positive thoughts and feelings

Reading Craigs excellent thread it is clear that we all have our struggles and that PNQ is an excellent comfort blanket and somewhere we can escape to.
This site has some amazing individuals on here, this is the reason this site still trundles along despite the founders lord lucan impression.

That being said, I thought it would be nice to open a thread to share some good news, some small event or moment that brightened up your day/week etc.
I will kick it off with my little nugget

<----------------my new profile pic (f5 if it is still my creepy daughter in wrestling gimmick)

My eldest daughter became the youngest ever WAW Bellatrix female warriors Academy Champion on Sunday, winning the belt in a match against three other girls/women.
If anybody in PnQ land follow WWE, WAW is run by the family of Paige.

Although wrestling is 'staged' and is purely entertainment, the moves are real and the level of trust by the owners is real. They have rewarded Abbie for her hard work over the last 4 years training, by giving her a spot in the limelight.
Nice to have a little escapism now and again,
feel free to share your good news.

I do follow Wwe and that is such an amazing thing Darren!

Mine is just a small win for me personally- I have not had the urge to binge eat in over a week and a half now.

Loving this.

My initial post was not intended to be just for the bad things we feel. It was the every thing. The good, the bad and the down right stupid. Aka the lump behind my lug.

Think this is a suitable place for good things.

Craig

I sense one rather proud dad and rightfully so.

I've trained in various martial arts and the training is often harder and more painful than the actual contest you were preparing for.

The people you train with don't hold back. If you get thrown and you don't land right it knocks the wind right out of you.

Fair play

My profile pic.

I have been feeling pretty poorly for the last few weeks. Had a dose of flu that would not shift. Cold sweats the lot.

I got home grabbed a furry blanket and curled up on the sofa.

A few minutes later the pup decides I look comfy and curls in with me.

Simple things make for smiles

Oh I feel the need to add this.

One massively positive thing is this site and its members.

There is so much support. Yeah we have our little spats on occasion. Yet they all melt and we simmer down.

I don't think I've came across one grudge. Which is bloody impressive given our locations, religious beliefs, ethnic origins and ways of life.

We are kindred albeit splattered across the globe.

If I ever win that big lottery win, I swear I will bring as many of us together as possible. I've dreamt of such things. "A massive P'n'Q convention.

Yeah it's a dream. But what a dream!.

Oh and it'll be in Newyork. Why? Because it's my dream and I've never been!

Oh Darren. I just saw your pics on Facebook. You looked as proud as your words here. So gald to read. May her life be full of similar achievements. She is lucky to have you! So much support.

And Craig so true! If we ever make it. I would definitely try to join such a meeting. It would be historic! Maybe it might be possible at one point and not just a dream. Maybe we should all make a plan!

New York sounds fun :D

As for positive stuff.. I am excited. I and my fiance will do the official procedures to become Mr and Mrs next week. Signing our official marriage papers, though we won't move in or do a ceremony before a year. But still I am very excited that we are taking this step, we will be *technically* married, until our house and everything else is finished we can move in together and become *officially* married.

Wow wow wow.

So so happy for you both. Such smiles going on here.

When you do tie the knot and do we all get an invitation.

Only joking "perhaps"

I wish you both complete love and happiness.

Craig

It would be amazing to finally meet everyone.

It is but a dream though. However when world is full of dreams anything is peculiar and also possible.

Craig x

Hahaha well it's one way or the other. Either you get invited over.. Or we come over, tour for honeymoon and stop by some of you :p

Thank you Craig <3

There would always be a welcome at our house.

Same goes to any travelling members of PnQ.

Remember though! Any attempts to steal my puppy will be met by extreme coatings of flour and really cold milk lmfao

Time to sleep.

Sweet dreams all.

This is a genuine offer by the way.

Obviously it revolves around my working pattern. I get home Friday and leave again Monday. But I've weekends to show you the best part of England.

Our house is modest but comfortable and always warm.

Craig

Ps rule still stands about my puppy

Hahahaa that's so sweeeet actually! And that puppy is adorable. I'm not sure you should feel safe about us keeping it for you but again you're so kind that we can't do such a mean deed to you.

