Mi fault

Britt i totally agree with you and Silver and Viola. But i have repeatedly said that im not trying to force anything on him. As of now we're working on us. And im trying not to get into his space and give him also time for whenever he wants it. I also strongly believe that trust is a foundation of a relationship and if its not there itll be a disaster. And i believe everyone makes mistakes its just apart of life and we have to correct ourselves. and i sympathize for your past relationships because the same has happened to me. I understand and i thank you.

And im right still it's cruel. Half the things you post here is redundant because you lack in life, wisdom and understanding.

As redundant as it maybe, many people agree with me.

I lack wisdom and understanding? You lack loyalty and honesty. I don't cheat on people. Plus points for me.

I really dont see how since you are judgemental. you must be agnostic.

I have a lot to say in regards to this post and advise if you'd like to hear it Hopeless Romantic, but not enough time in which to say it in at this time. It'll have to wait for another day. But you can always PM as well. (I don't know if you remember me but you pm'ed before a long time ago seeking my advise and I tried to help you the best I was able to.)

But what I would like to say in regards to this situation and in regards to the argument between you and Darien is:

It doesn't matter how flat you make a pancake or if it's burnt on one side, it will always have two sides.

You must be an atheist, because I don't really know any religion that accepts adultery in any form.

If you just want to throw words back and forth, I can do the same as well. The more you throw at me, the nastier and meaner I get. So stop fueling the fire.. You won't like the words you see.

If you had any sense at all. You would have accepted that you're wrong. So save whatever dignity you have left, read the little advice you gained and move on.

Sweetheart i go to church. And i was asking a real queston too bad you have to stoop to anybody's lower level to have the last say. no im not throwing words. Im not into child's play. And if you figure you have to put nasty words on here just because you do, need home training all over again. im not on here to argue you with so if thats what you're looking for look in the opposite direction. i said i was wrong and i have no problem saying i was wrong.

You should definitely lock this thread Britt. She has gotten all the advice she could use. If anyone else had any input, they could just send her a message.
And you know me, I like to argue :)

If I need home training again, you need to go back to school. You started the assumption game by calling me agnostic. I go to church, FYI. If you can't handle nasty words in here, you're still in 'child's play mode' because the real world is cruel, and when you do things, such as cheating, people are not very nice. Why don't you ask for advice from someone at your church? We'll see how well that pans out for you.

Nasty words do not belong on PnQ, so if you can't handle playing nice, then you need to get out of here.

"If you just want to throw words back and forth, I can do the same as well. The more you throw at me, the nastier and meaner I get. So stop fueling the fire.. You won't like the words you see."

If I see anything worse than what you've already posted, I will penalize you. You are being vicious and unreasonable.
Behavior and threats like this won't be tolerated on PnQ, and what makes you think they will is beyond me.
Better to penalize the disrespectful posts and members of PnQ than to lock the threads they frequent.

Truth and cruelty never need to go hand in hand. Tact, empathy, and compassion are respected qualities all people should strive to have.

"Better to penalize the disrespectful posts and members of PnQ than to lock the threads they frequent."

^ I agree, because threads pertaining to topics such as these are quite "popular" (for a lack of better words) and people are rather active on them long after they've been posted or the OP got all the advise they needed or could want. Not to mention these threads can still be of benefit to others who are in similar situations or have similar questions. They can learn from and take away the advise that's been said here if they think it could help them. Any thread here can be of benefit to others, not just the person who made them. Some people are too afraid to make it public. And I can see why they wouldn't...

For the first couple years or so when I joined P&Q I would notice that a lot of threads would be locked for similar reason as to this. However, I think, as you said, penalizing the disrespectful posts and members who made them, is a better approach. I haven't seen many locked threads anymore, except for ones that reach over 100 posts.

Not trying to "fuel the fire", although I'm sure it's blazing, but I just had to comment on that part of your post because it makes the most sense.

"If I see anything worse than what you've already posted, I will penalize you. You are being vicious and unreasonable."

I love how mods can openly threaten members with penalties and take sides.

First of all, it's not like I'm the only person with the name calling, so threatening me alone, is extortion.

And I'm unreasonable? Have you even read all of the posts in here? I was reasonable. I said I agreed with Britt that she couldn't force trust. Then she came out and said I lacked in life etc.

Yes I have been paying attention to both sides and yes I did threaten you but I haven't penalized you. I can easily extend the warning to everyone -

If you are incessantly disrespectful to other members, I will penalize you.

The only advice I can give now that you've done it and realized how hard it is for both you, is be wise and never do it again. Avoid the temptations and dont be too hasty on things. If he really cares about you, I think he will forgive you. We do mitakes but there's no reasons to make the same mistakes.

I am sorry Darien, I think you were being rude up there. If you really wanted to help improve her Engish, you could have done it in a more polite way :)

Good job Jane :)

"I am kind of rude huh?.. oh well :)"

Lol, like I said.. oh well