Too Sympathetic

I have to say I'm the most sympathetic person that I know. I value friends more than anything, and I'm always trying to fix problems. I LOVE helping others, and I think i give good advice.

My friend just got dumped by her former boyfriend of 7 months, and have been best friends for 14 years. Shes taking it really hard, and I feel like i am also for some reason. I tend to seek for other peoples pain, and try to take it away.
I always end up getting twisted up in other peoples problems, and at times it just sucks.
When i feel like I have failed to help my friends, i take it out on my self pretty hard..

I feel like I'm too Sympathetic at times.. how can i stop this.. i dont want to feel this way anymore, but still help others...

I think I'm pretty much the same but In a way its a good thing. It just shows you love your friends so much. You know that youll always be their friend and i bet anything, she values you more than you will ever know. Try to balance out helping your friends and your self. always make sure your ok first.

Bunny

I think that is a good quality to have but you shouldn't get so wrapped up in everyone's problems. Pull yourself away just a little bit. A break up, I think, is something someone has to deal with alone. It's good to have a friend be there for you and talk to you but you kind of have to deal with it by yourself. Just don't get so mixed up. Don't take it hard on yourself either that's a good thing to have....you seem like a great friend.

I have to say i'm a very good listening, and well i'm the "mom" in my groups of friends, i dont mind giving advice, it just bothers me when i cant find a way to help.. i LOVE helping others, becuase it makes me feel good, that i have done something that helped someonelse... I think i just need to balance the pampering of others, and pampering to myself... even if thats just a relaxation day, becuase i do admit i'm spolied.. so that wouldnt do much to go out and buy a new something..

Thanks for everyones good advice, it was very much helpful!