OLDER GUYS!!!...............

When I was 15 I dated a guy that was 24. It turned out horribly. He used me, beat the crap out of me and then tried to kill me because I broke up with him.

You need to ask yourself what you and this person have in common. Alot of older guys date younger girls because they are vulnerable and they can make them do whatever they want. Most of the time its just about sex.

I don't know this guy so I can't really judge him or his intentions. But if you decide to do it, be careful.

Oh yeah and its illegal if your under 18 and hes over.

Im 21 now, the guy Im dating is 29 and he puts alot of pressure on me to settle down and stuff like that. So just be prepared.

Its not illegal if you are under 18 and he is over 18 unless you sleep with him. It's 16 here in Scotland.

the guy im kinda..."with" rihgt now is 20 turing 21 on decomber 26th adn im 15....but hes also still in school......(Don't Ask) he is amazing.! and he totally knows what im going through he knows that im not ready for sex. and he doesn''t presure me. he knows what i want and he is willing to risk everything to be with me.

age shouldn't matter..

If you think that you being 15 and him being 24 will work then fine. Go for it. But if you guys think about having sex...that's a big no no.

He'll go to jail for child molestation and statatory (sp) rape even if you tell him it's ok. I'm a criminal justice major so I know what I'm talking about for the most part. If you don't believe me then I'll give you the direct quote from my books.

He failed....thats why hes still in school..no thats not what i was tlkaing about wheni said he was amazing. he is just the kind of guy i can tell anything to and he keeps his mouth shut.

when I was like 14 I date a guy that was 23 , and it only lasted 5 months then now a few months later I started dating this guy that was 19 now he's 20 but anyways we are enaged now. Plus I don't know about any of you but older guys seem more mature but thats just we talkin I can't speak the same for the rest of you.

Wait how old are you??????^^^^

I'm 15, and a guy for starters.

I seriously doubt a guy of 20+ Intentions when with a girl under 16, even if they don't pressure etc...i can only see one gain (No matter how much of a cool amazing person you may be) and that is sex.

Just my thoughts...but i've seen enough girls been targetted and used like that.

sorry to say it but not all guys only want sex. and me adn my guy arer on the same level. im 15 hes 20 turning 21 in Decemeber.

if u were askin how old I was Meagan i'm 15 going on 16. So I know where your coming from.

the oldest i have dated is 18 and i was 14....yeah it didn't work out at all. He just wanted to get me in bed....well he didn't get it too bad for him. But right now i am wiht a 17 year old and I am 15. And we love each other. he's so sweet. *sigh

Missin you are an idiot and I can't find the words to decribe how stupid you sound right now. Get a grip. He doesn't "LIKE" you. He'll use you...and then throw you out. Trash day isn't far away.

Natalie is right ONE TIME but she still said it in the wrong manner. No you shouldnt do this, he is way too old for you, and this is a crime. correct me if I'm wrong? So find someone within 2-3 years above or below at most. and just because you are switching school, doesnt mean no one will find out. Natalie have some fucking sensitivity in one forum, I have yet to see that

And you won't....sorry.

Next....

so why do you post?

Because I can. There is not a law stating you have to show compassion.

No but there are the feelings of others

TO ALL PEOPLE WHO ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH AN OLDER PERSON:

I know it's fun to have someone dangling on the end of your every line (especially if their older), but try telling them "NO" for a change. Just once. Their reaction will tell you all you need to know about their character. Mature people will respect your decision.

The rest...well I knew a girl who dated a guy 2+ years, had sex with him repeatedly, he cheated on her repeatedly, she dumped him repeatedly, the final straw was him breaking into her apartment, but their still friends... ...and my best friend gave her slacker husband 7 yrs older (but she was 18 when she met him and they dated for 3 yrs) a separation notice since a condition of their marriage was that he would pay for her to go to college, but he lost his job and that didn't happen, and remained in a constant state of denial and depression, when he got the notice, he ran up her phone bill $1000+ and hooked up right away with another woman...I had a May December "thing" with a married guy, but when I came to my senses and ended it, my mom said I had to tell his wife, when I confronted them, he denied everything, she stood up for him, then he, always needing to have the final say, threatened to take me to court for the false accusation, the last time I saw him, he was buying comics and he waved to me, I thew up in my mouth a little...

Of course, not everybody is going to use you. There are decent people who if you say, "you know, this really isn't my thing..." won't turn into total psychoes. Sometimes it's relative too.

The first guy above dated me at one of the moments she was broken up or he was cheating on her. but I finally said no to any kind of casual thing, and he just sank into a total depression. I don't know what the difference was, maybe he didn't "like" me as much as I or him thought. but then, our relationship was built on respect (and unlike his g/f, I didn't go all the way), so that could've been a factor. I don't know. His reaction threw me and will often make me think of going back to him, b/c I don't like being cold. but then I remember character flaws, inferiority complexes, and I think, he wants somebody to take care of him. and I don't want to control people.

I already played mother to a 23 year old when I was 19 because while a generally good person, he was an addict the other half of the time.

He's complicated. His g/f was the same age as me, and when I talked to her, seemed a lot like me too, and more attractive, so I was always wondering, what was the problem?

Abstenence before marriage is probably a good thing. But you don't have to be abrasive to say so. You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.