What went wrong?! PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Hey all i really need ur help. I have been with someone for over 9mo. now. i love him with all my heart. Well, this weekend i went out of town to visit some friends, well i met up with some old guy friends too, and there was this guy there (Mitch) that i used to be friends with since i was 4 but lost track after highschool started. Well, we started talking and at the end of the night, we slept together. I know that if i told my bf about this it would kill him and we wouldnt be together any more.I couldnt really blame him. He has done nothing wrong. I just dont know how this could happen. I really do love him, i dont know what i would do without him but i feel so bad not telling him.....please help! what should i do?

hey i know u girlz having problems to forgive a guy that cheates on you ,but as i know of our state of judgement ,guy that cheats is not normal but its still ok,girls that cheat ones on their bf will cheat again untill they learn some sort of lesson in their life,girl in our eyes becomes a whore as she sleeps with everyone.i do not know how is it happened that u slept with someoen else but if i with love comes a trust and forgiveness ,but when u loose trust u loose other thing .what were u thinking when u getting into a bed with someone else ? if u love your bf he would always be in your min dand heart ,but it didnt happen.i say its eather u dont know what love is ,and tell your bf everything or it will tear your soul apart ,trust me .and if he is loves u he will forgive you ,but love will fade away with time

i cant i just cant

I'd probably accept it and move on, be extremly hurt in the process mind you.

Truthfully, some things shouldn't be forgave...but i can understand why he would if he did, however, if you don't tell him now, and he finds out later somehow, he will be more hurt, far more hurt.

'Can't' Only exists physically, mentally pretty much anything is possible if you put yourself to it.

If you don't tell him, I'll find his email adress and tell him...

EOB:

That was funny.

hey girl i have to agree with everything everyone else is saying...uve got to tell him and the sooner the better before he finds out as this will humiliate him if he finds out of someone else. if u dont tell him the guilt is going to eat away at u and hell suspect somethings wrong anyway. u really blew ur bf trust and so i cant b the one who can tell u whether its going to work out or not. ur both guna have to be strong and ur got hell of a lot of grovelling to u! i hope he can find it in his heart to forgive u! best of luck...email me if u wana
take care
xxxLoUxxx

What went wrong???

okey, anyways,tell him, and at least prove that you are a great person...

If you don't tell him, you see, you are everything but a great person, and you can never blame anyone for betraying you...

sorry about that comment above, didn't mean to hurt you...but as i said..tell him..please...

Probably not easy, but honourable, at least...

im not sure how. its easy to say tell him but its hard to do it. but thanks for the apology. and i am sorry for the harsh letter earlier! thanks