Feel Free To Argue...

Alright. I don't know how to explain it. I personally also think its stupid, yet I do it too. For me, its not about how disfunctional my family is. Or how wretched my life is. It has nothing to do with my feelings twords others, or how much I hate everyone. Its how I feel inside, And for that brief second its like all my pain is gone. Most people dont understand why anyone does it, except why they do it themselves. Everyone feels pain to some extent. It just depends upon the person and how they handle it. Many of us for instance turn to cutting. Many others turn to blocking out the world, while others keep it bottled up inside. Its just the person. I actaully wrote a poem about it if you want to read it, its called Perfect Pose...go check it out, it might help you understand a little more...If anyone else can help me explain, it would be greatly apreciated!

You all make good points but, when a person feels as if its all there fault then cutting themselves is a type of punishment. there are many people who do cut for attention.

I don't know how to explain it any further. It does sound stupid, trust me, I know...I thought the same thing before I started...but IDK...I can't explain it any further...It does sound completely stupid! But idk...maybe one day someone will be able to make you underdstand..I can't, this is how I personally feel. I can't speak for all cutters, only myself. So you need to get more than one cutters explanation before anything.....I can't explain anything more...I don't think...unless you want to ask a question....

I also agree with Jessica, she makes a good point as well .There are also many many people out there who cut to get attention. But something that has been going through my mind lately, is I know people who cut and they have told me that its cuz no one care and they want them to see how much they've been hurt. So in a way, wouldn't that make them being doing it for attention as well? just a thought, don't know what you think of it....but i've been thinking about that lately...

Ok I think part of the problem is you havent been a cutter so you wouldnt understand the feeling you get when you hurt yourself. It doesnt actually feel like pain, it actually feels the oppisite, like all the pain goes at that moment and you feel good about yourself instead. Of course its only temporary which is why people then do it again and again and become addicted. I understand where you're coming from, because I would have said the same thing before I started self harming.

And to your previous post, the cutter isnt a dumbass, just someone who wants help. Maybe they do belong in a phyciatric ward but they often dont realize what they are doing to themselves.

I have no idea honostly. I'm not really into cutting....I have done it...and afterwords have regretted doing so. but I'm not one to cut 3 or for times a day...Its just goes back to me saying everyone feels pain to some extent and everyone handles it differently...i personally think our entire society is screwed up and need to be put in a psychward....but hey, thats my opinion....i don't know what else to say...you need to talk to someone who is extremelly into it...

Look like I said earlier, you obviously wouldnt understand because you havent cut yourself. Now stop being so selfish and try and see both peoples points of view. I said I understand why you think that about cutters but you are just being ignorant now.

"there is no such thing as a failed suicide attempt, just a success at getting attention."

Way to put it. I like that quote.

though I can see your point and agree with alot of what you are saying, I have to point out a few things.

Some people arguing that cutting is a desperate attempt for help, or just plain attention. Which, pathectically, it is some of the time.
However, here are a few reasons why SOME people who cut aren't attention seekers.

Some people don't know this but bleeding is actually a release and can act like a drug. These cutters who do go through tremendous pain and aren't seeking attention, don't cut for the scars or pain, they cut for the blood.
After a person allows themselves to bleed a certain amount, it leaves them tired, fatigued, and numb. This is the effect that some drugs can cause as well, a feeling of numbness and carefree thoughts.

People like to experience this feeling because it gives them a break from the everyday stresses of life, giving them a temporary relief from their current lifestyle and problems and being an alternative to drugs.
If course it's unhealthy, wrong, and incredibly dangerous, but I hope that you might be able to see some explenation as to why some people cut.
(other than the pathetic attention seekers and false suicidals)

I posted a question like that along time ago! My thoughts are that it is the "in" thing to do right now. When I was younger we never really heard about cutting. I only knew one person to be a cutter. She was getting professional help and was told cutters hurt themselves rather than others. I think it becomes an addiction like other things alcohol, drugs, ect.! When I was younger it was drugs and alcohol which is still a problem. It all comes down to if u want to be a leader or a follower! I also agree it's a stupid thing to do the rest of their lives they will have those scars to remind them of what they did. If u do this go to a doctor and get the help u need.

About suicide if u want to die then u will die not announce to the world and then make it through! We had a teacher when I was in school the nicest man u could ever meet. Some students were mad over their grades when it came to playing sports. So they made up the story that he was molesting them. It made the papers destroyed his career along with his personal relationship. He was so devestated that he shot himself in his back yard before doing so he called the police so he would be found dead right away before a neighbor would find him. He lived in town so it happened very fast the police were there within a minute of his suicide. The students finally all came forward and admitted that they had lied. They have that to live with the rest of their lives. So back to my point if u really want to die u will! I am sorry to all the cutters out there but get the help u need before it is to late!

You arent normal just because you have very narrow minded views on cutters. 1 in 10 teenagers self-harm, so actually its quite common. And how do you know that a cutter doesnt think about their friends and family, maybe they do and feel guilty so they feel they have to punish themselves further. At the time, the person probably isnt thinking about how it might affect other people, which is like you said selfish, but the person may be to ill to realize. Although some cutters are only attention seeking, some depression and cutting are caused by a serious mental illness. Therefore it isnt the persons fault, and they need help before it gets out of control.

you dont seem to grasp the real reason people cut then. ive found most people who never have and wonder why others do always think its for a trend or to get attention. in some cases it is, but that only stems from the fact that many do it for a real reason and others dont understand that and instantly lable them. my thoughts on the real reasons are that its a way to calm yourself down. some people cry or somethinig like that, but others dont and they turn to cutting or another method of causing pain unto themselves. when you are in pain, your body sends chemicals to the brain which help in stress relief ect, but are also highly addictive. so for one reason or another, people turn to cutting for some sort of relief. some for the pain and others for the sight of the blood. i dont think they are stupid for it at all. and you shouldnt lable them all for it just because some do it for a trend or something. some people have real reasons and you should probably stop calling them names for it.

again mystic thoughts, we have different ways of coping, trying living a day, okay a fuckin minute of what we have to live through. and have you ever thought that not all "cutters" want to die. hello that would be why we cut, seriously its a way of letting a piece of you die, without killing yourself. at least for me it is. and matt come up with some fuckin alternative that takes away all the shit we go through, take away the rape, the assault, the beatings, take away it fucking all..maybe sing us a song, you fucking know it alls.

Ok physical pain can be controlled unlike emotional pain and if you are physically hurt, it makes the emotional side of things seem less bad. Well that'swhy soem people cut anyway

Ok when you say just stop I don't think you really understand how hard it is to stop cutting. I cut and I can't explain why I do it except that at the time when I do it it feels like a release to me, I do not enjoy cutting and I hate having cuts on my arms, but it is possible to become addicted to cutting, I said this before, if someone is hurting themselves for attention, instead of being horrible to them, give them attention because if they go that far, they must really need the attention, what harm will it do to stop them hurting themselves by giving them some attention.

I have tried to stop cutting but I am finding it really hard, It is strange how hard it is to stop, I feel guilty about the example I am setting to the people that know me and to any younger people and I do not advertise cutting at all, I hate to see people doing it to themselves and it is awful that so many people do it.

ive stopped cutting and ive neever been happier

all of yas, dont judge ok? it aint attractive

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