People, Open Your Eyes

"Tell them to leave you alone for a while, just for a while"

I could be talking rubbish, but I'd like you to find a people who if told to leave someone alone for a while, actually DOES.

They need 'a reason.' People who don't like to talk about what they're feeling are unable to give them reasoning, therefore people don't leave them be.

Alot of parents do the same.
They don't realise that they are putting so much rpessure on their children and what their actions are doing and aren't willing to listen/accept the fact that they are if the child tries to tell them.
Teachers are just as bad.

"Need someone to talk to? Find someone."

People are ALWAYS trying to find somebody to talk to on this site and when they realise they have a problem and accept they need help, people criticize them for doing so. They see it as 'Attention seeking.' OF COURSE It's attention seeking, they need attention from someone who wants to HELP. They don't want 50 odd threads dedicated to hurling abuse at them. I know It's a free country and people are free to post their views and thoughts, but I think It's wrong of people to do so If It's to degrade someone.
I can't understand how poeple cannot see that people are fragile and extremely vulnerable. It's like, they think that people are weak because they let, most probably, YEARS of abuse from parents, years of failing everybody, years of baring the blame for various familiy problems etc.

..The rest of your post I agree on.

Anyway, sorry It's so long but I appreciate anyone who reads it.

These are my thoughts, though I think there are a few who do agree. Thanks.

-Laura.

"or you may have a mental/physical breakdown,"

If It's a parent who will not give you your space or a close friend for that matter, telling them you may have a mental/physical breakdown would surely give them more reason to stay and make sure you're okay, wouldn't It?

The 2nd part:

I didn't take offense, don't worry. It's just, alot of people have a trust issue and prefer to sugar coat things than allow their true emotions to be revealed. Reality is a harsh thing. I know It's not the right way to deal with things because they'll always stay with you, but people are afraid of consequencies.
Another reason could be that people are afraid of admitting the fact they need help. Having been an independant person all their life, may make them slightly embarrassed to ask for help.

I wasn't targetting you when I said people degrade others who need help, but ALOT of people on ehre do.
Those in need often retreat to sites such as this because they can get help without having to openly admit what's wrong face to face. Comfort I suppose, I don't know.

Bit of a difficult situation that will cause controversy for years to come I expect. I just don't like the fact that people can be so cruel to those who need help.

-Laura.

Just to add,

I don't know why people complain about reading so much about cutting/self-harming/depression/those in pain/those who need help, when they are clearly reading the 'Sadness/Depression' section of the site.

If they don't want to read about it, don't look the poetry/read the forum dedicated to it.

Those who are infact sad too, need to accept that there is alot of self-harming and other topics that are common here. It's infuriating how they are getting 'tired' of reading about adolescents complaining about their lives.
That doesn't mean that people LIKE to complain, does it not underline the fact that there is ALOT of troubled people?!

Sorry for any rudeness.

-Laura.

But, perhaps that kind of attention is what someone is looking for?

Agreed.

But, there's a difference between staying because you care and staying because you think they're freaking out or you're curious.

-Laura.

True.

But at the same time, I'd be frustrated that I'd have had to get that far for them to notice that I was in pain.

I wouldn't be grateful they'd notice, I'd be annoyed that it took me to self-harm before they actually listened.

I wouldn't cherish the time I thought they may care, I would await the time things went back to normal.

I guess that's after so many years of nagtive attention.

-Laura.