Just a thinking...

Though this may seem like a weird question, are there any honest people who will tell me what they find attractive in a girl. Now I know that many people will put "oh I like a girl with personality" and so on but I just want you to be superficial. I want to know what constitues a "hot" girl. Really. Be honest.

Beautiful smile, piercing eyes, clear skin, slightly tan, a little curvy as opposed to stick skinny, a full B to a C-cup breast, a nice booty, and sexy legs.

There are classic things which are obviously attractive in any woman.

But really, when it comes down to it, the ladies I notice in the street and perhaps look over my shoulder at all have a sort of, confidence and grace...it's not always about how big their breasts are, or how pretty and clear their skin is.

I saw a lass a few days ago who sticks in my mind even now. She was a hippy chick, really odd clothes, messy hair and she had clearly come from a festival, bags under her eyes and...sort of dirty....but, she walked with such grace, and her expression was so calm and serene, her eyes still bright and..playful. She stood out.

Still, a nice pair of breasticles on display elicits the same reaction.

mwa ha ha

Forgot about piercings. So sexy.

Thanks you two for answering. I though no one actually had the guts to answer that honestly.

Nice reaction Kevin, that's sweet ^_^

I'd add to Donald, that no woman can be really esteemed attractive who does not greatly surpass what is usually met with. A woman must have a thorough knowledge of music, singing, drawing, dancing, and the modern languages to deserve the word; and besides all this, she must possess a certain something in her air and manner of walking, the tone of her voice, her address and expressions, or the word will be but half deserved. All this she must possess, and to all this she must yet add something more substantial, in the improvement of her mind by extensive reading.

This is really great!
I find everyone of these answers very interesting however, I have another question.
All the answers have one thing in common that they like- Breasts on the generous side.
I do not take any offense.
I just want to know if there are actually any guys who like small breasts. Or reaaallly skinny girls.
So here is my second question-
Is the thin model "Posh Spice" body attractive?

Sibyllene, I do declare that you are a delightful creature and I agree that Donald, though severely insufferable at times, would make a fine Mrs Bingley... the kind that despises women who shew an abominable sort of conceited independence and a country-town indifference to decorum.

Not to mention who dare to show up with their hems a full 6-inches deep in mud. Certainly not the type to form connexions with at all...

Evelyn sounds lovely : ) Would you still like her if she had strong political views and a squat gut?

Well, this isn't a superficial answer but what I think it really comes down to is confidence. If you have that, I think anything is possible. A girl with confidence, can get any guy.

Superficially, since I'm girl, I kinda think it varies. A girl with no boobs and a butt can still be "hot"...

Honestly, it all comes down to personality because even if a girl had all that, she isn't worth it if her personality is crap.

"so all you ugly women don't give up hope."

You're a classic, Donald.

'Insufferable' means something like 'unbearable' or 'intolerable'. It belongs in the times of Jane Austen, along with 'connexion', 'shew' and, sometimes it seems, you.

The only way to explain it is... one man's pleasure is another man's pain ...One person's loss is another's gain... One man's trash is anothers treasure. Hot and cold can be as warm as a lesson learned. When you play with fire you will likely get burned.

Take my ex...............please!!!

When I posted this topic, I did so because I over think things. It annoys me that appearance is a factor of attractivness for EACH AND EVERY ONE OF US. However, so is personality. But seeing as personality is a difficult and psycological decision. (I say this because people can love someone with a horrible personality. Or we may think we like one personality and then find out why we never date members of the opposite sex with that personality. Take for example that sensitive, creative, artistic always be there for you, say how high kinda guy which a lot of girls dream of. The truth is those girls may really like the guys who treat them terribly.) Any how, it has been proven that everyone has their preferances in the looks department. Looks are a condition for dating wheither we like it or not. I want to know what ACTUALLY attracts you to a woman.
Haha... though I am not demanding anything. I'm just trying to clear up any confusion that may have come up.
Also, if you are a girl who is sensitive to the "ugly truth" don't read this and judge others. Judgement encourages an uncertainty which then causes guys or those interested in girls to lie.
So even though someone might put another person into the category of what seems ugly to them, another person might just be ready to explode with ecstacy at the very thought of that person....

