This has just gone too far...

  • Krista
    14 years ago

    My mom has been emotionally abusive towards me since atleast 8th grade, but she's just taken it too far this time. She criticizes me on everything that I do...anything I wear. She keeps telling me she has a better sense of fashion than me, and I need to dress like her. Um newsflash mom? I'm 17..not 37. And she mocks me too. All the time. If I start crying because she's been yelling at me, she calls me a cry baby and tells me to grow up..Last night, I forgot to clean the front of the stove, and she starts saying how disappointed she is of me, and how irresponsible I am.. I try to hard just to make her happy. I feel like she doesn't even love me anymore. She just looks at me with disgust. I haven't done anything wrong! I'm not a problem child.. I'm an excellent student, I'm working two jobs, I've never drank, and I've never smoked before..
    I almost swallowed a bottle of sleeping pills last night. I can't take my mom's abuse much longer. I don't know what to do..I try to confront her about this and she just laughs and tells me to grow up.

  • clevername
    14 years ago

    Seek professional help. I am so incredably sorry. Look forward to the day you get to leave. That day will come and this will just be a small part of your life. It will just be a memory.
    you said
    "i haven't done anything wrong! I'm not a problem child"

    Keep remembering that. I'm happy you know that. Tell an adult.
    much love

  • Sunshine
    14 years ago

    Let me tell u something, which Im sure will work if u have the energy to do.

    Despite the reasons ur mom got to do so, I dont knw her but

    I can help u get rid of tha pressure a little bit, cause its similar to the situation a frnd of mine been through, and she was able to change it by doing this :

    when she makes fun about ur fashion or style : SMile and say we all have different tastes and ya i agree u got a unique one mom, but i dont knw why am satisfied with mine

    when she yells at you: dont ever cry, just look at her , with a calm face.. NO ANGRY features ..in other words ignorant..and do what she is naging about
    then continue ur day

    if she tries to put u down..ignore it and always say to ur self.. she is going through hard times and now im helping her to let go.. think in that its SHE ..not U..this is not about u.. its about her

    as long as u keep it in ur mind...u will b able to control the hurt ud feel.. which u can not show at all.

    u have to seem happy and satisfied..with happy spirit about what she says
    and when she turns angry over something just fix it and do not cry.

    she is going to see the one negative part there...and she is going to get fed up from the failure of her actions..and she is going to stop bit by bit

    its going to take a bit of time
    and if u ..show sadness tears anger ..annoyance..u gna spoil this plan..which WILL work..if u do it well.

    let me knw..
    gd luck
    and cheer up

  • iRobbiee
    14 years ago

    Im 17 as well and i know excatly what your talking about my mom doesnt hit me any more but she does have her way with words and knows how to break me. my mom says the same thing about me and style wise. but what i do is i try to ignore her and let her talk. your in school and old enough to pick your clothes and you know what your comfortable in. keep up the good work and before know it youll be 18 and old enough to move out on your own or away at college. but dont let her get you. because that lets her know that shes won. just dont let her break you..