Implications

Okay, so, I'm sure just about everybody has heard about judgment by what you wear. Well, I don't like this. AT ALL! Because I so happen to be the kind of person who wears different colored skinny jeans, lots of black, neon colors, and ... People just think I'm different.
To be more accurate, people catoragize me as EMO, or GOTH...when I am NOT.
I don't think it's right to judge people by what they wear...Bleh.
Because I also wear blue jeans, baggy shirts, and cowboy boots (I live in a hick town, and my family has land in the country). I wear hand-me-downs from my brothers.
And I also am in Athletics.

Still, people see me as Emo or goth.
I tell them I am not, but they ask "Well what are you?"
Simply, I have a punk personality. But I am also country, athletic, and tomboyish. People just don't see that side of me often. But that side is there. A LOT.

Anybody else with this problem??
I mean, you REALLY shouldn't judge somebody until you know them.

Naturally, I don't think you should judge a book by it's cover. You shouldn't judge someone or other people by what they wear or even what kind of music they listen to, their hobbies, the friends they have, etc. I believe you should only judge a person by the way they treat others and their other actions or lack there of. But I think it's more important for people to, despite that if they are judged or might be judged, you shouldn't care what other people think of you. The only thing that matters is what you think about yourself. Sometimes, I know that can be easier said than done and is kind of a cliche thing to say, but I think there is reason for that. There is truth in those words.

Also, I'm sure everyone has friends who, despite how they dress, like them just the way they are.

I don't think people should be judging you by your looks in the first place, but the way you just described your looks doesn't tell me you're goth or emo. Just ignore what they say, it's important what you think about yourself. If they ask you the silly "what are you then" question tell them you're human and that's enough. It's a shame to see people still categorizing and classifying people until now, we're all human and the fact is you can't know who a person is until you get to know their personality by socializing with them.

^^ This is exactly what one of my teachers said.
She was talking about how our clothes represent us most of the time.

Here's more of my thoughts: Yes, we choose clothes we like, clothes we feel comfortable in. But, I do not choose clothes that scream "I'M EMO!"
That's just what people like to think.
:-P

BTW, thanks for some of the advice everyone (:

I ahgreey ^

People should not judge...I have a really close friend and he wears different color skinny jeans...People in this world have nothing better to do but judge other people.

I dress like an aristocratic punk, and I'm sick of being labelled as sexy and elegant!

So I have suede shoes that come to a sharp point, and yes I'm very tall and slender like a model..

JUST LET ME LIVE MY LIFE!

^^Haha, Kevin.

And Liquid Grace, my school DOES have a dress code, lol. But I tend to dress AROUND the code.(:
BTW, thanks for the advice. I am starting to learn to just ignore most of those people who label me as "emo" and "goth".

I think judging based on external appearance is important, but i also think people do it wrong.

for instance, if a man is gushing blood and quibbing, i think its fair to assume, merely based on appearances and not asking him, that he probably needs medical attention, and is also probably about to die.

external appearance is also a pretty important factor in determining basic friend from foe. in most cases the people who are mugging you tend to look different than a police officer (discounting disguises.)

theres the side of the judgement making that is fairly stupid, that is to say that some one is emo or goth based on the color of their hair, but lets face it, emo and goth are no longer states of mind, they are fashion. my generation is THAT STUPID, but i guess its something else with every generation.

if nothing else its nice to be able to identify people based on what they look like, the world would be a strange place if my best friends facial structure and dressing preferences were completely different every day, thank god for stability.

since the world is made up of hundreds upon millions of people, and not just 10, its understandable why people categorize in groups and not just individuals, and people can get away with it because there is a tendency for people to act the same in a group, its called conformity, and its subconscious.

there are always exceptions, but i guess over all im on the fence. some external cues can lead to logical assumptions about a person, and others cannot, but where to draw the line? i just try to be open minded and argumentative.

Uhm TSI25, dont get me wrong on this, but the thing you said bout the blood gushing person who needs medical assistance and the distinguishing of police from goons, are, i think, theyre more on the COMMON SENSE section than the JUDGING thing Hannah talks about here, lol, but other than that, i think most of the things youve mentioned are true... Anyways, in my opinion, you can judge your a$$ off just as long as you keep it to yourself OR, if the result of your judging doesnt harm anybody including yourself. eh, but thats just me and my opinion bout things. :D

I like the post above. Where's the like button?

