Friends with Benefits

ok here's my problem... i went out with this guy last year we dated for about three weeks... since then i've liked him off and on and i really like him right now... and we've been talkin on the phone alot lately and haveing really indepth conversations about alot of stuff including what we would do if we were dating someone ie: our dating standards how far we would go makin out touching that kind of stuff and well last night i was babysitting and he called me and we were talkin and the 5 yr old beat me in sum game and i was like i suck and he was like oh really and then that led to another converastion, and we ended up talkin about if i would give a guy a bj and that kind of stuff which led to friends with benefits and from our conversation i concluded that he wanted to be friends with benefits which is driving me crazy.... i really like this guy and it seems like all he wants is the fun w/o commitment what should i do... i was starting to think that if i did come fwb with the guy then i could change his mind and he would want to date me but i also started to think that it would make me look easy. what do i do... im so confused

Ohhh...no. I was friends with benefits with this guy a couple of months ago. You want to not like him, but you might end up doing so. THen, he might get a girlfriend and you will be upset. DOn't do it. You can make out or as you put "do stuff" like one or twice, but don't make it a consisten thing. It sucks when it ends not because of you.

I know the grammar in that paragraph sucked, but I am trying to make a point here.

i know that's the thing.... i really like this guy already and i jus dont know what to do.... i was thinkin that maybe if i did it, it would change his mind and he would want to date me... stupid yes but i really like this guy alot.

i hate the friends with benifits thing. it just gets me into a whole emotional mess. if anything i think you should try not to do those things with him cause if he decides to go for another chick,( which most guys who dont like committment do) you'll be hurt even more then you would be. fuck em.

*hope it was some help* [[samz]]

Becoming friends with benifits with someone you truely like is the worst thing you can do. Your situation sounds so much like mine awhile ago. Honestly, try to move on. I know you're going to ignore me saying that but since ur fwb with him he's not going to want to go out with you. He'll be thinking, why go out with you when he can already do stuff with you.

Theres really no hope for the situation. Prepare yourself to be without him.

OMG I HATE HIM SO MUCH HE'S A FIGGIN QUEER!!!! He texted me and was like we should jus be friends ok it wont work... then i tried to call him and his friend answered and made up sum lame excuse and hung up on me.... we were all suposed to hang out tonight but i got left out.... i hate him so much i hate myself why do i set myself up for hurt with him am i that stupid why do i do it....

STAY AWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY FROM FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS ITS A FREEKIN RECIPE FOR DISASTER. sorry for caps. but i cant stress enuff what a big NO NO it is. btw losing to a 5 year old you do such haha jk srry. neway you will end up falling for him and then he will tell you that he is not looking for a relationship and then you'll be heartbroken but you'll still do the stuff becuase you love him and want to keep him any way you can and then your best friend will confess her love to him and they will start going out oh wait no that last 2 parts was me. but as you can see its possible. just dont im tellin yuh. its disaster. you dont need to get a man that way anyway, if he wants you he will go out with you for YOU no other reason.
~Freak~

by the way...yea i didnt really read that last post haha sorry. btw that guy is an azz but you made the right decision. if he can't settle for that then guess who the loser is? HIM.
~Freak~

benEfits, people, with an "e".

As for him, Kia, forget about him...he's obviously an asshole and not worth caring about.