A lifetime regret decision

Tosay is 12/02/05 and been 12 hours away since i broke up with my grilfriend and i really miss her a lot....but there nothing i could do more than miss her....she is now on a plane to study overseas and never coming back here again......i really miss her.....i can't sleep and eat and everything please teach me how....i even thinking of killing myself....

Pondering about suicide after a break up is normal and a sign that you are still human.

I, in my own way, know how you feel because this girl i like use to be at my primary and secondary school, but this year, we are going our separate ways 'cause of our different scores to get into various universities and our separate dreams.

But you know what, that's life. C'est la vie. Whether we like it or not, that is how life can be. No matter how much we want it to be and not to be.

You have to realise that we can't be with the people we like and sometimes the people we love for the rest of our lives. You cannot control everything let alone control the fate of your girl friend. All you can do is control your own future.

I know you miss her a lot, maybe to the extent that words could not even describe how you feel. Nevertheless, you need to sleep, so just lie in your bed at your usual sleeping time, and eventually you will go to sleep. Tomorrow, you will feel a bit better but i know that the pain will still be there.
Thus, this leads me to my next point that time will help you move on with your life. In a week or a month, the sharp pain will turn into a dull ache and after several more months, your life may start to come back together.
Mentally, along the way, you may feel like time is not doing anything and your condition feels like it is getting worse, but trust me, it is helping you.

There is so much i could tell you, but the internet makes conversation difficult. Therefore, i want you to do what i did, which is talk about everything like how you currently feel to someone close to you. It is better in than out and it is reassuring to know that someone is there to support you along the way through your ordeal.

Remember, you should try and stay focus on the current matters in your life that require your attention. You can't let her departure distract you from your life. You can't let this ruin your life.
From the bottom my heart, take care and good luck!!! 8)
Hang in there 'cause one day, out of the blue, something or someone will change your life again. But more importantly, take baby steps and be patient on the road to recovery 'cause you will find your answer to your dilemma.
Before i go, i want you to know that i am proof that life does get better. Afterall, I am still here!!! 8)

YAP, Go out, get drunk. Not nicley drunk, but drunk beyond belief. Men, alcohol and breakups go hand in hand,

Yurp, get it all out of your system. You'll feel like a bloody idiot in the morning but you'll feel a bit better about things.

YAP, you will always love her, that in itself is a comforting thought. She'll become something more to you in time.

As for Bob's comment. I agree with him 100%. Self respect before self destruction.

Bob, I am trying to make YAP feel as if he is not alone on this, showing empathy to be exact. After a break up, i doubt YAP wants to hear the stark point that he is weak. I know he will have to come around to take the break up as a learning experience sooner or later, but i am not sure if now is the right time. According to his post, it has been 12 hours so he would be overwhelmed by emotions and unable to think straight, which may prevent him from sleeping. YAP has to take things a step at a time.
I saw a psychologist once, but she didn't help to a great extent in a similar situation, so i had to find the answers i was looking for on the internet from other professionals and discover my own ways of dealing with the problem at a dearly price. I am not ruling out visiting professionals like psychologists 'cause it is their job to deal with problems like these, but it is not necessary.
You can learn from others who have been through similar situations and they can learn from you.
From what i've learnt, i can share this information with other people and aid them in the process. Afterall, that is why i am here and why my posts can be quite long.
Bob, I am not arguing against you 'cause i can accept your opinion. I just want to help YAP and let him take whatever he needs to know from his own post to make his life a little easier for him. Let's not turn against each other. After all, we are both working towards the same goal, helping YAP.
Take care and good luck you guys!!! 8)

well? i guess u can only move on dude :(.. i know that sucks... but that how life works and that why life sucks!

"Bob, I am trying to make YAP feel as if he is not alone on this, showing empathy to be exact. "

You'll find that blunt truth and open honesty achieves a hell of a lot more for long term coping.

Showing empathy will often only shroud the person in cotton wool, protecting them from the truth that is much better realised now than later.

I seriously empathize with YAP's situation (I'm sure Bob does too, or he wouldn't have posted, but he can speak for himself.) but I'm interested in helping the guy sort his life out now, not later.

Bert

All of you guys and girls are really helpful.....Thanks for the support....ArIel..this all time some of my friend say "Put your sadness to God", you know i really hate hearing that, i always been believe and putting my life to HIM but all i got is this, is this what we call "God love Us"???!!!
I dun want to break up with her but her mother doesn't like me and send her as far as possible that i can't see her again....Raven...i can't even go back to see her last time as i studying somewhere far and i got no cash to go with it....i really want to go there to give her a BIG Supprise but i dun have money.....i don't know what i can do, i been woking to support my own life while studyiong but i know even i work for a few month i would not even have enough money to go there......what should i do????i really doesn't know........Any advice?

i fink u shud set yourself a target of raising money to go see her let ur mind focus on an ambition , dont dwell cos that will mek u feel bad bout ur self but if u work ur sox of tryin 2 raise muney to go see her then u keep urself occupied and busy plus the outcome will be that u get to see her gd luk love dani xxx