How do you hide...

My best friend just got a new boyfriend and she's completely left our group for him. She barely even acknowledges us anymore and she ALWAYS does this when she has new boyfriend.

I feel really left out because she makes plans with him and his friends and doesn't tell me ANYTHING anymore not to mention, I'm a little jealous that she has someone and I don't.

I want to be happy for her, I really do but its hurting me that she abandoned me just 'cuz she got a boyfriend. I've never done that to her! How do I hide my annoyance and jealousy? I don't want her to be mad at me.

Jackie...i feel EXACTLY the same at the moment. Its horrible. And because i dont want to upset her im putting on a mask so she doesn't know im hurting so she will probably never find out! I know exactly how it feels. And I feel really left out too. They always have parties, a lot of the time at his and Im totally left out and then she tells me all about it the next day and I just put on this smile and show im "interested" when really, its tearing me apart. When she's with him its like I dont exist, and I try to put up with it but I know how hard it is. I want to be happy for her too but its so hard when it's hurting me so much. People always say friends come before boys but when it comes down to it...that rarely happens.

i think nada's rite. plus not in a mean way or anything but if she does this so much u're gonna have to get used to it. and accept it. becuz she's ur friend and if she treats that way SO much u're gonna have to put a stand to it. talk to her abt it. becuz the way i see it she's hurting u...and wat kind of friend hurts their friend?...just talk to her. see wat happens

Thing is though, I think in both our situations our friends can't see they're hurting us. And I'm sure you've heard the quote "It takes a lot to stand uo to your enemys. It takes even more to stand up to your friends" I just can't stand up to her and say anything. I have a difficult past with standing up to people and I havn't got the strength anymore. Besides, I've already tried it once and it didnt go too well so I don't want to risk our friendship again, I depend on her too much.

Yeah. I don't want to say anything to her. I think that next time I get a boyfriend, I won't even tell her. I forgot to mention that. She didn't even freaking tell me. I had to hear it from the school gossip! I was gonna tell the gossip queen to check her facts before spreading crap about my friends and then I found out it was true! I'm more angry than hurt now actually. Well about 60% angry, 40%hurt.

Okay well are you jealous of your friend spending all her time with someone else, or jealous you don't have a boyfriend yourself? Sounds to me jealousy is the key feeling here. A friend, I mean a true friend understands your growing up and starting a relationship with a man. You are there whether the relationship falls or lasts forever, thats what friendship is truly about, picking up the pieces when everything turns into a mess and supporting your friends decisions even when it hurts you and her .... just a suggestion :o)

Like I said before, I'm jealous but I'm also hurt that jsut because she has a boyfriend, she just completely forgotten about us. I mean, we were there when she was alone, we were there when she broke up with her ex and now that she's with this guy, she barely says hi to us and didn't even tell us they were together now.

I mean, what the hell kind of best friend does that?! When I had my boyfriend, I went out of my way to include her because I know that friends always come first. We supported her when she had an a**hole boyfriend that emotionally bullied her. we told her she was too good for him and she was all, 'let's give him another chance' . We were there before this new guy came and we'll be there when he leaves. The least she can do is say hello to us every once in awhile.