masturbation

i just want to know what people think on the subject... how old were u when u started, how often do you do it, and (for girls) what do you use... i know it sounds like a perv. question, but i just want to know cause i have argued with people about if a lot of girls or women do it... so let me know... btw, i am a 20 yr. old guy and i do it about 6 times a week and started when i was 14.

Um...

I started at 13. And I'm 14 right now. I do it like..everyday. Haha. Shhh. That's all I'll say.

You're right about one thing - you do sound like a perve! LoL :oP

well, yeah, i said it would SOUND like it, but that is not the intent of the question... if you wanna take it that way, fine. you didn't have to comment on this, then. either way, i'm just curious... when u started, how often, and what one uses. thanks tho

Regardless of if girls deny it, most girls do it, and more than they'll admit.

I wont give anyone a number, but I'm a very sexual person, and there is a distinct lack of sex in my life, so there gives you an idea... lol. Then again its not so bad for the people who read my poetry.... I guess if I were out there doing it and not writing about it some of my "fans" would be dissapointed, so my loss is their gain ;)

Girls use vibrators or their fingers, but most girls dont know the *fine art* of how to pleasure themselves and dont explore that side of themselves, girls are often very confused about how to masterbate. For guys its easy, for girls its not. We are more... ummm... complicated down there (as any guy knows when they first encountered a girls body... and had NO idea how to use anything, lol). For example not only are most guys illclitorate, but girls are too, and if a girl doesnt know how to please herself, how does she expect her boyfriend to??? Hmmm

ohhh I think you're hard on the lads, K.

I think it's something most girls come across quite by accident usually around 12 or 13. I had my sister ask me about it a little while ago. I was so glad we weren't face to face I had such a childish smirk on my face I looked like a chipmunk.

lol,

Maybe you cannot relate, being the messiah of women that you seem to be, but dont you remember your initial confusion about a womans body??? Guys seem much more self explanitory, plus there are all kinds of mags (cosmopolitan or allure, etc.) that talk about how to please a guy, guys dont have that information as readily available about the girls. Guys have to go through a discovery period of how to best please a woman like girls do about their bodies.

My sister said that she used to self pleasure herself even as a kid, but I never did that, I started around 13, and was VERY confused. I had to look it up online and talk to friends, and what I generally discovered was that none of my friends knew what they were doing, lol. How old is your sister? And what exactly did she ask you? I would die before I could ever ask my brother for sexual advice of any kind *cringe*

It's very taboo, I agree totally. It's amazing how uncomftorable girls get when you mention masterbation.

Anyway there is a physical release with orgasm and masterbation that occurs, but there is no emotional release, and no intimacy, which you cannot compensate for.

To sexual:

I dont think anybody gets to tell you its wrong...

If thats what you want and it makes you happy, jerk on...

Unknown12:

Perfect example.

Masterbation is sexually stimulating yourself manually. Using your hands or vibrators, you "please" yourself like a guy would for you. Girls dont talk about it, so they dont really experiance it as much because its taboo and not an open subject.

It is solo sex, basically.

Guys stimulate themselves by giving themselves the equivalent of a hand job, which im sure you're familiar with, and girls either just do it clitorally or they stimulate themselves clitorally while fingering. Girls also use vibrators... an easy way to start (I cant believe I am giving masterbation advice...) is to just get famaliar with yourself down there with a mirror, the second step to self pleasure is fondling yourself and exploring, but because you probably have never done anything sexually you may have a hard time getting turned on, etc. Go in your bathrub and make the water run, lie on your back with your legs up and let the stream hit you... thats the simplest way to start.

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EVERYONE doesnt do it, but I would say most females do it at some point in their lives.

It depends on how sexual a person you are and how much sex you are getting.

You're not getting any, but if you're not horny then there isnt too much use in masterbating, you're curious so you should explore it, but not everyone does.

Even girls that do often times wont admit it.

I do... considerably ;)

And another thing, there are alot of benefits to masterbation, especially for girls.

It makes you comftorable with your body and how it works

It allows you to explore your sexuality and determine your fantasies mentally, so that you will know what you want later on

It gives you a physical release that can help your mood

It relieves headaches and PMS symptoms

It allows you to discover yourself in a way that can help your boyfriend or husband pleasure you better

You are not as uptight about your body or sex and it instills more confidence

All blokes do it... frequently. Even in relationships. We do it because it's fun.

