How do you deal with it???

Hey I know everyone goes through very stressful upsetting times and I'm goin through quite a few right now and wanted to know how everyone else handles their stress...

If i had a way I would share it...All I do is drown myself in music and sit in the dark all night feeling like crap...

but that's not very good...so does anyone have any good ideas!???

well the music thing doesn't seem too bad....writing always helps....hmmm...it all depends on what the problem is....

Kalika

and, personally I deal with things by bottling everything up then exploding eventually....not recommended btw....

Kalika

ya i've definitly exploded before...not pretty! what if it's you goin crazy cuz you're stuck in your house all dang day with a mother who only knows words like "hate" and "go-away" and "b1tch" and "useless" cuz that's all i ever hear! I asked her to go pick me up a bag of chips cuz we're havin a surprise baby shower for one of my teachers and she through a big fit about it being inconvienient and not wanting to go to wal-mart at midnight (not my fault on that part though, she doesn't get home from work until midnight or later and she has to go right by wal-mart anyway...) god i hate her she makes me feel so horrible about myself!!! lol...btw thnx for listening to me half-vent!

Don't worry, I like listening....yeah I can't personally relate to the parents thing, my parents are pretty decent to me, but I do have other issues.....Would you like to continue venting??

Kalika

hm... well i handle my stress by writing, talking to friends about the porblem, listen to music.. sometimes just get out of the house and go for a walk.. meh

yay, I like walking, it helps calm you down, especially if it is cold outside....

Kalika

I wouldn't mind walking in the summer...lol...i hate the cold!

Ah-the rest of my venting...let's see...not to include to many boring details, I went out and got drunk and of course got caught and my friends mom that i was with let me come home with them for the night and she was so sweet to us...even though she was mad she was just very loving and motherly-and it was the first time i had met her! then i come home and my mom doesn't talk to me about it at all, she just gets out her notepad and has me tell her the whole story...so i do and she writes stuff occasionally and then at the end she starts asking me for last name of my friends that i had mentioned were there!! then she turned the only ones over 18 in to the cops for "supplying us with alcohol" and called all my friends parents and got them all in trouble. that was all...she just got back at my friends. then ever since then i haven't had a decent conversation with her at all. i got a D- in english, but i really am trying it's just hard for me this year...so i went to tell her something about my child dev. class last night and she blew up talking about how i was worthless and stupid and how she wasn't paying a cent for my college because i would "waste it away" and that the only college I could get into was "losers-are-us" and all this other stuff and just left me feeling horrible about myself. i can never do anything good enough for her, if i clean the entire house-I didn't do it right. if i make the family dinner-it doesn't seem cooked long enough. if i walk the dogs i take too long. and all she does is nag on me to clean up after everyone and do everything. if i just sit on the couch to read she yells at me for being lazy...if i have a lot of homework and i start as soon as i get home but still am not done by my bedtime then "i shouldn't have wasted all that time eating" it's just never ending. she wont buy me anything clothes or anything so she insisted i get a job, and then she complains about having to drive me. it's just impossible to please her. if i just bow down to what she sais then im "not listening to her and just agreeing to get away from her" but if i participate in the conversations then i "have an attitude and she doesn't want to look at me for the rest of the day" what can i do??? how can i make her hapy!! ahh i can't!!

okay i said no details but thats a lot...lol...

wow....it sounds a lot like my bf's mother....she's exactly the same.....there are just some people you can never please.....it's hard I know....just remember you don't have to deal with her forever, you'll be able to move out eventually, and then it's your choice how your relationship with her goes from there....I wish I could help more.....

Kalika

okay well thank you-that is encouraging...only 20 more months!!! lol

lol, well don't do anything rash, even though you dislike your mother, don't move out just to spite her, think about things, make sure you are ready for it...

Kalika

ya...i keep goin back and forth-the angry part of me sayin leave the day i turn 17 and then the realistic part sayin wait till i go off to college...

I'd go with the realistic part....it's a hard world out there, plenty of opportunities to mess up.....

Kalika

lol ya startin 2 think of college im realizing that its gona be hard...i like to think it'll all work out...lol

Of course it will, you just have to work hard for it, if you truly want it.....

Kalika

oh and i do....cuz wouldn't she feel bad tellin me** all those years i couldn't do it...oh i will just to prove her wrong!

yeah, that would be awesome.....my bf feels the same way....he just wants to get out and rid of his mother...I don't blame him.....she's truly terrible....

ya-and besides my mother being so hateful, she is the most 2 faced person in the world. anytime we're in public around my newer friends she acts like the sweetest person in the world and they all say she's so cool and there's no way the things i say could be true, but my old friends when i first met them thought the same thing, then after being around her at the house all the time all my friends grow to hate her too.

Oh and this is probably the biggest problem between us that I forgot. She forbid's me to see my best friend...been closer than sisters for like 5 years and then one day my mom decides that she doesn't like the way my friends mom raises her children and that my best friend is a bad influence on me...ya right she's the best thing that ever happened to me and i dont knwo how to live w/o her!!

I can't wait to get away from my mom, even though the sensible part of me might not allow that as fast as i might want...it'll still be great to escape

My bf's mother is exactly the same!!! it's uncanny....and she doesn't want him seeing me either, she hates me for some ungodly reason....Sorry she won't let you see your friend.....that's pretty crazy.....

aww that's sad...well thanx for listenin and givin some advice...it means a lot. you have a good night, im goin to bed! thnx again!!
Night,
--Sierra Rae

Talking is the best way of stress relief.. well there is the all time number one, but hey I'm being clean.

When I say talk I mean speech. Typing away the blues or stress just isn't as effective.

talking and exercise! lol i do yoga its great and going for a run around the block and talkin on and on bot it on msn 2 ppl

I turn on sad music at night and cry =)

i read, write, draw, sometimes i can cry, listening to music REALLY helps me, or just venting by talking to someone, but sometimes i can keep it all on my back for a long time. right now im trying to find some better ways to just let loose before i do anything i would regret