what do you do after someone breaks your heart?

i don't think you can? cause u kinda miss your chance... well? maybe u should talk with him over and ask how he feels.. and telling him that your ready... if he doesn't accept it then? i guess you have to be strong and move on...
am not sure okay?
ask bret... cause he got the best answers >.

That would be me.

Ok, I can feel the gears grating as the relationship shifts up and down...

You have to be honest, very honest. Just get him alone in a quiet place and tell him exactly what you've said here: i don't know what to do maybe i should have never broke up with him first because now i am ready for that promise ring.

You have to realise that you made him feel so small he probably spent all of christmas in a daze. I'd also say he now doesn't trust you half as much as he did before as he reached out emotionally and had the door slammed in his face.

So you have to start from the beginning again. You have to wipe the slate clean, go on a first date and prove to him you're worthy of his affection.

Won't be easy, not by a long stretch. But if he's worth it, he's worth it.

Ok, that's the kind of thing you put in the original post *smiles*

Not to worry, the plan stays the same. Remember you broke up with him, so the onus is on you.

If you really want to be with him then you have to talk to him, explain the decisions you have made involving your relationship

Problem is you dumped him- big ego crush for a guy...talking is really the only way to settle this, get everything out in the open and go from there.

If he doesn't want to be with you, its kinda your fault cause you dumped him

You might not ever get the truth out of him- some people can't/won't be truthful about their feelings.

Do you think he loved you?

I have always been a firm believer in actions speak louder than words, so if you aren't sure, think about how he treated you. If he treated you like crap chances are he doesn't and never did, if he was good to you then he probably did love you and was showing you in his own way- guys are weird creatures.

Yes we are. Simple but wierd.

I'd listen to Darkgrl over me as she has the womanly advice that should be taking. I can only ever give the perspective from the man's (or boy's) point of view.

Write him a letter/e-mail. He needs to know. If he ignores the letter tell his parents. They make sure he gets the message.

If he won't listen to you then make him read it. It's his fault if you've tried but he won't give you the time of day. Be blunt, don't mix words, just tell it like it is.

He sounds like an a-hole to me...but thats just my opinion...can he not tell you are pregnant...obviously you guys have had more going on than in the original post but just trust your instincts on this, you are the only one here who knows him

Agreed, he's not representing my gender with any grace.

Also I agree that you must trust your instincts.

what do you do when some one brakes your heart, its hard to say...i mean ive had my heart broken and let me tell you it took forever to heal its not even fully healed yet! i know, its been almost a year since my ex and i have parted ways, he got another gurl, and ive had a couple guys since him but i suppose you just learn to adapt to not having them there anymore. ANd believe me when i say, time heels all. I mean from the time we first broke up till now god its a huge diffrence i couldnt even function some one saying his name now i just remmeber the past and i smile so just give it time.

well? moving on would be a good answer... since your on your own and you have to move on a forget about it... and be strong... it's hard... but if u believe in yourself and your friends there to help you... you should be fine