I know New York well as half my family is from there. It’s where my dad grew up. My sister has lived in Brooklyn for a decade. I can’t offer anyone a place to stay in New York, but I can put up anyone on a weekend in Nevada. No kidnapping my adorable, sweet cats! You’ll get the flour and milk treatment... or worse.

I live 4 hours away from New York City.... so whoooooooooooooooooooooot!!! There is great lodging deals in the Adirondacks (hint hint) Catskills as well...

Nana, I want to be the flower girl <3

Jane, Ill take a train to the city next time you visit and we shall have coffee or lunch or whatever, ok??

Darren, your daughters are just awesome, I get so excited to see their progress with wrestling :-)

Craig, I feel the same about this site and members... been on this site since 2004... Such beautiful people we have <3

Positive things in my life at the moment: My Husband is my rock and makes me giggle daily. My eldest grandson Ryan (robyns oldest/ being raised by my sister and brother in law) is getting football/basketball scouts sniffing him out because he is so talented (He's 9 people) and it just tickles me, this boy melts my heart.. He's 5 foot 2 and wears a size 10 mens shoe! I have 2 daughters and 4 step daughters.
all of my girls are just precious.... With my oldest being so ill... the 5 younger daughters keep me sane. All of them are in their twenties except for the youngest who is 11. When I get to crying, one hands me a tissue, the other grabs me a candy bar... and the three others who are out of state, call me and make me smile...

One more positive thing: Robyn called me tonight and said Momma, you are the best mom ever, dont you ever change who you are... I love you to the moon and back <3

Great positivity so far, from Jamies small victory (you are doing great BTW) Craig's puppy love and offer of shelter, we have Ranias brilliant news and Andreas love for her daughter's radiating this thread.

Craig, I reread your thread and you were right, you just asked for emotions to flow, we just all weighed in with the bad, ( which is an effective process)

Hi all...I just wanted to thank you all. After reading this my heart is warm and my soul at ease. Work has been a bear this past week. Love all you guys!

Blew the engine in my truck up yesterday, somewhat annoying to say the least but then my boss said, it's annoying having to fix it as it's going in a couple of months.

Which means I'm getting a shinny new truck after Christmas. :-)

Your cats would be safe lol

Wide grin reading this (except that I assure you, Jane, it is not my fault that every cat I've ever seen gravitates to me).
Nice going for your daughter, Darren.
Nana, you will be Mrs. Sunshine now.
Andrea, I LOVE upstate New York.
Jamie, keep it up. SUBLIMATE! Poetry works, doesn't it ;-)
Craig, just let us know, the whole gang will show up.

For myself, I went to my 50th High School Reunion in July and this weekend I'm going to my 30th law school reunion. Both times I get to show off my beautiful wife, Rosaura.

One positive thought
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Life is beautiful, and I feel like paradise on earth.

And happy for all of you.

Take care!

Love you all!

Today I realised, physically, rather than mentally, holding grudge for those who did wrong to you, is a big burden of punishment you should not carry. I remember Bob shank was warning me about that years back, and I foolishly thought I mastered that art already.
I understand now whatever you struggle, those burden can not be dropped unless they fall on their own. Unless you change drastically they wont fall no matter how you wrangle!!

Today I realised, Physically rather than mentally holding grudge for those who did wrong to you, is a big burden of punishment you should not carry. I remember Bob shank was warning me about that years back, and I foolishly thought I mastered that art already.
I understand now whatever you struggle, those burden can not be dropped unless they fall on their own. Unless you change drastically they wont fall no matter how you wrangle!!

You melt my heart, Robin and Andrea - Larry and Rosaura <3

naaz, your positive vibes are striking !

and Bob Shank! oh his name reminds me of everyone else </3 we miss many people over here.. Cindy (RIP) - Italian Stallion, Mel, Sib, Karl, Sylvia, Jad, Yakari, Natalie, Niko, Ingrid, Karla...and so many others who I wish can be back!

As for grudges; I agree that grudges tire you physically as much as mentally, however I do not agree that it's an art. For me it is much more simpler, I use this as an equation and it works for me. If I felt like someone did me wrong, or a situation was unfair to me; I honestly do put myself in that shoes and find that I also did something similar to someone else and damn even if unintentionally it does hurt ..and I simply forget what wrong was done to me and learn to be more responsible toward my actions cause I know how it feels and I know that I did not mean it when I did it so maybe they didn't mean it either, especially with friends and family.

