I dont know what to do. Bf mom is so arragant

I am madly in love with my bf. We have been together for over 3 years now. His mom will not allow him to get his own place, go to college, yells at him for spending money, and tells him that he shouldn't get married until either i am 25 or he is 25 she is leaning more toward me being 25. I think his mom hates me. His brother is 31 years old and just got engaged. His sister is 28 years old and their mom is waiting for her to get engaged but yells at me and my bf when we even think about getting married or getting our own place. OO, and she yells at him because i must find my own cell phone plan by June and we want to get a plan together and she doesn't even want him off her plan. UGGGGGG i don't know what to do. Can anyone help me.

P.S. i am almost 20 years old and he is 23 years old. I am not trying to wait until i am 30 years old to have kids. that is just way to old to have them. I am not trying to be like everyone else. I want us to be our own.

I agree...if he can't stand up to his mother about marriage or college does he even stand up for you? he's a man past 18 and 21. he needs to leave the nest to be on his own and have a breather to know what life feels like without mommy holding his hand all the time.

He doesn't sound like much of a man to me if he can't stand up to his own mommy or make his own decisions in life. He needs to stop being a momma's boy and start acting like an adult.

He should have a serious talk about it with his mom. As for you, I think until he can stand up to his mom and make his own decisions or talks to his mom and they come to an understanding you should walk away.