What to do

What do i do if people keep calling me fat...and im not??

Who are these people calling you fat? Peers at school?

You could respond to their teasing if you think that would make a difference, but do you honestly think that will stop them from calling you names? My guess would be they would just pick on you more knowing that they've gotten under your skin.

My advise, ignore them. It doesn't, and it shouldn't, matter whether people call or think you are fat or not. The only thing that matters is what you think about yourself.

Since everyone calls me it..i think negative about myself, and i truethly dont want to live if i have to keep putting up with this..

It is not a bad thing at all to love yourself for who you are. Some of us have more fat than others and the truth is few living creatures can survive without fat. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder I have no doubt you have a soul mate or many others waiting for you to give them a reason to live

DO NOT LISTEN TO THEM THEY ARE JEALOUS OF YOUR CURVES....:p..SO HA TO THEM

Im not fat thou.. i have a good body that im proud of but ppl are being stupid and calling me it.. like my family.. my lil sister does( i disown her now) but if im not fat why do ppl call me it?

You know the truth about your body...don't listen

As I said in my earlier post, the only thing that matters is what you think about yourself. I know that sometimes that is easier said than done. We are not perfect, we have faults and do falter at time. We tell ourselves not to let it get to us, but someone they get under our skin. This I know from personal experience. Much like you, when I was younger one of the things I was picked on for, by peers at school, was being "fat". A few family members of mine had also contributed, unintentionally. They were making light hearted jokes, not realizing I didn't take them so kindly. I wasn't the skinniest girl in the class and I wasn't the biggest girl, I was average. I told myself not to let it get to me, that they were only pushing their insecurities onto me and that it doesn't matter what they think of me only what I thought of myself. But like I said no one's perfect, some days it did get to me. As I got older, I kept telling myself the same thing because I knew it was true, I just needed to realize it and realize I am in control. I control my feelings towards my self-image and that I am in control of my physical image. I told myself that I wanted to make a change it was in my power to do so, but to make sure that I do it for myself and nobody else. I changed my eating habits and got more physically active. I was already quite physically active as is. I always participated in extracurricular actives (Volleyball, Baseball, Basketball, etc.), liked to be outside, liked to run and do other activities. But of course having an unhealthy diet doesn't help. The teasing as I got older eventually faded away until it was virtually gone. Today, yes, I still have that insecurity of my body from time to time. But I accept that I do, who doesn't or hasn't, and that I am also not perfect, no one is. I own that. You need to own it too!

By the sounds of things, it sounds like whoever is picking on you is just jealous or is pushing their other insecurities (related or not) onto you.

When i was younger i was pretty chubby and people were really cruel with the names they would call me (including my dads wife) so when i was 12 years old i became bulimic because i thought it was time to take matters into my own hands and my bulimia lead to depression, anorexia and a hell of a lot of other really serious health problems. so when i hear about people who are being provoked it really breaks my heart. but you know what, when people are jealous and insecure about THEMSELVES they pick on others because it makes them feel superior and less insecure about themselves. (and often the things that are affecting them are either the exact same thing they're teasing you about or something very similar) ... maybe an older brother or sister who calls them "fat." just know that true beauty starts from within and when you start accepting yourself from the inside you'll start loving yourself on the outside :) for example, if you're feeling self conscious and low about yourself then do something that'll make you feel good. like maybe do some charity work because often giving back will make you feel good about yourself and what you're doing and just show the people teasing you that you're so much better than them. once they see they're making total idiots out of themselves when they're not getting an aggressive reaction from you (and i mean that in if you go and fight back with mean words then you'd really just be lowering yourself to their level) so just show them how above them and their words you are and soon they'll feel really lame for acting so infentile!! but if you ever want someone to chat t or anything then feel free to message me anytime :)

Hey, nothing wrong with a few extra pounds. I'm as lean as a rake, and I actually prefer ladies who are..sort of..plump. Skinny girls are nice to look at, but not so nice to lie with.

So a few people think you look fat, who gives a rats ass. I will place money bets guys check you out at least 100 times a day, trust me on this.

As the great spinal tap once said

"the bigger the cushion, the sweeter the pushin..you know what I mean!"

I'm Kevin, and I support this message... (sorry since I visited the US, I love saying that)

Kevin!! i LOVE your advice!!!!!
people made me believe being super skinny was so wonderful but when i was anorexic it was the worst time of my life. I'm still recovering but it is so wonderful to hear a guy saying they like a girl with CURVES!! :)

I always go by my Granny's advice....
You would rather sleep in a feather bed than on a bed of fence rails.

She was plump and I took those genes and am nearly the spitting image of her at this age. I am not afraid to eat and am rather comfortable being slightly overweight (my opinion). I could care less what others think about my weight now. Though when I was younger I was very grotesquely skinny (this was way before thin was in) I was called names and such, but as time went on I "developed" and along with it became comfortable in my own skin.

Moral: Don't worry about someone calling you fat, they or either jealous or trying to make themselves look good. Only worry about your weight if it starts giving you health problems. My personal belief is we are not all meant to be size 2. I am happy at a size 14. Marilyn Monroe was also a size 14, though she had curves I don't. Okay I have the shape of an hourglass with the exception that time stood still in all the wrong places. I think todays society tends to focus too much on being thin, when it isn't always the best choice to match our body.

"Okay I have the shape of an hourglass with the exception that time stood still in all the wrong places."

LOL!!

I don't normally write LOL, but that's what I literally did, so there. You've go the spirit, Dixieday : )

''You could respond to their teasing if you think that would make a difference, but do you honestly think that will stop them from calling you names? My guess would be they would just pick on you more knowing that they've gotten under your skin.''

I agree with Elizabeth. However, I still believe it depends on what your response would be. It's all about attitude really. whether you're thin, chubby, beautiful, plain or whatever people would always have something to say about you and will always talk. however, If you're sure of yourself that would draw red lines for them that they wouldn't dare to cross.

A year or so ago we had a gathering at University and I was standing talking with a group of guys about some political issues when a female colleague of mine punched my arm and told me ''Oh, Norgi, you better watch yourself you're gaining much weight these days'' in front of like 4 or 5 guys.

I just gave her my biggest smile and told her that I know and I'm so glad she noticed, that I've always admired her body shape (or body shapes like/close to hers) and wanted mine to look more like that.. of course I didn't forget to add that I just need a few more kilos to get there. perhaps more? and I asked her how much did she tell me she weight. afterwards I returned to my conversation more cheerful than ever and the guys themselves couldn't stop grinning.

even if those teasing you are super thin, you could always give them a serious face and tell them that that every time you see those extremely thin girls (that look like they're suffering from something serious with bones showing and what not (ask them if they know what you're talking about)) you fear more of becoming a sack of bones. yucks. then ask them if they agree. xD not that I've ever been put in this exact situation.

The point here, is not acting defensive, letting it effect you or letting them know they're getting under your skin, just agree with them and then turn tables on them while acting really serious. pretty simple really.

"Fat bottom girls you make this rockin' world go round!". Theres a reason why Queen made that song yknow. Its because guys know its true. I love that song. Not all guys look for skinny girls, believe me. Use the curves to your advantage, and the force will be with you always lol. Smile :)