how do you know if a guy is playing you

This guy i am corresponding with, I think he is great, we are wanting to meet, but he can never set a time or date. I think sometimes he might be playing me, but then again, i dont know. Here are some of the things that make me wonder. He wont give me his phone number, which is no big deal to me, but others i have talked to think it is. I am leary about giving my number out also. He wants to meet me, but wont set a time for us to get together. (he lives 4 hours away).
But then again, he tells me he cares about me and wants to meet me, but he is scared because he dont wanna rush this. we have been talking for about 3-4 months, but only seriously for about 2. He has a daughter, and i have 2. He has met both of my daughters online and has seen them on my web cam. Last night, I got to talk to his daughter on here and she saw me for the first time on cam.
Now my question is, if he were playing me, would he let me talk to his daughter and let her see me on cam. and we also talked today and i talked to her and she saw me again. this is so confusing for me.
Please, any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.
email me at singlemom_352000@yahoo.com

it doesnt really sound like hes playing u to me it just sounds as if hes just shy or nervous or even maybe scared to be rushed into things with you obviously it didnt work the first time around for him and he doesnt want to ruin things with u if it is that serious as u say it is hes not playing.... dont worry about it

thanks for the advice Sandy, most of the time i think it is for real, but there are times that i wonder. I know he has been hurt in past relationships, he has told me, and i know he dont want to rush this for fear it may not work, so I am just being patient with him till he gets things straight in his mind and heart and knows that i would not hurt him for nothing, i care way to much for him to do that.

thanks MC for the advice. In our conversation just the other day he made a remark to me about what if we meet and after a while i want out, what would I do? and he also made the remark to me that if we were to have sex, is that all i want from him. I told him i would never do that to him, i know what my feeling are for him and I have no intentions of walking out. And as far as the sex goes, sure someday, i'd like to have sex with him, but that has nothing to do with why i care about him. He is just a very special guy, and we have so much in common, with our likes and dislikes. we are both single parents. I am just taking it slow, and being patient with him. hopefully things will work out.
I'll keep ya all posted on how it is going
thanks

hi , well heres what id liek to know in order to get a better concept.ok so you guys met online and have a online thing but youve nevr spoken on the phone and have nevr met.Alright id say if he truly loved you and cared for you deeply or what not meeting i can understand maybe he snot ready but why not talk on the phone??.Reason being you see alot of ppl onlien who are not what they tell you they are it could be all bull.Has he shown you pictures of himself and his children ?? does he have a mic so you can hear his actaul voice or a cam so you can see him??.I noticed you metioned you taled to his "daugher" but if hes not being truthful it could be him acting as "his child" and what not.Thats teh only thing and being how its online he could be married or odler or ynger than what hes telling you.Id say def take it slow and see what happens in time all will be known but being how hes only 4 hrs away as oppsed to states away him not talkign on teh phone is odd.Good luck and always be careful about what kinda personal information you give out to ppl online you truly dont know.

Olivia,
alot of what you said, I have already thought about. I am taking it slow, and am just hoping for the best.
Actually he is 2 states away from me. It is just a 4-41/2 hour drive between us.
i'll let ya know how it goes