I need so much help right now, please...

Have you tried telling them what you have told us? If not, that should be your first course of action.

I'm sorry. I really don't know what to say. I've never had to go through that sort of thing. Maybe you could try to write them each a letter telling them the way you feel, what you want, what you see, everything, and put them in places that they will be sure to find. Maybe if they see it in writing, and I mean handwritten, not typed, it will have more of an impact on them. It's just a suggestion.

Well, all I can say is to talk to them again and don't let it end with a "We love you no matter what happens." I'm sorry I don't have any better suggestions.

The biggest cause of second divorcces are....

Kids.

You are adding stress to their relationship that isnt necessary. I dont want to sound harsh when I say this, because I am saying it in the sweetest and best intended way possible, but you need to grow up and realize that resenting the fact your family isnt together anymore isnt going to FIX it or get your parents back together, plus it sounds like your dad wasnt a great parent anyway.

You are angry, and that's understandable, but resentment is like taking poison in hopes your enemy will die, you are hurting YOU first and foremost, and then their relationship. You have to try your best to move on and be alright with the situation, make the most of it, because you cannot change it.

You should write him a letter telling him how much you appreciate him. Tell him that you know you've been mean, but that you really do care for him and appreciate his efforts. Basically say what you said in this post, that you fear his leaving because your mom will be unhappy, and that you do look at him and his kids as your family, etc. It will mean the world to him.

My parents are 2 years into their divorce and it still hasnt been settled, but my dad has had a girlfriend for 2 years, she has lived with us for a year and a half. This whole ordeal of my very dysfunctional family is a very long story, so I will sum it up to the fact that I went through a little stage of rebellion against my dads girlfriend, but after a few weeks came to realize that their relationship was none of my business and I wanted my dad happy.