Friends with Benefits

ok here's my problem... i went out with this guy last year we dated for about three weeks... since then i've liked him off and on and i really like him right now... and we've been talkin on the phone alot lately and haveing really indepth conversations about alot of stuff including what we would do if we were dating someone ie: our dating standards how far we would go makin out touching that kind of stuff and well last night i was babysitting and he called me and we were talkin and the 5 yr old beat me in sum game and i was like i suck and he was like oh really and then that led to another converastion, and we ended up talkin about if i would give a guy a bj and that kind of stuff which led to friends with benefits and from our conversation i concluded that he wanted to be friends with benefits which is driving me crazy.... i really like this guy and it seems like all he wants is the fun w/o commitment what should i do... i was starting to think that if i did come fwb with the guy then i could change his mind and he would want to date me but i also started to think that it would make me look easy. what do i do... im so confused

if you were really okay with the friends with benefits thing then i would tell you to def go with it. but you're obviously not really and truely ok with it. you cant go in to this counting on the thought of changing his mind. i mean it could happen, but dont put your money on it, it's like the old saying goes, "why would you go and buy the cow if you're getting the milk for free?" it's really true, make him want all of you, not just the physical part!! good luck!

I've sort of been in the same situation as you, before... It's difficult i guess because you think that if you don't do the FWB thing, then you miss ou, but it shouldn't be like that anyway! If he's just after a bit of action from you then he's taking advantage of you. He must obviously realise that you have feelings for him, otherwise he would'nt have suggested it. My advice is to not go for it. It'll only hurt you, and i really believe that he wont change his mind about being in a relationship with you, if you give in to him.