How do you stop miss them?

So a friend of my family died about 5 weeks ago. He was 28 and had had a kid 4 months before he died. He died becaues he was getting ready for a hunting trip and was putting up his gun when he droped it and it shot him. I've been trying to stop getting upset about him being gone but I can't. I don't talk to my friends becaues I don't want to get them down. So I want yalls advice about getting over a lost.

There isn't a 'quick and easy' way to get over someone dying. It takes time, you just have to let it pass on its own.

"I've been trying to stop getting upset about him being gone but I can't."

It's only been 5 weeks, that's still fresh and of course will still easily upset you. Death is never an easy thing to deal with.

"I don't talk to my friends because I don't want to get them down."

This is supposed to be what friends are for, to lean on, show compassion, I am sure there is someone who would not mind listening, just to listen or because they know what you are going through.

Grieving is a process

You dont ever stop missing them, and yes it will always hurt, but you do learn how to move on knowing that its what they would want for you. He wants you to live happily, and healthy. you will move on sometime, but its never that fast, give it time, and try to live a normal life, do things that make you laugh, and that you know hed want you to do.

Thank you all. I've been getting over him some but like some of you said it still kind of hurts. But my Boyfriend has been helping me and so has my friends. So Thanks! :)

For some people they never get over a death. Its just a hard obstacle to overcome. For me I've gotten used to it. Sad to say.

I've lost 10 people, all very close to throughout my life... And I'm only 23 years of age.

High School was the worst... Every year I lost someone or more than one... The worst was freshman year when I lost my good friend and I lost my dad who I hadn't seen in over 8 years.

I've experienced a lot for being my age but death is something that doesn't get easier. I thought it would since I've seen so much but, what I learned most is not to be sad about it. I remember the good times and always keep a picture or two hidden somewhere where you / only you can find it.

I'm sorry about the death of your friend. Its horrible to learn of his death when he had a little one to care for. One thing I know he would smile down from above and greatly appreciate.... When his little one grows up.... tell him / her stories of dad and how wonderful a person he was. Every child deserves to know their father, keep photos around for them to look at / make copies of so that they will have them also when they are older.

I hope I helped a little... If you ever want to talk or anything just PM me and I'll send you my info!

I loved my piano teacher and now she's gone. It has been a few years since her death but just about everyday I think about it. I just want to cry all the time. She was my mentor, teacher, but most of all friend. I love her and miss her so much
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It really did help. Some of his friends are making a book for his kid for christmas about him. I get to write a story to. And your right it's not easy. I think of the happy times but it still does hurt. I'm sorry you had lost so many people. I bet that is really hard. So far i've only lost about 3 people that I know. 1 of which was a close friend of the family, other 1 was my cousin who died as a baby, and the other when I was in 7th and my greatgrandmother died. It's been about 4 months now and the realty still hasn't hit yet. I've asked my mom to take me to go see the grave but i haven't seen it yet. See I didn't go to the funral. so i think that's why it still hasn't hit. Bt yeah thanks for your adivce and support. :)

I saw his grave for the first time today. I wanted to cry but i didn't. I still feel like crying but i'm trying now to cry anymore. I guess it's just hard right now because it's Christmas and it was the best time to have him around. :( I'm just glad i have alot of support and friends around this year. :)

Awwe...I'm sorry about that. And...don't be afraid to cry. If you need to cry, go ahead and cry.

Merry Christmas to you!
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Thanks. :) Merry Christmas to you too!! :)

No problem
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And you know...I've continued piano with another teacher, so just about every day when I practice or go to lessons, I think about my old teacher and I always want to cry. Also, if somebody else that I loved died, it's just so hard to believe it. It's like I never quite catch up with reality.

Your friends are always there for you no matter what. i understand how you can think that it will get them down and you don't want that, i think that too, you can always talk to me. i have really only had two real deaths in my life, my grandpa, and my cousin. i know how hard it is to loose someone. my cousin, no one ever told me how he died, all i know is he was drinking at the craw-fish festival and the next day he lie dead in his room. drinking doesn't kill, especially when he didn't drink that much. it feels incomplete to me because i don't know why he died, i still miss him everyday, what has helped me is thinking he is with my grandpa in a better place. my other cousin, his sister, made an like thing in his remembrance. we share all the good times we remember. that has helped me a lot maybe you can do something similar. but just remember your friends and family are there for you to vent.

Remembering that he's up there and not down here hurts. I know he's with his dad that died when he was little, but it hurts because his kid will never know his dad and will grow up just like his dad did.

It's been 4months now and things have gotten better some. I'm trying to teach myself not to cry anymore about it. But when I want to cry I have to put on a happy face so people don't worry about me.

I'm thankful my boyfriend knows when i'm upset. When ever i'm done crying i call him up and he makes me feel alot better.

And about my friends always being there. Well i'm worried that see my sad , dark, depressed side of me and not like me anymore.

I really want to say thank you to all of you who are reading this and writting back. It's really help and I use to cry when i read some of these because i was thinking about him but I think typeing more and more about him and talking has been helping.

Thanks Yall. <3