Getting Aressted

How will i get my moms trust back after this?

Yeah, my life is sucking right now. i seem like an exageratter but im nott.

i got arrested yesterday for something i didnt do. i was with like 4 guy friends 3 girls at a pool. and me and my friend stopped 4 like 5 minutes to say hey cause we knew em. and they were all drinking. and after being there for 5 minutes we were getting up to leave and the cops came. they came in and were like "yall are under arrest for underage drinking and posetion of alcohol." then they put us all in handcuffs and had us all up against like 6 cop cars. they wouldnt even give me a breath test to prove i wasnt drinking.

so now i have a court date, i have to pay a $200 ticket, i might have to go to juvie for 30 days, im on probation, i have to go to alcohol classes, and im getting kicked outa my school and put into an "alternative" school.

Although it's harsh, I agree.
When you realised they were drinking you should've moved away and finished what you were doing since you know that they were breaking the law.
As for your mothers trust, that can be gained back... you can show your mother that you are responsible by showing her that you are responsible enough to understand the charge and that you have learned something from this experience. Hopefully, this will pass and you will gain her trust again.

I agree with Amanda. You're giving kids, or teens, too little credit.

"...occassionally you're going to be just like any other kid and get involved with alcohol or drugs one way or another. it's virtually unavoidable."

^ It is completely avoidable. Whether it's friends, acquaintances or any other group, like someone has already mentioned, kids can always just walk away from or outright say no to alcohol, smokes or drugs. For some they may crumble under peer pressure, which most of us can say we experienced at one point in our live or even now and can understand just how hard it can be at times, while for others they may be confident enough to make their own decision regardless of the "consequences". Myself, I lost peers and was even bullied for a number of reasons (because I was on the larger side, because I liked to get bowl-cuts or buzz-cuts, I wore glasses, because I didn't like to watch Bring It On or Legally Blonde, etc.) including the fact I didn't like to drink. However, that didn't bother me since it was obvious they never really were friends or else they wouldn't have treated me the way they did or cared if I didn't like to drink, since I already had a great group of girls and of guys to call friends who weren't into getting sheet-faced and even if they did didn't care that I didn't, and since I was happy with who I was and my life I wasn't about to change for anyone. Over the years I've had friends and even strangers offer me alcohol, smokes and drugs and simply said no thanks or I just walked away. Friends who'd offered me didn't pressure me or ask again and understand completely when I told them if they were going to drink or do drugs that I wasn't going to stick around. The people, friend or not, who did try to pressure me and weren't understanding I didn't bother with because, like Amanda said, trouble wasn't far behind them and because it's just not right. The first time I had alcohol was when I was 15 and with my mom, dad, aunt, uncle and cousins. I think it was New Years, or some other kind of occasion, and I had a glass of rum and coke. How many times have I had had a drink since then? Honestly, I could probably count how many I've had on my two hands alone. Not very many, and that's my choice, I'd sooner have a big glass of OJ on the rocks. Mmm!

"You could also pretend to be perfect."

^ You think that people should be perfect? I don't think such a person even exists. I personally wouldn't want to be and can't see how anyone would honestly want to be "perfect". That's a lot of pressure to put oneself under, not to mention how hard you would be on yourself if or when you strayed.

No one is refuting that the OP didn't make a mistake. Personally, I really feel bad for the OP and I would probably be just as frustrated, and that's putting it lightly, as her if I didn't do anything wrong (wasn't the one drinking and wasn't the one who purchased the alcohol) and I would probably want to try to prove myself innocent too, but I can agree with Amanda when she say that "you're guilty by association" and that it may be easier just to cooperate and get it over with. The only thing I actually don't agree with is when you say that, in general, it's "unavoidable" considering there ~were~, and ~are~, alternative choices that could have been, and could be, made and since we are all responsible for our own decisions and actions (or inaction).

"Everyone thinks you make mistakes when you're young, but I don't think we make any fewer when we're grown up" --Jodi Picoult

Im just scared about getting kicked out of my school. cause i attend an arts school and am a dance major there. and if u do one think wrong your out and someone takes your place.

oh and btw im not a guy.

You're 13 and in high school, right? Schools are responsible for their students the moment they're on school grounds when school starts and until they get on the bus and they get home, or wherever else it is they're supposed to be, when school ends (or so I've been told, whether that is universal or that was just the principal's I talked to own self sense of responsibility). If you weren't on school grounds during school hours I highly doubt that your school could suspend you (like I said I'm just basing that off what I was told and off my own common sense), if the school did suspend you I'd be surprised. However, it's a totally different story if it's your parents decision to pull you out and to transfer you to another school to try to discourage the influence your friends or other students have on you.

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In your original post you stated that you ~were~ being suspended and transferred to another school. But just above my post you said you're just scared that you will be. So, is it true that you are being suspended and transferred or are you just fretting to hear them say you are?

If it's official that you are suspended and transferred to another school, who's decision was that? Your parents; the schools; the judge; other? I'm just curious.

I know you were being sarcastic, but I think Amanda is the last person for you to suggest believes that everyone should be perfect. And truthfully, I don't think you believe everyone should be perfect either, I was just being ironic myself. Guess we share the same sense of humor. Gets you into trouble though sometimes.