Parents Vs. Boyfriend...Please Help Me Out Here*

The guy im with is 20 and im 15..my parents first met him @ my party that i was having and they HATE him they can't STAND him for anything. they tell me that i can't hang out with him or anything like that so i told my parents that i told him that we can't talk anymore. they have ALITTLE more trust in me now but i NEED there trust back..and i just can't let go of this guy, he amazes me to the point were im like in Aww! he told me that we are in this thing together and if i get in trouble hes taking some of the blame to. hes the first thing in my life that has made me happy and have a smile on my face since my Grandfather died. everyone has seen it im soo happier now that im with him. and its soo hard to hear my parents talk bad things about him. they always ask me where im going adn if hes going to be there and half the time hes not! its soo hard its like

Me and my Boyfriend Vs. My Parents

Meg

Well well, here's another one of those love stories with someone a lot older...

The reason your parents don't like him is probably because of his age and because they think he'll use you, and maybe that's true. Maybe all he has in mind is to use you. Actually most men that like younger girls are like that; they like the girl's body. Your parents are trying to protect you, and even though it doesn't make you feel good when they talk bad stuff about him they care for you and love you.

You can be his friend, but no more than that is safe. Tell him that if you're ever going to get into a real relationship with him, he'll have to wait until you've atleast turned 18. And, by that time you'll have found out if he actually cares for you or not or if he just wants you for your body.

You must question the maturity of that 20 year old.

i beg to differ. my parents found out about my guy and they didnt like the idea at all. like yall are saying, they want to protect me. but you know.. truth is, parents cant protect you from everything. i'm doing fine with my guy right now. they can't choose who you can love and who you can't. they can warn you and all this good stuff, but choice is always on your side. if you have a feeling that your parents are right, then dont get involved with the guy any more than you already are. if you have a feeling that it may not be like what your parents think, then it only makes you stronger. have a long talk with your parents and put your foot down on what you believe. that's what i did and things are good now. they dont like it, but they need to accept it too. good luck.

a lot of people arent gonna agree with me, but hey, we all experience things differently.

The Maturity of this 20 year old is very high. he make me do something i wouldn't want to do. hes not that kind of guy i know that for a fact.

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he wouldn't make me do something i wouldn't want to do...*********

Believe that Megan when he fucks you tell me so I can laugh in your face.

Well... If you really love him and such, you can try to git yer parents to be impressed bout sumtim he does or his dreams and such, maybe his occupation (fyi: janitor, ain't one parents r ganna like) no offence to ya'll janitors =p. But, you can only do so much to convince your parents, they're quite stubborn at times =p.

Megan

You can't be sure he's not going to do something you don't want him to do just because he hasn't done it yet. At first he just wants your trust, right?

Heyy Ryan...FUCK YOU u don't even know him. he wouldn't do that i've known him forever im friends with his sisters and brother and cuzins. i knwo ALL of his ex girlfriends (half of them i don't like) but i know them.

Personally I think it's stupid to get into any relationship like that with a man who is an adult.

I hate to say it, but a lot of people are right here. Going out with someone *5* years older then you, is really wierd. By the time you can drive, he can drink. Think to your self, is he going to wait a few years before wanting to *ehem*? If not, he's going to rush you.

He told me that hes willing to wait forever. he knows im not ready for that i've told tim...and he understands that

I'm not sure there is much more here that I can add that will sound any different from what the others have posted. But I will say that your parents frustration comes from them worrying about your safety. Its a parents role to keep you safe and guide you through life until your old enough to guide your own life. And thats just what they are doing. They were teenagers once. And they too did things that their parents dissaproved of. Sometimes its just hard for a parent to realise that you can make your own decisions. They don't want you to get hurt and they don't want to see you get yourself into something that could end badly. They want to keep you sheltered from all the bad things in the world. They are on the outside looking in and all the see is their little girl (and I say little girl because parents often want to keep you little for as long as possible) being taken advantage of. And on the other hand you have gotten to know him and you have obviously liked what you've seen. You can't help how you feel. Whether your parents tell you not to talk to him or not your going to do what you feel is right. At some point what your parents say isn't going to be what you follow. If you feel in your heart and mind that being with him is right then thats what you have to do. ( of corse you should be cautious). No matter what anyone tells you you are going to do what you think is right. Your parents can not tell you how to feel that comes from you. They can only try and persuade you. Goodluck and be careful. And be sure you think of all the other guys you thought were sincere and decide if hes the real thing.

-BJ

Thank you soo much Bj...