no one understands, im stuck and i just dont care!

  • Ironic Allure
    19 years ago

    Maybe they don't understand because you can't really explain it properly.
    Maybe they want to understand but don't really know how to approach the situation.

    At the end of the day, I don't think you really know what you want them to say to you, do you?

    -Laura.

  • Ironic Allure
    19 years ago

    Okay, I apologise.

    But for someone who keeps their problems to themselves, you express them very freely on here..

    -Laura.

  • Ironic Allure
    19 years ago

    I'm not saying you're not allowed to ask for help, I admire that. If you've read any other posts I have written, you'll see that I support it.

    I'm just saying, the reason why your friends think you're doing it for attention IS because you can't explain it properly. They'll see it as not having a reason, rather than not being able to put it into words.

    I'm here if you want to talk to me further, my address is on my profile. Feel free to add me/email me.

    I have to go now. Take care of yourself. Head up.

    -Laura.

  • Toni
    19 years ago

    Ok well first of all the title of this post is wrong, you obviously do care or else you wouldn't be posting here. At least be true to yourself. It's not wrong to care about what happens to you.

    And secondly, you gotta remember that its near impossible for friends or other people, to understand severe depression unless they have really been down into the depths of depression themselves. Its the same with eating disorders, they basically won't understand, and will assume its attention seeking, because that seems the only logical answer to them. Its like you trying to imagine what its like to have cancer, or schizophrenia.

    Please remember that it is the depression that is making you withdrawn and distant from people, depression is known for isolating us. The best way to beat it, is to think of depression as the enemy, and not as part of you, because remember it wasn't always there, even if it feels like its been there forever! True, the old you is buried under all this crap you're going through right now, but you can go back and slowly dig her back up. The old you, isn't gone forever. You've got to remember that.

    The therapy you have won't work unless truly, deep inside, you want it to work, you've got to REALLY want it to work really bad for it to do any good at all....and for that to happen,you've got to be ready to let go of the anorexia. I know that will sound a really scary thought to you, because it has probably become you're safety blanket at the mo, but only when you're truly ready to let go of the anorexia, and only when you're desperate to get better, will things take a step forward for you.

    xxxx