow im not the target here, why add to it, just throw out suggestions, ABORTION, ADOPTION, KEEP IT, those are really the only three, if she doesnt abort it, she could keep t, or put it up for adoption, its all up to her, she needs to just sit back and think all of this through, its not her fault, no one is blaming her, but you should tell her about how churches can help her, things like that, all options, where to get information, maybe groups, planned parenthood, a healthy diet for pregnancy, things like this!!!

Abortion is not an option at 5 months, so there are 2 options, keeping it or adoption. There are plenty of sites out there with info, this is a poetry site.

Actually, I think beezy may be right. I mean how many couples actually plan to have a child? Sure they say they like to have children one day, but that doesn't mean that every time they had sex it was for the purpose of having a child. If your parents told you that you were planned, they're probably lying.

I dont know. anymore

I don't think you get what I'm saying. You can be financially ready for a child and still not plan for it. A couple has sex at a rock concert (or whatever that cliche story of how you were born is), and get pregnant and then pretend like they planned for it, but they didn't. Pregnancies aren't planned as much as people say/think they are.

That's definitely not the only reason you're weird. ;)

You might be willing to step in and help your daughter take care of the baby, but a lot of parents aren't. They've already had children, they don't want something else to take care of. Of course they would love their grand child unconditionally, but it's about teaching their child about responsibility. If you can't take care of a baby, don't have sex. You can't just pawn it off to your parents, hoping they'll help out. That's not how it works, or rather that's not how it should work.

I agree!!

^ I watched Teen Mom too, and that young teenage girl Farrahh made me shake me head in disbelief... The best part was when she went with her friends to hang out with this guy she just met and his friends at his appartment. He asked what time she had to be home (because he knew she had a baby), she said whenever she wanted to be, and he basically asked her didn't she have any, or feel she had any, responsibility to be home with, for, her baby. Naturally, she left in a huff and went on about how he was a dead beat, blah, blah... Nonetheless, I started clapping on my end of the screen. It's about time someone brought her back down to reality, because her parents weren't doing a good job of that. She just lipped off to her parents and thought that they were always out to personally "attack" her. By the end of the series she still hadn't learned a damn thing. A damn shame if you ask me. As someone who is a parent now, she needs to grow up.

They wouldn't be suffering hardship if they hadn't had sex in the first place. If they feel they're responsible enough to have sex and get pregnant, they're responsible enough to take care of the baby by themselves, without their parents watching the baby all the time and having the parents pay for everything. If they're not able to do it themselves, perhaps they should think about adoption.

I know wat ur goin through and if u need help or any question id love to answer in any way.. i was 16 when i was preagant and a single mother and still am but i never regreat keepin him

My grandma got pregnant with my mom at 16, on purpose, so she and my grandpa could get married. I guess you could say my mom was planned, but it was more for the benefit of my grandparents to be able to do something they wanted to do not concerning a baby. My grandma didn't finish high school, and actually divorced my grandpa when my mom was 15 or so. My mom also got married young (18) and had me 2 months after she turned 20. My parents divorced just shy of their 10 year anniversary.

Quick question for the OP: Are you positive you're capable and ready to take care for a child? I'm assuming you're a freshman/sophmore in HS, so you've still got a few years of school left, not to mention college. Check out adoption. There are so many loving couples out there wanting a child to call their own...my dad & stepmom being one of them. At this point, you really only have two options: keep him/her, or put him/her up for adoption. You're still young. I know, I'm only a year older than you. But fifteen is really young to be raising a child. Go watch a few episodes of Teen Mom on MTV, I think.

Good luck in whatever decision you decide to make.

What ever u choose to do make sure u finish school so u can get a good job.
i know it will be hard if u go to school while pregant i did it my self and now im in my first year of college its hard but i have people to help me with my baby and i know i have to finish school so my baby can have a better live..

I hope u make a good choice about what ur going to do.
wish u the best cuz i know its not going to be easy

My baby is not being shuffled from to place from place the babys' daddy mom is takin care of him when im at school and he loves his grandma and when i go to work my room mate takes care of him.. my baby has as much of a heathly home with one perant as if he would with two.. and he gets to see his dad everyother day now he finally decided to be a father... and i dont think he could be happier than he is he has people who love him and a safe and loving home to live with his me..

i understand that u have some problems with the way i live my life and my baby but if u would just think about it im doin way better then most single mothers are and i will not give up tryin to do the best...

Indeed

Thank you Britt. 5 Months is pretty late for an abortion. Mello... why would you bring up such a sensitive suggestion on a forum post? What if she is against abortion? That would only make things worse.

Plus, I think she is looking for support. Not suggestions! I agree with the above post that has given actual pregnancy support groups.

But, you shouldn't worry. It will be OK. No matter what choice you make, adoption or to keep it. It is you decision! Listen to your family for guidance too.