My sister asked general stuff like if it was safe and how much was too much. Not really what I needed to hear from my sis, but I'm always honest with her and I'm glad she asked someone at least, so *shrugs* she done got told. The chipmunk disappeared after a couple of minutes.

I just re-read your post and noticed you called me the 'Messiah of Women'... honestly, you give a bit of advice and all of a sudden you're being flogged and crucified for imparting oral techniques.

lol. I am not crucifying you, I am bowing to your Messiah-ness.

Seriously, you know how unique your understanding of women is... you can admit it.

Ok, yeah I know I know what I'm talking about, but it's not intuition. It took a lot of slaps, drinks in the face, the lap and so on. Still, some reaction is always more enjoyable then none. I used to enjoy the slaps to be honest. To provoke someone so much. Seriously though, if I got a slap I'd go back 30 minutes or an hour later and I knew it was an iron clad night at someone elses. (A slap is a sign of interest too.)

lol.

Slapping= hostility and pent up anger

Hostility & Pent up anger= hand cuffs, & control issues

I could do with a little slapping...

Slap me, baby,
Pull my hair,
Cuff me,
Do whatever you dare ;)

hmmm....

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Moving on... when a girl slaps you, you know she wants to go home with you and have you slap her back. That kinda girl wants to be D-O-M-I-N-A-T-E-D.

When I slap a guy, its more like me saying, "Put me in my place, fu*k me 'til it hurts" lol

Honestly though, you know what you're doing, I am sure you've been around the block enough to know, slaps, drinks thrown, and all...

See it took you all of that to say 'A slap is a sign of interest too.'

Some girls talk too much *grins*

lol, yeah some girls do have that tendency *zips mouth*

I'm not saying it's a bad thing, quite the contrary, it fills that gap of awkward silence that would otherwise kill a relationship stone dead.

Don't zip it, use it.

Some guys, ie me, have a habit of being pertinent and saying what's needed to be said in the simplest way. that doesn't always go down too well, and your exposition and expansion of my simple statement brought new knowledge to a reader who didn't know what I meant.

Use my mouth for what exactly??? haha

Most women dont understand their subconscious submissive natures and most guys know nothing about women, so most people would have needed the comment expanded a bit, thats all :)

I just reitorated what you said, but I felt like talking ;) haha

wow, this got heated since my first post... what r we even talking about at this point? lol

getting heated has much to do with masturbation!

lol, thats true

Moment for self promotion (relevent self promotion):

My poem "Too Late" is a good one relative to this topic :)

No, it doesnt hurt if you do it right.

MASTERBATION IS A TOUCHY SUBJECT

lol, you're right about that one

I think i have read somewhere, that theres a website ( for all you beginers out there) that gives tips etc. MyMasturbation.com

I cant believe how many e-mails I am getting from this post of younger girls asking me how to masterbate, lol.

Search google if you have questions, or go to that site. I've never been there, but I dont need lessons ;) hehe

I know how, but I was curious and went to that site. What is it? Some porno site??? What the hell?

lol, Madison, are you advertising porn sites??

O.o What I find the most funny... Is that girls are actually emailing you... Really.. All they need to do is just have fun with them selves one day... And find out what does what... You're dominating all the post i'm reading btw K... had to read this one after reading the 14/19 year old thing....

lol. I know, its because I have a job that sits me in front of the computer all day, so I am on the boards all the time.

And thats what I told the girls... just explore. But thinking back.... when I first started, I had NO clue, so I had to do research. I guess that if I had someone to help me out it would have been easier, so I'm glad I can "give back" ;) haha

lol. I never actually looked it up... A friend of mine sent me a site before that tells you what feels the most... It was actually educational... Tho the site was fairly weird and the fetishes the person had was extremely weird... I just explored until I knew what did what... Some days were total busts. lol

I guess in the beginning it might be better to have help but if you had help your better off just having sex. Tho, if you’re having help with the same sex then I guess that's actually having help since their probably doing what you could do yourself. Tho, I’m not going to get into specifics about that one. hehe

haha no seriously its a site that like gives tips!

i would never do such a thing! lol

lol. Being the lonely virgin girl I am.... I can relate.

I need to get laid@$#^*^%$$

Any volunteers?

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Teasing....

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