I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!! PLEASE HELP ME!!

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    Ok so ive liked this guy for 8 months right and i talk to him everyday! We talk about EVERYTHING and ANYTHING! We planned our marraige, our kids, our lives as adults, and even losing our virginity together. I think i might be in love with him. The thing is he wont answer me about us dating until school starts back up again and he said that he cant give me a positive answer cuz he might not go out with me but then again he said he would deffinately think about. So the problem is, this other guy has liked me for 2 years that i just found out about now and i kinda like him too. So should i wait and see about the guy i think im in love with or should i let him think about it while i date the other guy who has like me for 2 years? please help me!!!!

  • squirttt
    19 years ago

    ash, i have to say, it kinda sounds like the guy that you really like that wont give you a definite answer is lookin for reasons to wait and stuff. when people let it linger on like that, it usually ends up negative and stuff. dont wait for someone who wont wait for you.. you know how it is. i think he doesnt want to, that's why he's letting it go on like that. but with the other guy who's liked you for 2 years, think.. ash, if you dont really want to be with him, dont. if you do, then totally go for it. good luck with it all!!

  • ღ Christina ღ
    19 years ago

    dont wait for sum1 especially if they cant wait for you! dont waste ur time cuz life is short! Go out with that other guy! ♥

  • Lovemylove
    19 years ago

    Ashley, if its meant to be hun its worth the wait but just ask yourself, is he really worth it? I don't know how close your two are but. It seems to me that he aint going to wait for you. he's just going to end up breaking your heart in the end. And girl you don't need that I don't know if I sound cruel or not but I'm just trying to save you the heart break I can't compelty stop the hurt but I hope to soften it some. If you ever need to talk email me at armyfantic4u@yahoo.com

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    Thanks guys for helping me out but i am still comfused and dont know what to do. My heart tells me to wait until the one i love comes around and wants to date and my mind tells me i should give this other guy a chance. So what should i do, listen to my heart or my mind?

  • 6 A M
    19 years ago

    "Love wont wait for you, Dont wait for love"

  • Megan
    19 years ago

    Good answer...^^^^ Totally true. dont hold onto a dream that may never come true

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    OK so i took all of your advice and im going out with the guy who likes me. I was having a conversation with the guy i love and i asked him how he usually breaks up with girls...he told me his answer then replied..." Are you trying to figure out what you can say to your boyfriend when i suddelny ask you out and you have to dump him" What is that suppose to mean? Will he asked me out? and everytime im with my boyfriend i cant help but think about the guy that i love i feel really guilty what should i do?

  • star
    19 years ago

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  • chuk
    19 years ago

    ok here is a responce from a guy who listened million of stories like this and has a lot of experence with this ,(gone thu it with my life ) the guy that u like so much is the one who is just lost ,he likes u i bet he does and he doesnt wanna loose u ,but (always BUT) there is someone else in his life that he is planning to start relationship with ,or just wanna give it a shot ,but he doesnt say no to you so if its not gonna work out between him and someone else he might like more than you.then he will say yes to you and will go out with you ,my advice the guy you like is cool i guess if he is nice but he is not the one u should be seeking for in your life, o with a guy who likes u for 2 years and give it a shot ,but wath out 2 years long time ,dont break his heart ,broken heart can bring a lot of pain also

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    thanks chuk your awesome...so the guy im going out with barely talks to me hes so shy and everytime he talks to me he doesnt talk to my face he talks to my boobs!! Do all guys do that? Is that a good thing or a bad thing? or what? So the guy that i like we have had sleep overs together with like 2 other friends and we stay up together all night and in the morning just talking! idk what to do. i talked to my boyfriend before we went out to let him know about the guy i like and he still said he wanted to go out so if i break up with him for the guy i like its not like he didnt know right? or is that still wrong?

  • chuk
    19 years ago

    hold on 1st 4 lines i got u ,about the boobs ,something girlz gotta get over with ,we guys dont have boobs ,therefore seeeing someoen who has them (girlz :P ) is something we like to explore and we cannot do anything about it ,and also if the guy talks to your boobs all the time not to your face , then u know whats in his mind . i will not say it but u should undestand it .then the last 4 lines about your bf talking to you or whoever it was i didnt get at all ,clear the picture out for me couse u said so much in the end u got me confused

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    Ok before i went out with the guy who likes me i told him that i did like someone else. So if i happen to break up with him because of the guy i like he knew that it might happen. But is that still wrong? Its not like i hiding it from my bf that i like someone else he knows. And my bf never talks to me at school and when he does its so short and dumb stuff like idk what to say and stuff and i cant have the conversation all by myself. So what should i do about that the only time he talks to me is online and thats about it.

