my mum died yesterday

im not sure its completly sunck in yet but my mum died yesterday, a day before mothers day. came quite quickly i supose. never seen it coming. i think i have the strength to handle it but im worried about my little sister whos 13, she needs me to be strong but i dont know what to say. what can you say, ive tried to comfert her but nothings helping, any ideas.

omg im so sorry. i lost my aunt a year ago and that was hard enough. i couldnt imagine the grief if i lost my mom. try to tell your sister and yourself that she is in a better place. and now she will be with you all the time. try also maybe taking her to see the movie finding neverland. that was a good movie that really touched upon that. just remember that shes not really gone, you just cant see her with your eyes open, close your eyes and she's there. and i know how it is for it to not sink in, at first when my aunt died, i just cried and it sunk in at first, but then i just couldnt imagine it, even now i dont know if it really has sunk in yet, but just remember where she is now and ho wonderful it must be. i really hope you and your sister will be okay!
~*LorienElf*~

nikki it must b hardest time n no words have power 2 heal ur grief but still u shud not 4get ur mom is watching over u n ur sis , she will always .
u have her memories ,let those memories bring smile on ur face coz tats wat ur mom want 2 always c 2 of u smiling .its now ur turn 2 wear her shoes 2 b 2nd mom 2 ur lil sis .just let her know u always there 4 her.time will make her more compose, but till than have more patience wid her.
she need u most .

take care,
--chavii--

how could you be so evil, theres times wen i have hated my mum for things shes done and said to me, times i really really wanted her to die, you have no idea how much it hurts. how much responsibility it is to look after a liltle sister, its murder, she turned round to me last night and said, shes never coming back, is she? what the hell do you reply to that?? i had nothing else to say than she never went. it hurts, everything ive worked for to make her proud, ill never get to see the look on her face, weddings, children, she wont be there!!! maybe you dont like ur mum, but i love my mum!! i will always love my mum. you should be careful wat you wish for, because it might just come true!!

I'm soooo sorry for what has happened..i can only imagine how you feel...assure your sister that everything will be okay..and that your always there for her...

i hope it helped...sorry if it didnt

with love
xX-Katherine-Xx

i'm sorry 4 u even though me an my mom argue i would hate 2 lose her. its not the same but i lost my dad a while back really all you can do is be there for her and be willing to talk to her wen she needs it. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

miss ur mother, thats u, love ur mother (even in death), thats u, grieve ur mother and wish for her back, thats U, not me.

As you have so clearly stated, people are unique, Teys.

Just as you don't love or care for your Mother, It does not mean you can be so harsh to people who clearly do. Yes, blunt is good, but there's a difference between being blunt and being inconsiderate.

I sympathise with you for your problems, but I don't think It was fair of you to be so cruel to someone who's obviously fragile at the moment.

Have more compassion.

-Laura.

thank you laura and Teys, im sorry. even though you should of kept that opinion to yourself i feel for you. hating your mum that much must be terrible. as i said there was times i hated my mum for some of the stuff she said and did to me but at the end of the day i love her soo much, and never once did i think that i would miss her this much. it must be terible, in your case, its almost like youve already lost your mum. thanks everyone youve been so great!!! love you all and stay strong!! nikki x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x

my deepest sympathy goes with you. not a while ago, my friend died on a car crash. she wasn't very close to me but it hurt like i've known her all my life. some of my friends have told me to look up and live life. i think that's what you should do and tell her. look up and know that she's always with you and she's always watching you. tell her to not to mourn for things too much and that your mother may not like what she sees. live life because it's just too short. when it's your time, you have to go. someday you'll see her too. good luck and i'm sorry again.

Kind of harsh, Aimz. You know nothing of this girl.

I understand what you're saying, but just be careful, she may actually be telling the truth. People grieve in different ways, however abstract they may appear to be.

-Laura.

I totally agree with you fallicious, i highly doubt after your mother dies youd go onto the computer and post about it. You'd be way to upset to come on here, when you would be greiving about your mothers death...if you really cared about her enough

[[sams]]

I disagree with both of you....I mean she did mention above that she was shocked and it hadn't sunk in yet.. ..it takes time before these things sink in....the day after someone close to me died, i went to school, went on the computer, everything....it has nothing to do with how much you care about them.....it's just how you deal with it/how long it takes to really sink in.......I'm truly sorry that happened to you btw....best wishes....stay strong.....

Kalika

Oh my god, I am so sorry for your loss x

Congratulations, I mish mien would die..

You know, I am sorry for this as I would typically refrain from negatively adressing most people, but you (Falliciousvendetta) truly are an invalid. Same for tears of fury: what the hell is wrong with you. I do not appreciate my mother in the slightest but she is still a human being and worthy of a little bloody courtesy. Beyond that, and far more importantly, is Nikki, who whether you understand her actions/emotions or not, is dealing with a great deal of pain. You have a problem, I imagine, where you sometimes feel like no one supports you or cares for your pain? Why don't you step up to the goddamned plate, support your peers, and perhaps you'll get a little of that back.

Nikki, I am sorry for your loss and truly I hope that you can understand that there are people here for you if you need to talk. As to why you are online? What a rediculous question: when my friend died, I immersed myself in daily activities that I had always felt comfort in. For those of you that cannot seem to comprehend, sometimes a little anonymous support from a supposedly accepting community is greaty soothing. Step up to the plate boys and girls...it doesn't matter why she hurts, why any of us hurts, only that we do.

Chris