I'M CONFUSED!! please help me soon

i'm in love with my ex still but i hate him with everything because he cheated now i'm falling in love again but my feelings for my ex will not fade what should i do?

Accept the fact that love continues but also that love is not the only reason for a relationship.

The Beatles said love is all you need and as nice as that is in principle it doesn't work out like that in real life.

Love is not all that matters, as Bret said. You can LOVE someone who abuses you and treats you like shit, but should you be in a relationship with that person? Love like that kills people. Seriously, you deserve better and you should try to find someone who will love you like you love them, real and true, and never hurt you or cheat on you.

You deserve love of the same callibur as you would give. Dont settle for less.

In the meantime, only time and concerted effort will get you over heart break. You have to TRY to get over him, it will not just happen. Time itself is of no value, and you will suffer if you allow yourself to wallow in your sorrow. Write about it, get a rebound, do whatever you need to do to live your own life and rebuild yourself, because as much as you love him you cannot:

A. Change him, or

B. Make him treat you better or love you more.

That is something you have to accept.

I always hear he likes me still but i don't know what i should do. but i also know for a fact i'm not breakin up wit my new boyfriend. If me and my new man split up should i go back with the other one if he asks me again?

If you feel like being treated like shit and if you count on things being the same.

If you want better, then understand what he is capable and willing to give you and know what is attainable in the relationship. It doesnt sound like he can give you what you want/need.

Its ultimately up to you, I would not go back with him however. Be strong.

thanx for the advice. how will i ever know if he ever had any feelings or still have the feelings that i have for him? even if his family and friends tell me i don't know what to belive any more for some reason my love grows for him everyday. Why?

He is in the past. it's time to move on not wonder about what if's.

u have a bf rite ? it would hurt your bf if he knew you had feelings for your ex so make sure that doesnt get out in the open...cos in this day an age people talk.

u need to concentrate on you current BF am sure he makes you happy but your ex ...remember he did cheat on u...and so if i wud do ..dont represss or supress your feelings becasue they will come back u have to you have to think logically about
it..i wouldnt go back for ur ex again.

it's easy for you to say that. but not for me to do. i need to know. what he felt. you know some kind of closure.

there is never anything easy about love. and closure is something very hard to get. sometimes not knowing is the best thing. the longer you keep yourself wondering, the longer you are going to hold yourself back from living. chances are he has moved on and he don't care what you are going threw. pick yourself up and be strong and concentrate on the future and not a past you can't change. he cheated on you...that says that he never gave a rats ass about you in the first place.

thanx. i didn't tell anyone i knew would tell. but i need closure u know. the bad thig is i can't call my ex bcuz i go wit his cousin and his cousin is so much better true. i know it sounds bad but it's not his cuz asked me and i did like him so i said yes what hould i do?

the thing is he asks about me and called me the other day and hung up. his best friend said he still cares but he knows he won't have another chance for awhile

see where things go with the cuz and don't worry about him. he's not worth your time. unfortunately i can only tell you that time can make u truly see this.

see what that he lost a good thing? cuz every one tells me that. but thatz what everyone says. but why does my love grow even when i don't think about him? i know it groews because when i do think about t it feels like it got sronger. but i know he cares but he tells my "older brothers" he didnt hurt me cuz he knows he'll get fucked up. but then he tells his best friend this and says he wants to say sorry but is afraid to call when he does call i gonna be afraid afraid to talk bcuz now i love 2 people his cuz and him.

my dear u really need to see..this guy doesn't give a shit about u. HE CHEATED ON YOU. People that love you will not turn to someone else. I don't care what excuse he gives for it or not. He is a loser. The old saying "actions speak louder that words" rings true. If he loved you AT ALL, he would have stayed faithful to you instead of looking for someone else. Love grows for many different reasons though someone hurts us..god I know this, but u need to forget about him. He needs to grow up because he has no idea what love is.

ya i know that but why does he tell his best friend he still care and even his family told me

he tells people that so that they don't tell him off for what he did. He never cared at all.

no not his best friend because his best friend don't tell him off for nothin. his best friend doesn't yell at him because well his best friend cheats on gurls to and so he keeps his mouth shut. i know you get staright to the point but you really don't have to say it like that in those exact words i mean i love the advice your giving but i mean i slept with him and for you to say it like that well ya know

woow...I'm sorry!!!

what are you sorry about? (i'm not being rude or nothin jus askin cuz no one eva said that b4)