I couldn't have said it better

You can think of it as the spell of Eros or just chemistry

I agree Brit!
But I am also glad you agree that looks are important. Especially when you are a teenager or young adult. You need some one to turn you on and even though all cats look the same in the dark, you have to turn on the lights some times.
It is hard to find the two same people who are have the exact same preferences in looks. However, there are times where a person doesn't even know what they are really attracted to.
I'll use myself as an example:
My dream guy is Clark Gable. I love everything about him.
However my past boyfriends have been more of a Leslie Howard type. For those of you not really following me, my past boyfriends have been blonde blue eyed and thin as a pole. I do not know why I am attracted to these boys but they definitly get me hot and bothered.
But I admit, there is a time in a relationship when one can finally see beyond looks and become aware of their partner's personality. I am a firm believer that this point in a relationship comes after finding some one that attracts you visually...
We have to remember how we are all animals. And animals base their mating on what is beautiful to them.

"I'd add to Donald, that no woman can be really esteemed attractive who does not greatly surpass what is usually met with. A woman must have a thorough knowledge of music, singing, drawing, dancing, and the modern languages to deserve the word; and besides all this, she must possess a certain something in her air and manner of walking, the tone of her voice, her address and expressions, or the word will be but half deserved. All this she must possess, and to all this she must yet add something more substantial, in the improvement of her mind by extensive reading."

This is quite possibly my favorite thread of all time.
Abby and Sibby, you guys slay me. I was in fits. Covering my face with chortling.

I love me some Jane Austen. Pride & Prejudice is my favorite! Donald, you do belong in the days of Bingleys and Darcys :)

"I understand if it's someone you know and develop an attraction to their sense of humor, intelligence, fire..whatever it may be..but don't they usually become attractive to you, anyway?"

Yes of course. Most guys I wind up dating I didn't find physically attractive until I found their personalities unbearably delicious... then they transformed into sex bombs. There's a phrase for that. To see someone with rose colored glasses, anyone? Something like that.

How long have you been single Donald? You can answer in decades if you want.

And how many woman have you left by the roadside and what sort of state were they in that your list includes

"cleanliness"
"Healthy"

Your ex list must read like a B-movie almanac.

"the horror of the slightly unkempt woman!"

ättack of the beast girl with the persistant cold

"OK abby and syb its your turn what do you find attractive."

Physically, as per the original post?

Skinny men. Really. No beefcakes for this lady. I want my fellow somewhat wiry and unkempt, with fine hands, facial hair, and a big noggin with lots of room for grey matter.

If you want my personality preferences, you just have to ask ; ) Also, I much rather like your abridged list.

Oh, and if you really want me to stick to topic, I'll write up my list of things I find physically attractive in a female.

Donald, I was just joshing around Mr, I know you're aren't a wrong, especially not with ladies. Just playing with the words.

I find people who make a lot of eye contact and smile frequently are hotter. Friendliness is attractive.

Physically... good hygiene, well-groomed, clothes that fit.
Most people have the potential to be hot.

All this talk about "I ask the ugly kid to dance" is kind of unrelated to the original question :\ haha

Great post Donald...

What do i look for in a woman...

Eyes the window to your soul...you can tell so much about looking somebody in the eye...

how they carry themself as Kev has said, it exudes confidence and pride

Trim taught... but then most dreams are in the yellow pages...

Then they open there mouth and thats when the trouble starts....

"OK abby and syb its your turn what do you find attractive."

Oh Donald. I love men. I have no physical criteria except that they must be tall because I am tall. I love men. Attractive men. Intelligent men. Aloof men. Bastard men. Brown, polished men. Pale, weedy men. Strong, rough men. Moley, freckly men. Arrogant intellectuals, dreamy artists, shy professors, nerdy students, enthusiastic athletes, unsmiling misanthropes, drugged dole-bludgers. I've been attracted to them all. I've been attracted to you.

