Does he really love me, or is he playing games?

I have been with this guy for over a year and a half. The problem is he joined the marines right when he graduated high school, married his hs sweetheart and then got divorced. two months later he was with me (I thought they were seperated longer) The first 6 months things were really casual. We were barely more than friends. Then I found out he cheated, alot! I didn't see him for a little over a month and when I did, he told me he was in love with me, that when he cheated he hadn't really cared and he didn't know he loved me til he lost me. I have loved him since the first time I saw him and so I gave him a second chance. He was perfect, except I couldnt let go of the past. I constantly threw it in his face. So we broke up, during that time he slept with my ex-friend. he was completely honest about it. We wound up getting back together, even though we tried to not. Then he started talking about marriage and adopting my son. Well, he got freaked out because of his last marriage and told me he needed some time just to be sure. In that time he tried dating a girl, he saw her two times and he said it made him realize how wonderful I am and how much he wants and needs me in his life. He said it didn't matter how pretty or what kind of personality she had because she just wasn't me. He also told me that if he had met me 6 years ago instead of his first wife he would still be married and he wished it would have been me. He came back to me telling me he was ready to give me what I deserved and be the man he needs to be. Not even a month later, he started going out all the time, leaving me home so I left him. He says he does love me and he will show it to me one day. Any time I start to move on, even talking to guy friends, he pops back into my life, writing letters, calling, saying how much he loves me and is ready to be there. but it doesn't change, once I start being nice and letting him back in, he freaks out. I know it's not other girls, I check the phone bill (shared plan). It is really hard because we have almost all of the same friends (I have been hanging out with them less) I finally stopped talking to him altogether but we play volleyball together and he always tries to talk to me then. When I ignore him it's like he tries to make sure I hear that he is going out afterwards to this bar where girls dance in skirts and no panties on top of it. When I try calling him about things I need like money for the phone bill, or my stuff he still has, he won't answer. He is like a stranger to me now, I don't see how u can tell some one u love them and play with there hearts. Does he really love me and he is confused like he says, or is he ust playing a game, trying to keep me around til he finds something else. It has been 2 months now, and the way I feel is getting worse, not better. I know this is long, but I need some advice. I can't really ask my friends, cause they are his friends to and honestly I think there is stuff they aren't telling me. Please help!!

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