  • chuk
    19 years ago

    lmao what kind of bf is that? is he like 12 i say he is 100% immature and still watches scooby doo every day ,i say the "fake" bf u got right now is someone who just needs u for a show off ,he is still a kid that just sees that everyone else looking cool being with a gf so he does the same ,but inside his relationship with you is nothing ,i am not gonna say that u should leave your bf but hey if u like it to continue the same BS way then go head stay with him ,i wouldnt do it just a waste of time and nervs,give a shot to the other guy u like and he likes u too .if u happen to brake up with your kid bf, then next step will be .TIME dont rush things with the new guy,see him from a side maybe he is liek your bf hehe ,but let him know that u will eb making the steps in relationship not him,so u will always think about everything and make less mistakes in the future ,well goodluck

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    Chuk you are so awesome i love you! Thanks for the advice youre the greatest!!! I totally know what u r saying! Thank you so much... but how do i break up with my bf without making him feel bad ps. his b-day is on thursday the 9th! What do i say to not feel like a total bitch? O yeah and we had a promotion party thingy and he didnt say one word to me even when i was standing by him what a loser! and other guys came up to me to take pictures with them and he didnt say or do anything about it!!

  • Val Weaver
    19 years ago

    hunny if he has liked u for that long then he should answer u! sorry but its the truth. hope things go well! xoxoxo Val

  • chuk
    19 years ago

    this is where i might be not so helpful as i dont know the feelings of your bf,and i really had difficulties with breaking up with girls .so i say since his bd is coming its better break up after few days of his bd ,just start talking to him about his feelings toward you ,say that our relationship not moving on further and getting worse ,he is cold to you and shit ,like use your words to explain what u feel and thats it i bet hel start bs about everything ,but u state what u want ,its break up and leave as a friends thats all

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    thanks so much you were a big help. I did break up with him and he was ok with it and actually he wants to wait for me till i want to go out with him again but i doubt i will. The only thing is, now how do i get the guy i like to come out and say what he feels or even ask me out?

  • chuk
    19 years ago

    wow, this is getting more and more intresting ,u want me to plan your whole life for you ??.hehe. this is all up to you ,he will know that u broke up with your bf soon enough ,then do it like we all do, a smile,eyes,walk near him and say hi ,w.e i am not a girl to teach u how to do all this u should know better,find a way to talk to him :P ( now i need a gf )

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    haha thanks... i doubt you will have trouble finding a gf..

  • chuk
    19 years ago

    ye but i dont like those that are around me ,most o them are #$#$@

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    hmm maybe i can help u with that... how old are you

  • chuk
    19 years ago

    18

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    nice

  • chuk
    19 years ago

    lol thanks a lot lmao

  • chuk
    19 years ago

    lol thanks a lot lmao that helped

  • chuk
    19 years ago

    oops posted 2 times ,sorry

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    lol ummm do u go for older or younger girls

  • chuk
    19 years ago

    i prefer same age ,but if she is a little bit younger its ok

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    what do u consider a little bit

  • chuk
    19 years ago

    a little bit shy ,honest ,and most important she must trust me just like i trust her ,without trust there is no relationship

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    u sound pretty hott to me im surprised you arent taken

  • chuk
    19 years ago

    hehe , i can be but i am not a guy who is gonna use a girl and then just get rid of her , thats why i am carefull when i say yes to a girl ,hehe i am not asking them they do

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    good to know

  • chuk
    19 years ago

    o well ,its not like u gonna tell me an address of a girls in my area to check out hehe ,thanks for the advice ,i am going to the movies now ,later and gl with your new guy

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    thanks youre great

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    and no worries you wont have trouble finding the right girl

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    Ok sorry to keep on bringing this topic up but ok so the guy that i like asked out another girl! Fortunately she said no but idk i feel terrible i thougt he kinda liked me.. so is he worth it? Does he even like me or is he just using me?

  • Ashley
    19 years ago

    does anybody have any ideas?

  • Ashli
    19 years ago

    ok personally i think he's using u...i read the stuff from the beginning, and i think he was just putting u off...i dunno...maybe im gettin things confused...