Ah, shucks. No more hiding the truth... I judge EVERYONE! I am judging you from the first second I set eyes on you... everything from the way you dress, your hair, how you walk, talk, what you say, how well you capitalize words, use grammar, and who you hang out with... I judge people based on what pictures they put online.

That doesn't mean I'm not willing to look past the immediate impression... It just means I like to have a sense of who I'm dealing with immediately, and, obviously, physical appearance is the most immediate impression I can get. Actually, I don't think it's bad to make assumptions off appearances at all. Of course, if you'd like to broaden my mind to the "fantastic and shiny inner you" then go right ahead, but I'm perfectly satisfied judging you by whatever character I immediately perceive. :)

Hallucinostic, I have the perfect quote for you, that sums up what you've said: "Judge me, but keep the verdict to yourself."

Nar, I like the statement you made that despite a person may judge you it "doesn't mean [they're] not going to look past the immediate impression..." as well as that not all assumptions are bad. Sometimes you hear good assumptions. For example: You're wearing black leggings with an off white shirt that flares out at the bottom, a beige cardigan, black high heels and a few gold bracelets. Some people might say you're trendy. Is the word trendy not considered a good thing?

Despite that people may judge you based on your appearance doesn't mean that first impression is going to stick with you or that their mind is made up, they can overlook that first impression and it could change over time, as they, or if they take the time to, get to know you more.

Like I said earlier, it doesn't matter what other people think of you, it only matters what you think about yourself. Try not to let them get under your skin. If they label you "emo" or "goth" let them. In my opinion, showing them any signs that it bothers you in any way just encourages them to do so more and empowers them. You don't have to prove anything to them, you don't have to prove anything to anyone. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

"People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be." (Abraham Lincoln) In a way, you can apply this to your situation. Naturally I assume that it frustrates you or otherwise bothers you when people say that you are "emo" or "goth". But if you think about it, it only bothers you as much as you allow them to and as much as you let their words bother you.

Here's something else to think about. When we receive good, positive or otherwise desirable feedback that is to our liking about ourselves, in this case our sense of fashion, it's generally considered and taken as a compliment. But, when that feedback is "bad", "negative" or otherwise undesirable and to our dislike it's generally considered and taken as an insult. That person who provided the feedback is regarded as judgmental, rude or something similar along those lines.

Hi there Elizabeth, that or-
"If you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all." by..... lol, can anybody here tell me who first coined that famous phrase? lol. :D

^ Moms! XD

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MOMS ROCK!!!

"If you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all."
Ah, but if we never received criticism, how would we improve?

Well, you can always say it in a nice way. :)

"Ah, but if we never received criticism, how would we improve?"

^ Suggestion box?

Oh and Hallucinostic, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" is the nice way of moms telling their kids to shut up, hahaha.

Thats one way, lol. Its not wrong to give criticism, its how you give them, that makes all the difference. I think its not difficult to, lets say, make them more acceptable to the ears and feelings of the person being criticized. If theres a will theres a way. :D

You see? moms doesnt want us to get hurt, even if we push them to wanting to cut our heads off, maybe thats an exaggeration, lol, anyways, they tell SHUT UP! in a nicer way, and idk, but it kinda works.

Suggestion box?! Hahahaha!! I might have to do that for halloween, tape a cardboard box to my back labeled Suggestions.

Although, I think it might be the self-improvement version of "kick me"... hahaha

SUGGESTION BOX AKA KICK ME! LMAO! Oh, cmon, dont lose hope on the ppl on this planet, lol... there might still be one or two that will give suggestions, lol! :D

Yeah, moms! "I suggest you watch your tone young lady." Lol.

Hey Elizabeth, "I suggest you watch your tone young lady." is the nicer, some kinda daughter- friendly version of what? lol.
And pls call me Dib. :D

Judging people based on how they look used to be a matter of survival.

Is that a sleeping Lion, or a hungry moving around one?
Is that Monkey displaying sexual advances towards me, or getting ready to club my head in?

Sure, as advanced apes we've taken this much further, and now the label on your clothes can, for some people suggest things about who you are and what you are worth. Those people are idiots though.

You won't ever escape being judged in some way though, best get used to it.

Brother Kevin dude, the last sentence you said. Excellent!

Wow...I missed a lot...Lol.