This is for the girls

I would like to know why you girls think that you need to have sex to make a guy love you, or to be socially accepted? This is specifically directed toward the girls on here who are 13, 14, 15 years old and have had sex.

Though I appreciate the input, Matt, read the title. I want to know what the girls think about it, not what you think they think about it.

I believe that it has a lot to do with society because sex it ever where now. It really always has been but there is so much more on tv and in magazines that younger kids are reading, that without them knowing it, they are starting to think that they have to do this, and so they do!

I also beleive that it has to do with that power that guys can have over girls. Even at a young age, if a boy has an older brother and ever listened to him, or his dad sometimes, he knows how to talk "sexualy" if you will, to a girl. Therefore, making the girl feel like he wants to be with her for the rest of his life, and when you're young, you can think that about every guy you see. It's hormones, and for some reason, the younger generation has a lot more of them then anyone out there. Lol.

I do blame some girls for it as well. Some girls just fall under a spell to quickly, even if it's just the way a guy looks or holds her hand, and she feels that even though she's young, it doesn't matter b/c adults are saying "age doesn't matter". So yeah I dunno...it's just a thought.

honey Its been going on for decades. It was like that in my genoration to. I know from my small home town on an island that there was nothing better to do. We drank had sex and did drugs.
I think part of it is pearpresher another part is low selfasteam. And if they have ever been hurt in that way Its a way of life. They eather hate any thing to do with sex or can't get enough.
That comes from personol experance as well as working as a valentear at the local rape center.

Thank you for the responses that you have given. Keep them coming.

Girls relate sex to love because guys give them love in order to get sex from them.

My mama always told me: Girls give sex to get love and boys give love to get sex.

Girls like the attention it gives them, girls like to be cuddled and loved on, they like to feel they are giving something to their man, etc.

It's unfortunate that teenage boys are the ones who really make the situation difficult, they are only interested in giving girls loving attention if it leads to sex (in most cases) and girls understand that. They will do what's necessary to get their personal needs met... and they want love like boys want sex.

The situation gets even worse when the girl's dad doesnt give her enough attention or she has had bad male rolemodels.

okay so im 18 instead o the other ages but i think it comes down to society, popularity and probabuily peer pressure or b/f pressure if the guy is a lot older. i dunt no exactly cos i want one o these gals but i think its all to do with trying to 'grow' up and 'fit in' .... cant see point of it myself...i mean there are cases wheres its all genuine but not often....i agree with what everyone has said and i think we are all on same wavelngth here lol. i personally think ppl should be themselves regardless of others but having said that it is really hard in todays society....life can be so cruel lol :p
take cre everyone!
xxxLoUxxx

Moonwick

Thank you so much for that very thoughtful insight from a mother's point of view. There should be more parents in the world like you and your husband. You should be very proud of yourselves and your daughters. I wish you luck in the rearing of your children.

Timothy Bledsoe

I think it's because of pressure and some need to do it in order to be more "popular" and liked more. I think it's stupid. I'm 14 & a virgin and I see no problem with being one for a while until I am ready.

i been asked if i wanted 2 but im scared of pregnancy so im coo how i am i dont need 2 lose ma V

i feel like u have 2 b in love to have sex... but now i guess the guy i was wit never really loved me bc now hes off flucking another gurl.. wat an a$$

Hmm... I haven't read the rest of the posts but I'll just answer myself...
I am 15, and have never had sex, and I want to keep it that way for a couple of years.
I can't say anything about the sex thing, I think it's stupid to be pressured into it, or to beleive that sex will keep the relationship going (like a guy friend of mine said).
But I like being socially accepted because... I don't feel like people hate me. I am a people pleaser, I do my own thing, but I like others to be happy. Otherwise if I was teased, bullied or looked on as a freak, I'd feel depressed and unwanted, and probably resort to some sort of depressive act.

Sorry I don't know how to put my feelings into words, I might try a bit later... hope you understand what I'm saying.

I don't think that you need to love someone to have sex with them, I think that you should be sexually attracted to them. However, if you are going to make love to someone I think you should love them. Basically, I don't think you need to be in love for sex, just attracted to the person.

In reply to Nicole's post...

First time's are different for everyone. What is not a good experience for some people, may turn out great for others.

Some People take a while to get adjusted to having sex, and sometimes the first few times are less then pleasurable, but, once you have it more, you will possibly grow to like it more. It's different for everyone.