Abused

Hi everyone i know how bad some of ppls topics in here r but i just wanted some advice and help. Ive been raped 4 times once when i was 12 by my dads boss and 3 times by a family member and he sexually and physically abused me for 6 mths ive left home and now its to much to deal with friends hav adviced me to c a counsellor and i hav an appointment friday but i dont hav any confidence that it wil work i also cut and i just cant stop crying and i seriously feel like giving up if you hav any advice pls let me no asap

Hey, I can kind of relate to you. I haven't been raped, but my dad does beat me. Bob is right... file a police report, but at the same time please do see the counselor... it may help. Just go in with a positive feeling... thinking that it will work for the better.

Good Luck ~ Tina

A lot of people in here are going to tell you not to see a counselor and that they don't work but that all depends on you.

If I was you, I would go to both, just like Tina has said. Tell the police about it. It will help you out a lot. If you don't want to tell on your dad, at least tell them about your dads boss. If you can at least get one thing out of your head, then the others will slowly start to work there way out as well.

If you dont want to tell on the family members, then I really think that the best thing to do is to stay away from your home, and don't go back unless you can take someone with you.

But do go to the counselor because it will help to talk to someone about it, that can maybe help you get more help.

It all depends on your mind set though. Don't let anyone talk you out of it. You really need to give it a try.

Good luck sweetie.

thank you heaps i saw the counsellor and im going to keep going its so hard though i just wish it was easier thanks heaps for all your advice but i cant go to the police im not that strong and the rest of my family dont know

Talking about it is great....good job. If you keep talking about it, you will get stronger.

My family doesn't know about me either. Only my mom knows because we went to court and all that. I think that my dad MIGHT know, but he's never told me that he does.

And yes, even after this long, you can go to the police. If the guy doesn't tell them that he did it, then they really can't do anything, but if they can get a confession out of him, then yeah...they can do a lot.

I don't think that counsellors are that good, they don't know you well, the only bit of you which they see is the one which you show them, so I think that you should talk to someone who is very close to you and knows you 100%

It is great to get some advice since my mind is going crazy i think if i get stronger and after counselling i mite be able to talk to the police all i know is i dont want them to win and feel they hav and jenny thank you i still mite keep seeing a counsellor but i see your point on talking to someone closest to you i hav just started talking to my bestfriend i just dont want to put a strain on him

Brandi is your profile up to date r u really 11 i just cant believe all the pain and the age of some people thank u so much im seeing a counsellor but i just wish it made it feel abit better and it doesnt and i cant help getting upset and i saw a girl yesterday and she was so angry i dont want that to happen to me and i dont want to burden my friends i live with them and i feel their the only ones who care and i know giving up is the easy way out but i just feel like im failing and falling apart I HATE HIM my dad is an arsehole and i stil hav to c him and deal with him at least once a month when does it get easier?

i just changed my profile from sarah to heart in pain