Im in pain what should i do?

My boyfriend asked me for a marriage.. then i said yes..
he promised that wen he gets back in our country.. the wedding will be arranged.. i waited for almost 2 years now.. because of a long distance relationship that we had.. at first he plans to have a secret marriage but i said no.. coz for me that is unfair for the parents about important events like this.. so i wanted him to let his parents know about it.. because my mom already agreed when i tried to ask her only if i got married mom says its fine as long as im happy

but funny thing is when he asked his mom for a what if like " mom what if i i want to get married" then his mom replied " i can allow u to get married only if ur already stable"

then for 2 years ive been waiting he said that there will be no wedding after all because he knows his mom wont agree .. but what makes me hurt is that why would he asked me if hes not ready.. i tried to make him rethink things while its early.. so that it will not be that painful for me if he changed his mind.. why now that hes about to come back.. im in so much pain.. until now i cant face him and i dont know if can still believe in his words :(

Yes, it does matter what his parents think/say but I think the most important thing is for him to think about what he really wants. If he does want to marry you, he could've but if he agrees with his mom that he isn't stable well, that's reasonable. I wouldn't want to get married and pull someone into my life if it isn't in a comfortable state.

If you really want to marry him, then help him with his life so he can convince his mom and agree with the marriage. But marriage is a huge commitment and you don't want to rush into it.

I think communicating with him would help.