uh oh...

okay so here's my situation...my boyfriend (of 10 months) is in a band w/ these 3 other guys, 2 of them who are basically like brothers now to me and eachother and all of which i'm really close to, just from being around them so much. anyway, 3 of the guys (including my bf) went on a trip together this week and so i was stuck home by myself..and the only member of the band left was the one i was the least close to, cuz i hadn't known him long at all, he was newest to the band. so anyway...i was talking to him (not in person) and we were just getting along really well. we werent flirting or anything, but i felt so comfortable from the beginning. so we started talking about all this personal stuff that like best friends talk about but it came so easily w/ him, i wasnt nervous at all..i totally trusted him and vice versa and we were laughing and both had an awesome time and we really got to know eachother. my problem is...i had a friend over last night and i was gonna say i miss my bf, but i said the other guys name instead and the whole night i was thinking about him nonstop. is it just cuz we're so close now or is there something between us? i mean i've never felt so automatically close to a guy..we just 'fit' when we started talking, it was so natural. i mean i'm closer to my bf and i love him, but i'm getting so confused. i'd never break up w/ my bf for anyone, because i still have feelings for him, but i dont know what to do about this..i cant stop thinkin bout the other guy. any suggestions or thoughts about this?

i feel like what took me 10 months w/ my bf, i accomplished in an hour w/ this other guy, and it scared me a bit.

''i feel like what took me 10 months w/ my bf, i accomplished in an hour ''

dont get me wrong ...but this include all the physicall stuff ?

it is abit scary thinkin it took you along time to get to know someone you now love when it only took you 1 hour to get to know another, its natural i think its just a test for your relationship, only you can decide what to do, but what sort of friend would he be to your boy/f if he was trying to get you........i meen to be honest i think its all been thrown out of proportion and all the little things you missed from your boy/f are being shown to you throught this guy so it makes you think of him more than your boy/f. things should go back to normal when your boy/f is back but if not i would reconsider your relationship

hope it helps xxx

hussain....no...remember i said i wasnt talking to him in person? there's been no physical contact or gestures or anythng whatsoever, i meant i feel as close emotionally to him, and it didnt take that long.

dani...i know what you mean that it was probably cuz he was showing me stuff that had just been "expected" w/ my bf, but since he didnt have to do it, it made it more noticable and special i guess. i dont think he was trying to get me, not at all, he'd never do that to my bf. neither would i. i was just a bit scared after talking to him, cuz it all came so easily. and thanks, that helped a lot..gave me stuff to think about.

again to hussain...if it did include the physical stuff, i wouldnt even consider staying w/ my bf, because i cant stand cheating, or a cheater.

well wot i would do is consider that guy as a friend and it seems there are signs that u guys can become really good friends.

So take him as a friend and stay loyal to ur b/f.
i have mentioned my other mates names while talking on the phone to a mate..... it happens.

sounds good to me, thanks!

hey there! i think really cos ur bloke was away u wo missin him and this other guy made it easy for u. it reminded u of what u have wi ur bloke and cos it came easy with u both it got u thinking. uve been going out wi ur bloke for a long time and people do think different things sometimes. dont worry itll just b a passin phase and uve said u love ur bloke and that nothing will ever happen with this other guy so make sure it stays that way. im sure itll sort itself art when ur bloke gets bk. this other guy will seem like a distant memory. oh just a suggestion, when ur bloke gets bk y not arrange a nice day out so u can get to know him better again! or maybe even a really nice long convo?
hope this helps
take care
xxxLoUxxx