help me out

the post about fights thats jsut a couple below this one...it wont let me read it anyone wanna hook me up with what its saying...ive been havinbg our first few big fights lately...wanna know if that post can help...or if anyone can help...

Fights with the one you love??
author: Brown Eyed Gurl
date: 2005.03.14 20:13

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Has anyone had fights when the one they love??? well i'm sure a lot of u have but what was it about?? were they just stupid ones?? or were they really big ones??

me and my boyfriend have been fighting a lot and i'm not sure if it's just because we've been together for a year and we haven't been able to see eachother for a while now. well we don't see eachother very much and when we do it's not all that long since i got school and he's got work.

the only time we get to spend time together is the weekends when i stay at his house from friday to sunday almost every weekend. do u think we've just been fighting because we miss eachother?? because a lot of the things we fight alot are stupid and it's when were on the phone or net. please post.

author: sweet dolphin
date: 2005.03.14 20:32

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I had the same problem once, when we couldn't see each other. When I wanted to c him, he was busy. Or when he wanted to be with me I was busy. I felt bad when i was busy and he was having fun with his friends..which lots of them are girls. I missed him and could not accept that he was having fun with other girls.
I think your fight is because of that: You miss each other a lot.

author: vix
date: 2005.03.15 13:26

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“Fights with the one you love??”

…make for great make-up-sex.

Me and my ex (we were in a three year relationship and used to argue a hell of a lot) used to argue about everything.
In the beginning it was silly stuff like
“Did you put three sugars in my tea?”
“Yeah, why?”
“You know I only take two sugars…”
“Oh I am sorry…can you bear to drink it still?”
“There’s no need for sarcasm…”
“Well it’s a tea spoon of sugar. Get over it…”
“There is nothing to ‘get over’”
“Then why are you making a thing out of it?”
“I’m not…”
“You are!”
“Stop arguing…”
“You started it”
And it would turn into a big argument…
But by the end of the relationship we were arguing about money, his constant drug use and lying, infidelity, sex and allsorts…
A friend would tell me he’d been out with my boyfriend the night before and that my boyfriend had been using coke or whatever and then I’d ask my boyfriend:
“What were you up to last night?”
“Not much, had a few beers with a mate…”
“Oh right…you weren’t using anything then?”
“Who told you I was?”
“Just a mate-“
“Oh and you believe them over me, yeah there’s a lot of trust between us I can see…why are you going behind my back asking mates what I’ve been doing?!”
“I wasn’t they just mentioned it..”
“I bet they did…”
“What’s that supposed to mean?”
“It means stop fucking starting arguments…”
“I didn’t mean to argue, It’s just when you lie about drug use it usually means there’s a problem…”
“There is…you constantly on my back!”
“Oh yeah, like hell I am! I’m so sorry that I give a shit!”
“Yeah so am i…”
And that would then spark a huge row, occasionally involving violence and then one of us would walk away…

-sighs- such a loving relationship
Actually one of the first times we met we had a row and he threw a beer cap at me and it hit me in the head (and hurt)…-_-‘ males…

author: vix
date: 2005.03.15 13:27

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Even when we weren’t mad at each other we communicated through sarcasm and arguing, funny that…I still miss him though, we did have some amazing times…as hard as it is to believe lol

author: © Kaitlin Kristina
date: 2005.03.15 13:34

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I hate when I fight with my boyfriend, it breaks my heart every time. I would rather fight with ANYONE than risk hurting him or have him hurt me, because no one is capable of hurting me like he is, whether he means to or not.

author: Bret Higgins
date: 2005.03.15 13:51

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We all argue. My wife and I have a big blow out ever 5 or 6 months. Not from any thing big, but from the annoying little shit that builds up over time.

That's what happens when you live in each other's pockets. It is nothing to worry about.

author: helena
date: 2005.03.15 14:22

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i know exactly where your coming from, me and my bf hav been 2gether a year now too and we keep arguing over the slightest thing, it really gets 2 me because everyone says were great together i just wish we could cut the crap out otherwise we wont last much longer...

author: Kela
date: 2005.03.15 14:38

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Sometimes love has its ups and downs. But both the lovers have to work things out together other than one person trying to work it out while the other fools around. Usually people fight about stupidest things and that should be avoided because it can lead to bigger arguments. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. And we certainly do have stupid times when we fight over the dumbest reasons. When you really think about it, why should you fight for? And there's only one lifetime that we get to spend time together. Shouldn't those times be used for us to love each other? That was the answer that hit me hard. Sometimes, it's good to talk about your feeling to the love one. Tell him how you're feeling about the relationship, whether some things should be improved or not. He should tell you how he is feeling or what he wants to do in the future with you. Sometimes spending time together helps it out too. Because if you don’t spend much time together and when you meet again, wouldn’t you want the most romantic time together? But when both don’t get the attention they lost while they were alone, things are going to spice up. And little arguments are going to turn upside down. And usually both person are either stressed out and can’t pay that much attention to their love one. Which is usually is the male person because they don’t really know how girls want to be treated. But like I said, both the lover has to work things out together. And take things with reality other than a story. Well, if you have anymore questions, email me at wun_luv17@hotmail.com. I’m welling to answer your questions. Bye! GOOD LUCK!

author: Becky
date: 2005.03.15 14:51

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Heya, I've been with my boyfriend for 13 months and we did argue a lot over really stupid things usually due to us misinteruperating what the other has said, and then the other one gets hurt etc...and then I read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" and its really good and makes so much sense! Every couple argues, its normal but we forget that men and women are different and we think differently...sorry to get into a councillor mode lol!! But yeh, me and my boyfriend used to argue, but now we talk to each other and take monday i was upset because i was so stressed out and i missed him loads, i spoke to him about it and now we're really loved up! I recommend u read "men are from mars, women are from venus" xx

author: joanne
date: 2005.03.15 16:15

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me and my borfriend fight over stupid things but we get over them real quick......but hes the one allways saying sorry :P

author: cody etherton
date: 2005.03.15 17:27

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me and my boyfriend billy have fights over everything mostly it's little but lately we ahve been fighting over him being over all other girls and not me. but we are still together.

author: Steven
date: 2005.03.15 20:19

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fighting not a good sigh... i got into a fight and i lost my girlfriend... so fight arn't a good sign...

author: Tiffany
date: 2005.03.16 07:04

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I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 years and we fight a lot.. but only little fights though.

author: Ashley
date: 2005.03.16 19:18

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well first of all everyone fights no matter who you are. its unhealthy to not fight you need to but you don't need to let the fight get the best of you! you can fight and arguee but don't let it ruwin the relationship between you and you bf you many love him and not realizes it till you and him break up and its so hard to get tihen back. I know how it is to fight with your loved one b/c I have plenty of times and another good thing about it is that it made me and him realize how much we ment to eachother and how much we need eachother well i hope that things ture out ok for you and well if you love him or don't hide your feelings you will regret it!!!

author: Brown Eyed Gurl
date: 2005.03.17 06:33

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thanks everyone who posted on here. it really helps me and for an update me and my boyfriend had a long talk about the fighting a couple days ago and we are trying our best to be able to see eachother more and also we have been getting along better. i think the fighting kind of mad our relationship stronger. thanks everyone :) it helped a lot.

Ah, hope I won't be in trouble or something cuz of this. but yeah, here it is. err, just wanted to help you out.
-Take Care

thanks so much....that helped out alot...