i need help with my jealousy

i have this big issue with jealousy. i never was like this with any other boyfriend. now i am engaged and i am on him like white on rice. i know that if i keep this up i could lose him and i dont want that. can someone help me. he is so good to me. i get mad at magazines, tv, everything. i know i'm not ugly but when he looks at a magazine where the girl is dressed a little loose i get all bent out of shape. also he has this foot fetish and if he glances at a girls feet when we're out together i freak out.it's just getting worse can someone help???

Have you tried talking to him about your little insecurity? Maybe if you were to talk to him about it, and he were to explain why he looks, you could get over it. Also, getting jealous over magazines and tv is a little overkill (unless it becomes a fixation with porn or something). You need to talk with your fiance and work on your trust issues with him. If you were to trust your fiance's ability to resist temptation, you would soon loose your jealousy because it is born from insecurity and mistrust. Sorry if this comes off a bit harsh.

Best of luck

Timothy Bledsoe

You obviously dont trust him if you are acting like that. That's the impression you give him, and quite honestly that's the truth. If you trusted in his love for you, his dedication, and his word, this would not be a problem.

It doesnt matter that he is your fiance, he is a living breathing man with a dick. Just because you are engaged doesnt mean that he doesnt have eyes. He LOVES you, that's something that no other girl has, anyone can be a supermodel. It's much more attractive when a girl can say "that girl's beautiful" or "that girl's hot" than cop a jealous attitude and freak out, when EVERYONE in the damn room knows that girl is fine!!! Seriously, it's ridiculous that girls get like this.

You either trust him or you dont. You need to ask yourself why you dont trust him. It shouldnt matter how beautiful or sexy another girl is, if he loves you and is dedicated, he wont wander. That doesnt take away from the fact that other girls have feet and he looks at them.

there is nothing wrong with beeing jealous. Just dint hurt anyone

thats the thing i am hurting him.i make him feel like shit everytime. and the thing is i know that he is faithful. i guess i am just making him pay for my past relationships (i've been hurt a lot) i feel so bad. thanks for all your responses

i need some more feedback!!!

As I said before, talk to him. Tell him about your insecurity. Tell him about your past. Serious couples should know each other and their pasts. Make him understand that you need to feel appreciated. When you talk to him, don't get defensive or aggressive, just talk to him. You need to trust him. If you truly thought that he would be faithful, you wouldn't be at all jealous. Plus, speaking from a guys standpoint, There is no way he will ever get over looking at other women. It's just not probable. But if he cares about you, loves you, he will not stray. You need to understand that we men will always look, but if we love some one, we will not touch (in most cases).

thanks...i really have tried that and then i'll be okay for a while and then something will set me off. he has a book that he made with celebs and porno and he wants to publish it. it's really creative but i feel like i'm in competition with it. also he wants to be an actor and i dont know what i am going ot do if he has to kiss another girl. fake or not i would still be jealous. is it worth staying together?

If you're really starting to get that jealous of pictures and such, then you really do need to talk to him. You said you guys are getting married? I think I read that in this thread....just remember that he wants you. He has hormones, and he's going to look at other girls.

If he's really into the porno thing, try to spice up the bedroom a little....IF you guys are doing stuff. If not, then just tell him that you are feeling really uncomfortable about it and find out if there is anything that you can do.

I hate when I see my boyfriend look at another girl, and he's a lot in swimsuites. He's a lifeguard....I hate it because I never know if he's talking about a hot girl behind my back because I know that I'm not that attractive, but he tells me everyday about how much he loves me and how when he does look at another girl, he compairs them to me, and always thinks about me. I don't know if he's just being a guy, but when he tells me, and I look in his eyes, I know that he's telling the truth. Maybe your guy is doing somewhat of the same thing.

Just talk to him. That's really the best you can do.

thanks guys you have no idea how much this is helping me. i really needed some advice from neutral people