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i dont know how to spell it but i need to know about bullemic people...i just learned but friend is bullemic i wanna understand it better...how she started i dunno she hates puking...which i dont understand can you do it with hatin puking? how do they puke? is it all in the mind like if they think they ate too much do they just puke? im worried

Hi, I've been bulimic on and off for a while now (hopefully got rid of it at last tho), so might be able to understand things.

Erm it usually starts with the person being v unhappy with themselves, maybe something in their life is troubling them etc, or they're feeling pretty helpless, so they punish themselves by making themselves vomit - it also helps them to feel like they have some control over whats happenng to them in their life - a bit like anorexia. I used to hate being sick too. But when you're being sick, it can feel like you're purging all the badness away, and you somehow feel 'cleaner'? and better with yourself....its hard to explain.

Sorry if this is graphic. Most people use their fingers to make themselves sick, but if it goes on for a long while ( like it did for me), then you're stomach learns to reject food and you're sick after eating any food whatsoever...not nice. It can become a real addiction, and it can turn worse, into anorexia.

Even worse, if the bulimia gets too bad, then you're electrolytes in your blood become depleted and you can have develop heart problems ( in extreme cases). Basically it should be taken v seriously, and i really hope you're friend gets some help and manages to overcome it as soon as poss! Best wishes to u and ur friend xxxx

toni
i couldnt have said it better

wow... thanks

My sister used to be anorexic and bullemic. She was both because she was/is over weight, and because she has control issues. She always felt like she had to be perfect, and (in her words) perfect people aren't fat. She stuck her finger down her throat, when she did eat. She'd go days without eating, and then she'd eat a lot of food, and throw it up. Not sure if that helps any, but what Toni said was said very well, and true for most bullemics.

Thanks all! Hope it helped a bit Kami. You're friend can always send me a private message of my profile, if she needs any advice/support :-) x

Toni you did help a ton...and everyone else thank you...im gonna try and help her