How to forget about someone? It's been 3 years?

  • Keith
    14 years ago

    Long story cut short, when I was 15 I fell for a 27 year old woman, I lied to her about my age, saying I was 19 almost 20, so that we could keep on talking, stupid I know, but I was so in to her I didn't know what else to do, and we became really close and almost in a relationship, we were seeing for months, everything was perfect, except my lie. Apart from that lie I was very mature for my age and looked quite a lot older.

    Eventually I was honest with her, and she was so mad and ended this whole thing there and then, and would not listen to anything I had to say. She returned home to her own country a few months after, all the time I was hurting and crying most nights. I thought I'd have long moved on by now, but I haven't. It's been three years and I still think about her so much, and it kills me that she has probably forgotten all about me and doesn't give a damn what happens to me, when I can only keep thinking and caring about her, hoping she's alright. Dating other girls hasn't worked since then, some girls like me and I try to give them a chance, but my subconscious keeps measuring them up to her, deeply unfair I know, but I don't do that on purpose.

  • TrueLovesVictim
    14 years ago

    No Offense but you are a minor.. maybe she didn't want to ... I dunno go to jail for being with you?

  • Edward D Zurovec
    14 years ago

    Travis,, Long story cut short, you were a
    San Quentin Quail

    Oh, she loved your Perfectness
    But, Eyeing the Cross Bar Hotel

    She left YOU
    Smart Women

  • HisBlueEyedAngel
    14 years ago

    To tell the truth when your in love and it end's you don't ever forget your first love...Yeah after a while you will learn to move on but that person will always have a piece of your heart and you won't ever forget them.

  • HisBlueEyedAngel
    14 years ago

    Also she was smart for leaving because she was a bit older than you...

  • Elizabeth
    14 years ago

    I think she was more upset by the fact that you lied to her than she was finding out you were 17, but I could be wrong. I think she left because she either 1) is the type of person who believes age is just a number, but has a low tolerance for people who are dishonest and was upset you had lied, 2) generally frowns upon the idea of a people dating other people who are under-aged or if their is a specific difference in age between those people and was upset with herself by the fact she'd done just that, or 3) Both. I'm sorry to be bringing you down, but I think she was right in ending whatever kind of relationship you had not only because it's illegal and she could be seriously charged but also because you lied to her and took away her right to make the decision to want to pursue a relationship with you for herself. And that is not a good foundation to base a relationship upon.

    The truth is, when you love someone, despite the fact they may have moved on and no matter how much distance there is between the two of you, you will always house a place for them in your heart. With that, don't be so quick to think that you meant nothing to her or that she's forgotten you. If it was real to you then it was real to her. However, there are some people who choose to follow their head; morals, as opposed to their heart; feelings. Despite that she may have shared the same feelings for you and still does, she chose to do what she thought was right and what was best for her. When she made her decision I'm sure she was thinking in terms of the long-haul.

    Like you said, measuring other girls up to her is unfair not only to these other girls, who could have so much to offer because we are all unique, but also to yourself. You're not giving yourself the chance or opportunity to move on. I don't know if you two are just friends, if she doesn't want anything to do with you or if their is hope to salvage your "relationship", but where you and her stand NOW is something you need to come to terms with if you want to move on. Look at this as just another experience, learn from your mistake and take it with you for the rest of your life.