Before Marriage

Discuss why you should or should not have sex before marriage. It's not as simple as it seems.

No. I don't think you should. I think saving yourself for the person you will most likely spend the rest of your life with is important and morally correct.
Car

what is morality....?
why most we follow it...?
who decided that it was morally right to do certian things...?
make up your own morals...dont follow others...

Im ok with sex before marrigae cause i feel sex plays a large role in your relationship.Thers alot of factors that add up to make a relationship/marriage work and sexual compablity(sp) is a major factor.You can have all the same goals and views on life get alogn amazing but if there is no spark sexually the marrige will not work cause that sort of intimacy plays a large role.Without that spark and passion your left at just friends.Now being that im ok with sex before marige i also belive in waiting a amount of time i dotn agree sleepign with evryone is ok but if youve met that person your going to marry and you both have decided there is noone else i say go for it your going to have sex regardless after you get married better you know if the two people click before it just ends up in seperation.Just my opion.

I think that if everyone waited to have sex after marriage that divorce rates would ultimately go up, because people would marry the wrong person in a rush to have sex.

Many people now days are not getting married until they are in their 30's, do people really want to wait that long to have sex?

Plus, the likelyhood is that you wont spend the rest of your life with that person.

And where did you pull the statistic that 40% of condoms break or come off? That's ridiculous, if they were that unreliable they would not be a reputable form of birth control, and they ARE a reputable form of birth control.

NO to sex before marraige - AND HERE IS WHY

-Unwanted pregnancies - leading to all sort of problems -
-Contraception isnt 100% effective
-IF you are a Christian, Muslim etc its a SIN
--STD'S - even worse if having multiple sex partners BEFORE marriage
-not jsut talking about HIV/AIDS
talking about - Herpes
- Clamidia
- Syphillis
-Gonorrhea
-Trichomoniasis
-Human Papilloma virus
-Hepatitis B
-Chanroid

-If you don't marry that person who you've had sex with, then the person who you do marry won't get the entire you.

-- If you have sex before marriage you will never know whether the relationship is based on a true "kinship" with that person or just sex.

Sex outside of marriage is called fornication and the Bible definitely condemns it.

Acts 15:29, "...that you abstain from things sacrificed to idols and from blood and from things strangled and from fornication; if you keep yourselves free from such things, you will do well."

key word is fornication = sex before marraige

-Sexual intercaourse is like a beautiful gift. It's only one special gift that should not be wasted on just a love fling.

-Most teenage boys who have sex regret losing their virginity. Almost 3/4 of teenage girls who have sex regret losing their virginity.
Source: (for the ¾ teenage figures ) --Centre for Reclaiming America (2003) http://www.reclaimamerica.org/PAGES/fastfacts/Abstinence.pdf

i am saving myself for marriage. but if the time comes when i feel that im ready before hand, then i might go for it. but i will take my precautions. but i say wait. but if you feel ready or whatever then you(anyone) should do what they think is right for themselves.

It is completely up to each person. No one can make the choice for you. If you think you've found the one and you wait, that is so romantic! And it takes a lot of slef control, lol. But if you don't wait, that's ok too. If you died tomorrow and didn't get to experience it, it would be a loss. But, each to his/her own.

I was waiting for someone to bring up Nano's point.

I have talked to many boys and men about the importance of virginity, and have been shocked to find how "valuable" it makes a girl.

For me, I dont really care if a guy is a virgin or not, I would rather actually be with a more experianced guy than a virgin.

But to men and boys the sexual history of a girl is more important than girls realize, and it's important to consider.

Sex before marriage only matters if you are religious.

Not a lot else counts without a good moral and strict background to back it up. The point of morality came up early and morals we have today are based on religion. Ironically Catholic school girls are the sluttiest and loosest girls in the UK with the highest teenage birthrate. I would imagine that it would be similar in the USA, but don't quote me.

Make your own morals if you desire, but don't expect them to become popular.

AS per the individual and their personal beliefs I would expect...

Guys appeal to virgins lies in the purity, like Nano (I think it was) said.

I understand the concept to a certain extent but it personally doesnt matter to me.

I dont think you have to wait for marriage, but you should wait for the right person.

Bob, great way to put it.

I don't think you're depriving the person you marry when you don't give them your virginity. It is important and not something easily given away but I think that is over exaggerating its significance.

Sex is a very important part of a relationship. I wouldn't go into a marriage unsure of how the sexual aspect of the relationship is going to be.

Though maybe it was better back when you were expected to marry with your virginity intact.

Teenagers in this generation don't have very strong morals.