Even in situations when, no I have never done a similar action or said a similar word, I do look at the bigger picture and say life is much more complicated than this attitude or that stance or that mistake. I ain't saying let's all be saints and go bubbly roses sugar and all nice, but once we look at things as though they are small deeds we won't feel so much hurt, it will just pass. Most people who do mistakes are not bad people and they don't mean to do wrong. We might all be guilty of doing something wrong, so we should all know how to be considerate of others mistakes towards us. And that does not include being hurt or bullied by someone just for the sake of evil and fun; although "Forgiveness when possible~ and when others are in regret" is really fine. We should take it easy.. nothing is worth it in my opinion. There should be much bigger room and much more space for good feelings. We all need that...I guess so at least

Dear Rania I am glad you disagree. I get bored when everyone agrees. Thank you for the words of wisdom.

Pnq is a home to those looking for positivity in their life. Whosoever is depressed just want to express himself and pnq not only provides shelter to those random feelings but the family members also listen to them, embrace it as their own.
Pnq is one of the positive thing happened in my life.
Thank you guys
Much love for pnq family

Things have gone pair shaped at work and I'm finished early and parked up in St Ives for the night. Some may argue that this is not positive as I'm 100's miles from home....

However myself another driver and goggle maps found a cheap pub within 5 minutes walk.

Sings in wizard of Oz stylie

We're off to see the bar man
The beautiful bar man of Ives.

Got knows what random twaddle I'll be adding later after a few schoops.

You have been warned lol

Craig

As for grudges; I agree that grudges tire you physically as much as mentally, however I do not agree that it's an art. For me it is much more simpler, I use this as an equation and it works for me. If I felt like someone did me wrong, or a situation was unfair to me; I honestly do put myself in that shoes and find that I also did something similar to someone else and damn even if unintentionally it does hurt ..and I simply forget what wrong was done to me and learn to be more responsible toward my actions cause I know how it feels and I know that I did not mean it when I did it so maybe they didn't mean it either, especially with friends and family.

Even in situations when, no I have never done a similar action or said a similar word, I do look at the bigger picture and say life is much more complicated than this attitude or that stance or that mistake. I ain't saying let's all be saints and go bubbly roses sugar and all nice, but once we look at things as though they are small deeds we won't feel so much hurt, it will just pass. Most people who do mistakes are not bad people and they don't mean to do wrong. We might all be guilty of doing something wrong, so we should all know how to be considerate of others mistakes towards us. And that does not include being hurt or bullied by someone just for the sake of evil and fun; although "Forgiveness when possible~ and when others are in regret" is really fine. We should take it easy.. nothing is worth it in my opinion. There should be much bigger room and much more space for good feelings. We all need that...I guess so at least

Rania, I wish more people in the world could think like you or at least have the same approach towards other.

Thank you

Just skimming, so my response might not quite fit in with the discussion, but... Grudges are interesting. I can’t hold them. It’s not a conscious choice. I might be more wary of someone and try to protect myself from being hurt again, but I can’t hold onto anger. It’s too exhausting for me to maintain, maybe it’s a type of strength I’ve never had, so my anger runs out extremely fast. Especially if someone apologizes to me, no matter how great the harm done. Apologies instantly melt away any residual anger I might feel.

I think anger and grudges are symptomatic of other feelings, like feeling wounded or embarrassed or guilty. We transform those feelings to shield ourselves from crumbling inward, projecting negativity outward instead. I’m more of a “crumbling inward,” self blame kinda gal. No, that’s not healthy either.

Edit: This is a positivity thread, so I won’t end on that note. The good news is: If you ever worry I’m holding a grudge against you, you can rest assured that I’m not! :D

So, my positive note for the week is I rescued a puppy and found her a 'furever' home. She's a Bluetick Beagle who randomly showed up at my house, shivering from the cold and needed love. We tried to find her owner but no one came forward. We had planned on keeping her but my other dog became aggressive towards her. More so out of jealousy, I think. But luckily someone from work is interested in her, I'm so glad. She's the sweetest thing. Loves cuddling in the bed lol

this is so sweet of you and of your friend.