Make up

How do you make up with your love one after a fight, disagreement, or arguement?

I've learned that it doesn't matter who was right or wrong. Just confront him (call him, go over to his house) and talk to him about the situation. Don't yell and just try to solve the problem. Don't make it any more bigger than it is.

Also, show them that you care and remind each other how much you love each other and why you're together. :)

I usually remind myself that, as Bad Romance says, it doesn't matter who's right, wrong or if either of us really were or not. I remind myself that we're not always going to get along or agree on the same things, it's normal. Also, I have (we have) an unwritten rule to never go to bed angry.

It's something I've taken upon myself after seeing how my mother ~use~ to deal with her anger, disagreements with my father and how she treated him. She would ignore him; refuse to talk to him, be in the same room as him, eat at the table with him and sleep in the same bed as him, for days. As far as I'm concerned, my father never deserved any of that. I don't see how he could. He's one of those guys who'd give you the shirt off his back, who'd never say anything bad about anyone, who wouldn't even hurt a fly (although if he wanted to or had to he could, he's by no mean "pushable"), who's a big pushover and who'd laugh at himself. He would make attempts to apologize (even if there weren't anything to apologize for, besides for being sorry ~they~ were fighting) or even simply just talk to her, but she would still ignore him until she had cooled down... two, three, four, five days later. She even ignored me once for four days; refusing to talk to me, be in the same room as me or eat at the table with me. Her reasoning: We were in the city. Her and my father were fighting at the time. She ignored him as usual, and as usual, my father tried talking to her. I told dad to stop at the Walmart, since school was starting soon and I needed some new school supplies. I asked and waited to see if either of them were going to come into the store with me but neither of them had any intentions of moving, so I went into Walmart myself to grab my supplies... And that's why my mother ignored me for four days...

Most of our disagreements (myself and my partner's) do not tend to last longer than 20 min. If we have a disagreement or we notice something is wrong we work through it together and like the adults we are; we sit down together, facing one another and talk about it (we do not ignore one another). When we talk we try not to raise our voices over one another's, we listen to what the other has to say and we make sure we are as respectful to each other as we are at any other time. We also never walk out on one another, if we ever need to just be alone and go out we tell each other that we are, what we'll be doing and where we are going. It would be horrible if he just walked out without telling me and something happened to him and I didn't know about it, or vise versa.