Ok, ive realised my problem. advice needed!

seems to me like you have been screwed over in the past enough to scare you. its ok to be a little gun shy but you have to put your self out there a little if not...you could miss out on someone really awesome.

You gots to get some confidence, mate. Walk tall, use eye contact (don't stare, just a few seconds). Be positive with a spring in your step and what ever you do, don't take anything too seriously.

Dress well, keep your hair in good order. Smile. When you see a nice girl look her in the eyes, smile and say hi. (Do that often, VERY good for confidence.) Wear shoes (sorry boys, women like shoes), a good shirt. Make an effort, but be casual.

More to come....