I'm so confused Help...*Boys*

Well you see, I seem to want things I can't have, but once I have them, I don't want them. First I went out with a guy I thought I was in love with, within a day of a relationship I broke up with him, for another boy. A boy I had liked a long time. I'm currently together with him. But it seems another boy has come along, and I don't want to hurt the other person. Let alone get a reputation. I just can't seem to find what I want, and when I think I do, something different, more like that I want comes along. What should I do?

dude..you gotta calm down.....there might be somethign wrong with that...or you just can't think of staying with someine for a long time...aka..commitment problems.

lol..its not that. I want a long relationship. I think im just seeking something perfect, and when I find something good...it never fails that something better comes along.

you want to find Mr perfect, well girl, I've got a newsflash for ya. He don't exist. nobody's perfect, and that's the basic rule. You need to think for your self what it is you are seeking in a boy, and don't go out hunting(wich I hope you ain't doing at the moment). The right guy for you will appear in your life at the moment he is supesed to. No sooner, nor later. Be patient, and try settling with what you have at the moment, because if you push your luck too much, you will make a 'reputation', and then it will get even harder for you to find the guy for you. Besides, you're still very young, there is still plenty of time for you to wander around and search.
Good luck
Tim

I (and many others) call it Bigger Better Deal syndrome (BBD). Not a great deal you can do about it right now other than ride it out as it seems to be a part of growing up.

Have you wanted to go back to the first guy at all? (That would seal it for me.)

It's not very good but I wrote this in school (bleurg... well over ten years ago now) and it illustrates the idea.

The Bigger Better Deal [Teenage Affection]

He’s hot, she’s not and now he’s on the take.

Ok, we’re here Hon, I want what you got.
Come on let’s go, it’s the right time for me.
Oh but wait a sec, she’s the BBD.
See you Hon, I got love to do. Later.

He looked, she took and now she’s on the make.

Hey Babe, I’m here and I got what you want.
Get it moving, come on. Right time for me.
Oh but wait a sec, he’s the BBD.
See you Babe, love’s on the move. Later.

Hon, please forgive. I never meant to break.

Take in what Tim is saying. Sounds like the guy you're with now is good for you, but the eye keeps looking. Try focusing on what you have now.

Bert

u have commitment problems nad u cant make up ur mind.... it also seems that u mite not fully understand ur self which is y u cant take to the time ot get to no them... first get to no urself some..... that soudns to corny but find out wut u want and find out who u are and all that wut do u like? wut type of clothes do u wear? wut type of music do u listen to? wut sporst do u play? wut type of frends do u hang with? how do u feel? sad? happy? judge off those things who u like as a boyfrend

mmhmm..gosh your right i am 14..but did you ever think that maybe at that age, people have lives? I just don't want to hurt anybody. And i'm doing just that. Thats Tim and Bret..you were a big help. I know what I have to do know. As for the people who think that just because im 14 I don't know whats going on, or that I shouldn't be looking for someone to spend my life with or committing to anything, my parents have been together since they were 15 and are just fine. I don't want to hear that crap. I just wanted help. and thanks for the poem bret...it made sense..and it was like..exactly whats going on right now. Thanks tim..thank yah everyone.

Don't take anything serriously, you'll always have fun.

Thanks!!

You could possibly wait for someone to lay their love in your hands... Wouldn't it be boring to have a perfect lover? The more you change your mind, the less likely is the love ganna last!

Luye

Dunno if this makes sence lol