If I ever wanted to settle with one long-term, however, this would have been my subconscious checklist back in the day:

- Mysterious, constantly intriguing and stimulating
- Well-read, academic type, knowledgable about world politics, history, etc...we would do crosswords in bed and read aloud to each other..
- Well-travelled
- Well-spoken with sharp use of wit, irony, sarcasm etc
- Steady, comfortable income
- Taller than me

The thing is, the person I currently see as my life partner possesses none of these qualities. When the love of my life fondly reads aloud to me, his total disregard to punctuation and his slight stumblings over long words are sheer agony. It took me months to open my heart and realise I was deeply in love with him. Here's hoping.

Britt i hold my own all the time...:P

Can i hold my own with a woman? hang on i'll just puff up my chest a bit... course i can!...phew now im puffed..

There are times when i communicate better with females than i do with males, maybe females can be more subjective and have more empathy than males, having said that i have a close group of male friends that i do a lot with, both here and in NZ, i can go extented periods when i don't see them, yet when i do it was like just yesterday

Arrrggh Abby when you least expect it love can strike you in the most unwary place...

I guess I should rephrase the my orginal question: What constitues a good looking girl at first sight to you? I know that later in a relationship, personality becomes a factor, but I am only talking about at first sight. I know a lot from my experiences of being the new girl in school many times, that looks are vital. Unless you can mind read, a personality will not attract you to a new person. And just because you ask some one "ugly" to go out with you doesn't mean you aren't shallow. It means you are because you realize that the girl is ugly. But even then, as one oldie says, marry an ugly girl if you want to be treated as a prince.
But to all you honeys out there who have been told you are unattractive, take a look at yourself. I bet you have nice breasts, or beautiful eyes, shapely legs, a slim athletic body which some guys just can't get over.
I myself (of course) have been rejected and it was based on looks. But just last night, I asked my boyfriend if I was too curvey for him and if it would be sexually appealing for him if I were to lose weight. He told me he didn't know but he what he DID know was that if I were to lose my thighs, he would get turned off because he enjoyed the thickness of them.
To tell the truth, I think all the girlies have it worse. It seems by today standards we have to be thin, fashionable, smart, be the MD and the full time mother, go to college yet be stupid to suffice the male ego. If we have blue eyes, please turn them brown. Sorry you have brown eyes, I only date women with blue.
Though it seems exhausting, I am glad I am with my boyfriend. I am lucky he loves my body. I am also lucky he is honest. (At least when it comes to questions like this)
So I am saying honesty is sexy to me (and probably every other girl who has joined this conversation) so come on boys!
Turn some girls on by honestly answering this question:
What constitues a good looking girl at first sight to you?

Back off Driminkus...

- Mysterious, constantly intriguing and stimulating
- Well-read, academic type, knowledgable about world politics, history, etc...we would do crosswords in bed and read aloud to each other..
- Well-travelled
- Well-spoken with sharp use of wit, irony, sarcasm etc
- Steady, comfortable income
- Taller than me

This is me, and Abby knows it.

Well, ok I'm taller than her..I am...

well...well...steady...well...constantly taller.

Lists for partners are about the most unrealistic thing anyone can do, and they reek of 13 year old sleepover party.

I read a book by Richard Bach years ago called "a bridge across forever". it had a quote about relationships and partners, went something like this..;

"those special people, those soul mates have locks for all your keys and keys for all your locks"

Squeeeeeeeeeeee! Donald, I can't believe I've left you hanging so long with my answer! Yes, yes, I will marry you, you dashing, boring, illiterate son of a gun! I'm booking flights to Frog Hollow as we speak. Bring your cousin Ozzi to play at our wedding. He and Kevin should make a fine band together. I'll bring my whiskey, marijuana and gambling chips. You bring your ice cubes. Glorious times ahead.

"the more ridiculously obnoxious the man, the prettier the lady"

I tend to agree with that. I do have a soft spot for obnoxious men. However, I am now not with an obnoxious man. This means that the trend has failed in this instance, or that I have become a whole lot uglier.

You'll never know.

^ She's not invited to our wedding, Donald.

Well I guess I find imperfection (bodily imperfection) attractive and I sorta think along the same lines that no one is perfect, but I take it as a good thing.
And what do you mean there is no true beauty in the world anymore?
Are you implying that there ever was?