How long is too long

I know everyone says to have faith in love, and things would work out in your favour in the long run.
So my friend 'dated' this kid in seventh grade, yeah at that age we were stupid and felt ohh it was love. I ended up having her now ex boyfriend on msn, a few years ago we started talking shortly after we well fell in love.

The thing is I live in Canada and he lives in the States. Were total opposites. We both beleive that we can last six years, and the hopefully our parents would agree that we can be together. The thing is theres something at the back of my mind that I really keep pushing away which is, is this really a false reality we are trying to create or if we work hard enough we can really wait those few years. Since growing up he never said he wanted to get married and have kids, that was until he met me a year after talkin hes like 'you remeber when i said i never wanted to get marreid, i take that back as long as I am marrying you." He might try to come down for University next year but ;o

Really we both want to be together, it is false hope or can we really make this work with 4-5 years of not seeing each other?

Chances with it being you guys are in different places are that it won't last just because the distance. But I'm not saying it won't because I don't know you guys and I don't know your relationship with each other.

Has it been online strictly, well kind of. He use to live here up until 9th grade then he moved. So for me that’s 4 years strictly online since we’re going into twelfth grade now.
Your right about the whole thing about people changing I cant deny, I have changed from the person I was five; six months ago, sure our convocations have changed from one level to the next but somehow we can deal with the change and what not.

I started to drop hints here and there about what kind of boy I like and all that. To see their answers, well my mom’s answers, I’m sure she would have gotten the hint by now. My parents for sure would dislike the fact I’d be dating him because of his background and stuff like that. They would love him though because he’s exactly like my father in traits. You are absoluty right I should talk to them before I get my hopes up, because it can cause problems.

Yeah, I guess I will think about this nd decide whether it is worth pursuing . Thank you :)

Well i think it can work. it worked out for me.. me and my fience used to live right next door to each other but then he moved 4 states away.. we talk on the phone and the internet alot cause we wanted this to work out.. well he ended moving back and we had a baby together and now im engaged to him.. and we are on our second kid.. poeple all the time told us we wouldnt make it but we did yea we had our ups and downs.. but we made it and now a family..
it was tough at times and i wanted to end it sometimes but to me it was all worth it.. i know that we will last.. and i thank all the people who told us we would cause thats what made us try even harder to prove them all wrong..
but i hope the best for you two (:

I really hope it works out for the two you :)

cant say i have had much experience at long distance relationships... haha

Every girl that said they would stay left him and he was just there standin like hes stupid, he doesnt want that to happen again. He's tryin to put all his trust on me but hes not sure if hecan. HE thinks ill be like every other girl, he feels that when i go off to University ill find someone better.

Sounds to me like he's trying to guilt trip you into staying with him by saying you'll leave him just like all the others. Just because every other girl who told him they wouldn't leave him had left him doesn't mean you have to stay just to prove to him you're not like that or out of pity (that is if that is part of why you are staying). You'd be going into a relationship for all the wrong reasons.

He's not even sure if he trusts you. Do you really want to get involved with someone or be in a relationship with someone who doesn't trust you? You can't have a relationship without trust.

Your absoluty right.
I think we should clear up everything and see what's true and whats not. 'Thanks you.

"and i thank all the people who told us we would cause thats what made us try even harder to prove them all wrong.."

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My best friend had gone through the same thing not too long ago. She was dating this guy and things were going great for a while but eventually took a turn. He drank/got high most of the time, cheated on her and said degrading things about her. She was contemplating breaking up with him when one of her cousins told her that because he does all these things their relationship probably wouldn't last anyway. You know what she decided? She decided to stay with him. For two whole years she put herself through turmoil just to make a point she didn't need to prove. She's finally broken up with him now, but she says she regrets not ending it sooner.

If that is the only reason or main reason why you remain in a relationship, because someone told you it wouldn't last and you don't want to hear them tell you "I told you so.", that is a childish response and you're in the relationship for the wrong reasons.

OP, like I said earlier, don't try to make something work because you feel you need to make a point; you don't have to prove anything to him or to anyone else. Like you said you would do, you should talk to him about these assumptions he has of you not only because they are a cause for concern now but also because they will continue to be if you decide to try to make things work. Once you're in a relationship these fears and assumptions of his won't dissipate, they'll likely continue and get worse. Ask yourself, is this really worth pursuing?

YEAH, thanks..I sorted everything out and I do believe we are on the right track.