Lack of communication. Please help!!!!!

my bf, also going by the name of mistake on this site posted a topic saying he had a dilemma. heres what it said
ok me and my girlfriend amy have been going out for about 2 years we live very far apart so when i go over there its a 7 hour journey but i get to stay there a few nights with her(not allowed to share the same bed though)when we first started going out we were madly in love but recently she seems to be getting angry at me alot and i think our light is fading so heres my question
1)should i leave her and ask if we can be friends
2)hope its a phase and wait
3)say that were on a break for a bit

Now instead of talking to me about it, he went on the net and talked to complete strangers about it, so instead of me talking this threw with him i'm going to do the same

so whats your point? im confused

you see, i do get angry alot, but only for a reason. and when he asks why i am i dont answer because theres no point
i know what he'll say
aww poor you
poor amy
and i'm sorry but it doesnt help one little bit.
i can't but get mad, because he does some real stupid things sometimes that really p*** me off, and he shoudn't be thinking about me getting angry about them, he should be thankful i'm so bloody forgiving

can you help, i'm unsure what to do about all this
to be mad at his post
understanding or just to ignore it?

o sorri jus seen the second bit - he really needs to talk to you about it. What would you prefer happened about it? Would you prefer a break? or would you prefer to talk things through with him because I think you both need to.

like you said its a lack of communication and thats neva good in a relationship. Maybe hes gone to strangers coz he feels thats a safer way of going through it, to protect things?

i know we both need too
but, when we talk to each other about things like this it just gets worse
i'll get angry and yell at him
he'll get mad at me being angry at him.
he'll probably say sorry but after the amount of times i've heard that F****** WORD from it will mean bloody nothing. and in the end, it just works it self out to getting a worser problem

what do you argue about? and why do you feel you have to shout. Do you really think the long distance is working because that might be why your both getting annoyed - You could both be gettin frustrated at the distance and its not workin properly. :S

good point but i dont think it's that

i get angry at alot of things with him

and if i ever did want to end it i dont think i could because last time i did he cut his arm and sent me a picture of it

o dear :S well maybe you shud at least try and tlk things thru and if that doesnt work, suggest a short break jus 2 sort things out between yourselves 1st. Do you like him as much as he likes you?

I can honestly say I don’t know.
I would probably think him like me, but then if he liked me more he wouldn't of done some of the things to me that i would never to do him

like what?

*pulls out list*
when we first started going out he kissed another girl on holiday
he made up having a fake twin
so the twin had a car crash to explain why he hadn't spoken to me when really he went on holdau for a week
made up all sorts of shit about operations, some of it was truth but very little
said his father batters the shit out of him (not sure if that is true or not)
went out with another girl on the net because she said she loved him and would cut her arms or something if he didnt
and a few times i made a secret account on things like neopets and faceparty pretending to be some girl who likes him and everytime he's flirted with them.
trust me, this list goes on for awhile

Most of it is the past, but it doesn’t change the fact it was done.

this isn't just about the post he put up, that i can get over

but on the other hand, i'm sure he has a few complaints about me

All these things sound as though he's lookin for attention or sympathy...maybe you should ask him about them?

he said he was insecure, but i dont know why he would be

people have their reasons for being insecure - maybe hes been let down by girlfriends/friends before and wants to know you're there 2 support him?

hmm maybe, thank you for your help, i'll sort the rest out with him
thanks again
xoxox

its ok xXx

Honey,
1st point him cutting himsealf to get you back is bull.
2nd point if hes looking, do the same. make it open and honist.
3ed point If your looking to brake up make it seem like it was his idea.... That way point #1 don't happen again.
4th point If hes not honest with you wheres the relationship going?

You are young and don't have any kids in the mix. Is it worth it to keep him around?

At your age I was dating 3 or 4 guys at a time not sleeping with any of them. I didn't call any of them my boyfriends eather. They all knew I was dating others as well.

Sorry I'm realy not much help.