parent crisis!

Ok, so i'm living in the UK, and im depressed sumtyms and i dnt lyk 2 let many ppl in, only my 2 best guy friends, and they still dont understand me. But, my mum has had this bf for about 2 years now, he lives in Philledaliphia right, and my mum has been out to visit him LOTS and LOTS of times. I've spoken to the guy, and yeh, he's ok i guess. My mum left my dad when i was 2 because he was violent and she cudnt take any more. Me and my mum have lved without a 'father figure' in our life ever since, and i like it like that, just me and my mum, and i want it to stay that way. But my mum told me that her and her bf are thinking of GETTING MARRIED!! I don't know what to do! I can't concentrate in school, im moody towards people, i got into a fight with the 'head girl' in my year yesterday...that was good though i have to admit teehee, i'm not eating, i can't sleep properly... But, now i'm just even MORE depressed than normally. I love my mum and i want her to be happy, and if getting married to him will make her happy, then i want her to do it...but i don't want it. What do i do?!? I would appreciate any advice, thanks.
Gurdy x (GoddessOfWings)

sorry, i just realised that i posted this into the 'other' section, i should have really posted it into the 'sad and depressed ' section...sorry!
Gurdy x (GoddessOfWings)

sit down with mum, TV off, no music, just you, her and undivided attention.

Tell her your concerns your fears your worries. Also tell her other things too, how much you love her and want her to be happy. You're in this together regardless.

Thank you for replying Bret.
But im scared, what if i hurt her feelings? What if she takes it the wrong way? I might mess everything up for her, she may not feel as confident and happy knowing that im upset. Do you think i should just not tell her and let her be happy? I never really talk to her about any of my problems (my mum thinks it bcoz i dont have any, but i do), i just kind of lock myself away from her. I speak to her about stuff, but nothing serious. She may get totally stressed, and i dont want that for her.
Gurdy x (GoddessOfWings)

Well, the thing about life is we never know. Weigh it up though.

Do you want to live the rest of your life resenting your mother because you were too scared to sit down and be honest with the one person in the world you can be truly honest with?

It probably will hurt your mum, but remember that she obviously loves you and one sit down open heart to heart isn't going to change that. Good parents will take the weight of the world on their shoulders for you. That's what they do.

If you are scared of really doing damage then say you're scared for her and you. You like the new man but you have concerns.

Believe when I say your mum knows you have problems, she was your age once as well. She's been there she's done it.

ok, i'll give it a try. Thank you so much for your help, i really appreciate it!
Gurdy x (GoddessOfWings)

Welcome.

Better to try than regret not trying.