Is this the only way?

My dad hits me, well yeah that may seem very straight to the pointish but like yeah i no its not right but im used to it. Over the past 6 months its got worse, hes left me with bruises and at one point i was sick because of the sheer shock of it. Because of him and some other family problems i cut myself. I no this isnt the only way to deal with my problems, but when i do it i feel so much better, like all the anger and pain that is inside me is getting out. I really don't no why my dad hits me, i think im not a good enought person and i no im totally pathetic but like to be honest why should i have to put up with this?

Leah, you're just like me. My dad used to beat me as well. I've been beaten since I was 10 years old. I put up with it, and when I was 13, he just walked out on us. Now, I'm 16 and he had just recently walked back into our home. He beat me every single day, and he always left me with bruises. After almost 2 months of numerous beatings, I just couldn't take it anymore. I was so afraid of being beat to the point where I would die from the amount of physical pain. I posted in this forum as well, asking for some advice from people about what I can do. Everyone told me to tell my mom, but I really doubted that would work because my mother and I don't have a great relationship. So, people told me that I should file a police report. I was too afraid to do anything like that. I was afraid of my dad finding out and then he would beat me, or probably even kill me. So I took the chances and told my mom, showed her the bruises and to my surprise, she began to cry. She confessed that my dad had also beat her a few times, but never to the point where she would have bruises. Me on the other hand, I was covered in bruises. After I told my mom, we tried to figure out what we can do, and we both knew that whatever we did we had to be very careful not to reveal it to my dad. One day, my mom left the house to go to the store, but in reality she really went to the police station and filed a police report. She brought back a few policemen and they took my dad away. We were scheduled a court date to testify for my dad beating me. We went to court and they asked me so many questions, I even had to show my bruises... so they also saw all my cuts on my arm (which I also cut because of my dad beating me and other problems). My dad was found guilty and sent to prison. He has 20 years in prison... and I must say, I'm happier than ever before.

So, the best advice I can give you is tell your mother. If that doesn't work, then don't be afraid to file a police report, or tell someone you really trust and go with them to file a police report. The law will deal with him the way he should be dealt with. Nobody deserves to be abused. Not me, not you, not anyone!

Leah, I know exactly how you feel right now, and I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Hang in there Leah, and please, try to stop cutting. Gather up the courage, and please stop cutting and do something about your dad.

If you ever need to talk, feel free to e-mail me. My private contact is available.

~ Tina

Hey Tina, Thanx for that reply. So many people have told me to tell my mum but its hard. My mums in hospital, a physicartic (sp?) hospital. I cant tell her, i dont wont her to worry and have more pressure put on her. I'm 13 now and this has been happening for a year, has got worse in the past 5-6 months. I'm covered in bruises to, people in pe ask questions i just walk away. I know i shouldnt cut myself but like this is my theropy. But like its not easy, i cant just stop. I don't no what to do anymore, i want to give up so much, i dont want him to know hes wont though because he has won. I cant carry on, im not strong enough, i cant put up with being beaten black and blue most days =[

I just dont no what to do anymore. Everyday im braking down more and more =[

Hey I know a thing or two about getting beat my dad use to beat me whenever he would get mad at me he still does sometimes.Then when my mom got drunk she'd do the same thing only a tad bit worse. If you need to talk i'm here for you girl my email address is armyfantic4u@yahoo.com P.S. I cut too cause of family problems also.