what would you do in my situation

Ok- there is this guy(isn't there always)and I have known him over a year...we talk everyday(email, phone, text, someting). We live about 700 miles apart, I met him when he was here visiting a mutual friend. At first we were friends only, then we got really close and started talking about moving closer to each other to be together. Well fate stepped in and my work sent me to him for a weekend. It was the best weekend ever. Well when I got back I told him my biggest secret ever, thought he should know. Well now he is being weird. He can't handle what I told him and is being distant. Now he says I should stay here and we should just be friends!!!! Not even a month ago he wanted me to move there so we could be together...now he just wants to be friends. I don't understand...how would you deal with this?

I dont know what the secret was, so I dont know what to tell you.

I am not pressing you to say it publically, if it is your biggest secret, by all means, keep it that way, however I dont think people can give adequate advice without knowing the whole situation.

Based on what I know, if he cant handle something, its his problem and not yours. You trusted him, and he couldnt deal with it, so you deserve someone who can accept everything about you and your past. Talk to him about it and ask him if he is being weird because of what you told him, just ask him why his feelings changed.

Other than that, try your best to get over him if its not going to work out and find someone who can accept the WHOLE you, dark secrets and all.

On going medical problems is the secret. Thats the best way to describe it without telling what it was.

if he's so short sighted to not want the whole package then he's not worth your time. Simple as that. Plenty of worthy men out there. Finding them is fun, too.

yeah you've obviously never been to TN(haha)

slim pickings as far as the male species go

Thanks for the advice though

He shouldnt be shallow and act weird because of it, but maybe he doesnt understand the nature of your medical issues, talk openly with him about it and let him ask you any question, give him information, etc. He may be in shock and not know how to react, so he is pushing you away.

TALK- it works miracles.

He just told me that when I told him the truth, he was too close to me and now he is emotionally dissatisfied! I guess I'm slow cause I don't know what the f- that means

What? That sounds retarded and like an excuse.

Ask him to clarify and elaborate, either he is lying or (like most things with a scrotum attached) just plain shitty at conveying his feelings into tangible and complete sentences.

He is very non confrontational I had to piss him off to get that out of him...he says he wanted us to be together and now we can't so he can deal...he realizes he is acting like a idiot but he doesn't know how to act.